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    Timeline


    2020
    • March 2020 - Ioan is filming Harrow in Australia. Alice demands the production team FedEx him back from filming as covid hit.
    • July 2020 - Ioan returns to Australia to finish filming. On X, Alice calls Ioan a "pussy", claiming he is too scared to use his platform to speak about politics.
    • August 2020 - Ioan returns to LA. He tells Alice he wants a divorce and that he no longer loves her.
    2021
    • 1 Jan 2021 - Ioan rents an apartment on 1 January but visits the family daily.
    • 25 Jan 2021 - Alice tweets that Ioan is "leaving his family".
    • February 2021 - Ioan tries to have a collaborative divorce. Alice makes a video calling it a 'scam'.
    • 1 March 2021 - Ioan files for divorce. The collaborative divorce talks have been abandoned.
    • March 2021 - Alice claims she found out that Ioan was starting divorce proceedings by reading about it on the internet, and she apparently shows her younger daughter a Daily Mail article about the divorce, thereby upsetting her.
    • June 2021 - Ioan and Bianca Wallace enter into an online relationship (as stated by Ioan in his sworn statement to the court regarding the DVRO application), after meeting on the set of ‘Harrow’ at the end of filming the last season in 2020.
    • September 2021 - Ioan invites Bianca to stay with him in France where he is filming "The Reunion". Alice finds out about Bianca after Tattlers worked out the link. Alice then phones Ioan from her daughter's phone, and says Bianca's full name. Ioan and Bianca move to officially announce their relationship with a post on their Instagram accounts. Alice later lies in her Daily Mail interview about how she found out about Bianca, claiming the first thing she knew about it was seeing the couple's Instagram post.
    • Nov 2021 - Ioan finishes filming and he and Bianca fly to LA, where they set up home together.
    • 11 Nov 2021 - Alice appears on Lorraine, a UK morning TV show, where she cries without tears and speaks of her shock at Ioan leaving. It later emerges that straight after the broadcast, she emailed him saying "Want more?" (see Ioan's DVRO application).
    • 11 Nov 2021 - Alice appears on Inside Edition, a US TV show for 1.5 minutes. Her marriage is described as "breaking up over Instagram". Alice cries without tears once more, and regarding Ioan's 'thank you for making me smile again' Instagram post, says "...and that killed my child, because my kids said 'don't I make him smile?'". Unlikely.
    • Nov 2021 - Alice's supporters create an Instagram group chat entitled "Bianca the Homewrecker," and add Bianca, her mother, sister and Alice to the chat. The FMs in the chat bombard Bianca and her family with vile insults, which causes Bianca to deactivate her social media for a time. Screenshots are posted below.
    2022
    • 10 Feb 2022 - Big E, hacks Ioan's public Instagram account. Alice also posts a screenshot of the hack with a suspicious comment, drawing attention to the slur, which makes Tattlers think she is involved.
    • 15 Feb 2022 - Ioan submits a 113 page document including abusive text messages, emails and social media posts from Alice as he applies for a temporary restraining order (TRO) against her, which was issued against her that day. [See below for document].
    • June 2022 - Alice sets up a Gofundme, claiming she has run out of money. Tattlers strongly suspect she did this to humiliate Ioan ahead of his appearance at the Monte Carlo TV Festival. It doesn't raise the $25k she had hoped for, but still gets over $6k which is a nice grift.
    • 2 Aug 2022 - The court grants Ioan and Bianca a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO) against Alice for three years.
    • Nov 2022 - Police visit Alice at her house. She calls it a "welfare check" and blames "internet trolls" for calling them to her home. It was later discovered that she had been arrested for breaching the DVRO.
    • Dec 2022 - Revealed by Alice via one of her sock accounts in spring 2023, she violated the DVRO by copying Ioan into an email to an auto insurer, falsely claiming she had no money to pay for the insurance.
    2023
    • 10 Jan 2023 - Police pass the information regarding Alice's breaking of the DVRO in December 2022 to the DA.
    • 26 Jan 2023 - Alice fails to show up to court regarding two charges of violating the DVRO. LA Superior Court Commissioner James Cooper issues a referral for an arrest warrant for her.
    • 30 Jan 2023 - Alice finally shows up to court regarding two charges of violating the DVRO. The charges were later dropped, probably as it was a non-violent first offence.
    • March/April 2023 - The marital home is finally sold, with Ioan and Alice both receiving money from its sale.
    • 22 April 2023 - Bianca and Ioan appear on the cover of the Telegraph magazine, speaking about their love and Bianca's battle with MS.
    • 27 May 2023 - The two children have pre arranged visitation with Ioan. When they go to his flat, mayhem ensues and the children run away. This leads to a fake restraining order request from Ella. [See below]
    • 30 May 2023 - October 2023 - Multiple Twitter accounts spring up, accusing Ioan and Bianca of abuse and throwing other insults and defamatory comments at them. Alice is behind the accounts, as the accounts interact with "Tone", write mostly in Alice's style, and know information only Alice would know. Alice also fires her fourth lawyer, Marie, which doesn't seem to be a coincidence. Marie gives the unspent fees to Alice and not to Ioan as she should have.
    • 31 May 2023 - Big E files for a temporary restraining order (TRO) against Ioan and Bianca, alleging she was assaulted by Bianca at Ioan's flat. The TRO is dismissed.
    • 2 June 2023 - Alice's friend Alison Boshoff writes a front page exclusive in the Daily Mail about the TRO sought by Big E. This coincides with an MS charity gala and Bianca and Ioan were supposed to attend. For obvious reasons, they pull out. Tattlers think the timing of this is not coincidental, a theory given more weight by this post.
    • 17 June 2023 - Alice and Big E appear in a story in the Daily Mail, in a pap walk clearly arranged by Alice.
    • 23 June 2023 - Ella's CHRO request against Bianca is dismissed. Bianca requests that her legal costs be reimbursed by Alice.
    • 27 June 2023 - Alice hires her fifth lawyer, Bernal.
    • 3 Aug 2023 - Alice misses the deadline to submit her financials. Ioan submits his and they show that he has been paying for Alice's lawyers all along, despite the lies written in the GFM.
    • 8 Aug 2023 - The joint statement of disputed/undisputed financial issues is filed. Ioan and his lawyers complete their part, but Alice and her lawyer don't. The Prenup document shows that Ioan had a net worth of over $2 million and Alice had around $23,000 upon marriage.
    • 10 Aug 2023 - Ioan is officially divorced from Alice on this date but it's bifurcated.
    • 5 Oct 2023 - An edited video clip of the incident involving Ella at Ioan and Bianca's apartment from May is uploaded to Twitter by a suspect sock account.
    2024
    • 20 Jan 2024 - Ioan and Bianca announce their engagement via an Instagram post.
    • 25 Jan 2024 - Alice and Ioan both submit their financials again. The records show that during 2021, 2022 and 2023, Ioan overpaid Alice in spousal support, by a total figure of c.$350,000.
    • 19 Feb 2024 - Alice fires Bernal, her fifth lawyer.
    • 12 March 2024 - Alice hires her sixth lawyer, Janina.
    • 29 March 2024 - Bianca reveals on Instagram how much bullying she and Ioan have endured from Alice, Alice’s FMs, and Alison Boshoff from the Daily Mail, and how it has affected her MS and health. In the post, Bianca also said that detectives have connected Alice's abusive sock accounts to Alice. Alison Boshoff at the Daily Mail threatened to expose Bianca's MS before it was public knowledge.
    • 30 March 2024 - Bianca makes an Instagram story where she revealed that she has been contacted by many people who have had their own negative experiences with Alice, some going back 20 years.
    • 1 April 2024 - Bianca makes an another Instagram story where she again she reiterated the scale of Alice's abuse, and said that she will "never be bullied or abused again".
    • 4 April 2024 - Bianca makes another Instagram story, where she shares the links to Tattle's PDF of screenshots of Alice's abusive social media postings, as well as a legal document previously released.
    • 3 May 2024 - Alice went on an Instagram rant saying, "A woman, with a link to me posted on insta a month ago that ‘thousands of people’ had contacted her to say I had ‘ abused’ them", referring to Bianca's outing of her abuse.
    • August 2024 - IG's lawyer posts a devastating response to Alice's filing demanding temporary spousal and child support. It reveals that she was overpaid by nearly $400k and always had lots of money even while defrauding her fans with the GFM, which is wire fraud.
    • 9 September 2024 - Alice shows up in court to ask for temporary child and spousal support. When the respective lawyers are conferring with the Judge, Alice takes photos of both Ioan and Andrea Burkhart and is made to delete them by the bailiff. Full details here: Alice Evans acts unhinged in court while calling me insane! My recap of the RFO hearing (youtube.com)
    • 24 September 2024 - Joseph Langlois, Ioan's lawyer refutes Alice's RFO asking for questions at her deposition to be limited. [See Google Drive of legal documents]
    • 1 October 2024 - Janina replies to Langlois and it's a joke of a document full of lies and gaslighting. As Andrea Burkhart said, it would be better if Judge Josh doesn't see it.
    • 8 October 2024 - The Judge rules: Alice's request for order to limit questions on her deposition is denied, Alice's request for sanctions on Ioan is denied and Ioan's request for sanctions on Alice is reserved until the time of trial.

    Abbreviations/Glossary


    #TeamAlice - Alice tried to start a movement on social media to allow wronged women to speak out about their pain and suffering. No sensible advice was given, just a reply from Alice about her own pain and suffering. The #IamAlice hashtag was also used but neither gained traction on Twitter.
    $26 - Alice claimed to be down to her last $26, so she launched her Gofundme, but she was still able to buy take-out food, the latest iPhones and rent a Beverly Hills townhouse which is $6.5k a month.
    2 E's - Alice and Ioan's children, Ella (born 2009) and Elsie (born 2013). IG requested 50/50 custody which AE has refused to allow and the kids are now alienated from him due to her behaviour.
    Abs - Misspelling of "and" that used to make a regular appearance in AE's posts (usually when she was on Instagram as opposed to Twitter).
    Alice Caps - AFE's tendency to capitalise random words for effect.
    Alice Evans/AE/AFE - Alice Evans (born 1968). An English/American unemployed former actress. Social media addict who turned her run-of-the-mill divorce into a shit show. She regularly appears in the Daily Mail. Also known as Alice Fucking Evans, hence "AFE".
    Alice Evans Designs - A business run by Alice on Etsy from 2016-17, where she sold "Embellished cuffs, rings, bags. The stuff I wear!". Most of the embellishments were bought from the dollar store, eg, foam stickers, charms and other cheap decorations, stuck on a thrift store bag with a glue gun or sellotape, but she wanted big bucks for them anyway. She made quite a few sales, bizarrely.
    Alice's Therapists (who may never have existed) - In a text message sent from Alice to Ioan (before Bianca was revealed), which Ioan included in his DVRO application, Alice claimed the following happened: "One of my therapists said to me today "I cannot believe he chose his MOTHER, over the most incredible woman I've ever met, AND his children" (he is gay). I said I know. It goes very deep."
    Alison Boshoff - Hack at the Daily Mail, who is friends with Alice and who has helped her publish some of her lies in the newspaper. In March 2024, Bianca revealed that Alison threatened to expose Bianca's MS before it was public knowledge.
    Alun Gruffudd - IG's brother, who raised money for MS here: ALUN GRUFFUDD is fundraising for Multiple Sclerosis Society (justgiving.com)
    Andrea Burkhart - An American lawyer who posts on X and Youtube. She also got into a row with Alison Boshoff as Alison lied about how she obtained legal documents pertaining to the fake restraining order application as they hadn't been uploaded yet. She is still commenting on Alice's antics. Andrea Burkhart video playlist
    Anne Kiley - Ioan's former divorce lawyer for his custody issues who became a Judge.
    Baby Angel - Alice’s pet name for Ioan, as recounted in his interview with Craig Ferguson.
    Bathroom Door - Alice posted a picture of it. It is not known how it came off its hinges, but Alice wrote that Ioan locked himself in there with a bottle of whiskey.
    Bernal - Bernal Ojeda, Alice's fifth attorney, hired June 2023, and fired in February 2024. Alice pretended he was ill when she had in fact fired him. He returned the unspent legal fees to IG's team.
    Bianca/BW - Bianca Wallace (born 1992), Ioan’s girlfriend, an Australian aspiring actress, producer and screenwriter, as well as campaigner for awareness about MS, which she suffers from.
    BIB - "Bit In Bold": when a Tattler is responding to a specific line or sentence that they have bolded.
    Bifurcated Divorce - A divorce separated into two parts: marital status and other issues. The court terminates the marriage. Both spouses are single again. Other issues to be resolved later.
    Bin Squirrel - a squirrel that, according to Alice, jumped out of the bin and onto her.
    BLOCKED IMMEDIATELY - Tony Evans' favorite response to Twitter accounts that criticize Alice.
    Bogan - Slang meaning "Australian and New Zealand person whose speech, clothing, attitude and behaviour are considered unrefined or unsophisticated". This was one of Alice's favourite words for BW, along with 'ho', 'Instagram acrobat', 'She Devil' and 'horse teeth'. Due to the DVRO, "Tone" now makes snide comments about BW without directly naming her. See "Socks" below.
    Books Alice claims she will write - Alice has threatened Ioan several times (both privately and on social media) with writing a 'tell-all' book about her marriage and split from with him. She also claimed to have been "paid upfront" to write a book about the supposed feud between Ioan's family and Matthew Rhys's family (see the "List of Lies" below for more details).
    Bubba Bear
    - BW and IG's dog, a cavapoo brought to LA from Australia.
    Cameo - AE is now on the Cameo website for $50 a message, but business is now almost non-existent. She frequently didn't send any Cameos, or sent them late to paying customers.
    Cogs/Coglet/Coggers - Pet names which Alice and Ioan used to call each other. ‘Angel’ used to autocorrect to ‘cog’ on old mobiles.
    Craig - A much-loved (by Tattlers) Scottish Twitter user who was targeted by AFE when he called Alice “Mr Fantastic’s Alcoholic ex-wife”. She then reported him to his employer, himself.
    Doxxing - One of AFE's and her FMs favourite activities. She is now under investigation in both the UK and LA for this illegal behaviour. Tattlers should keep their SM locked as she targets those who comment on BW's Instagram.
    Dr Dupee - A psychiatrist who was appointed by the court in August 2023 to undertake a child custody evaluation which was delivered late in February 2024. IG's lawyer and IG are unhappy with the report, which didn't deliver what was stated in the stipulation, and they want the matter 'investigated' and they now have to do discovery that Dupee should have done.
    Ducks in a Row - An embellished handbag which is undoubtedly one of the most iconic, creative and ugly designs dreamt up by Alice for her Alice Evans Designs Etsy store.
    Dump Smell - On 27 June 2023, Alice's brother Tony tweeted "I am not a sock. You have my photo and it has always been dump smell!". Presumably "he" knows what this means and no alcohol was consumed.
    DVRO - Domestic Violence Restraining Order (see "PRO" below).
    EDDIE CIBRIAN - Hollywood actor. His name was invoked by Alice in one of her rage text messages to Ioan where she called him a "random mediocre actor", alongside Josh Duhamel. See Alice Caps.
    Emma - The family dog, a chihuahua cross-breed who appears to be nervous and seldom walked. Alice has said that Emma hides in the closets and pees on the curtains.
    EN - Ella Newton. A young actress who worked with Ioan on Harrow, who fell foul of Alice and the FMs by posting a heart emoji on the 'reveal photo' of Ioan and Bianca. Alice publicly complained on social media that EN didn't inform her of the "affair" she believes Ioan had with Bianca, who was an extra on Harrow at the time. Alice also called her "an absolute bitch" in a Twitter post.
    Evergivetic - Energetic in Alice's world. See "Peonality" below.
    FMs - Alice’s band of aggressive but dwindling "flying monkeys" who fight for Alice on social media. Also stands for "fucking morons". They are nobodies looking for attention and Tattlers blank out their account details. Many FMs have now distanced themselves from Alice and "Tone" and some have apologised for their smear campaigns, most notably Lin.
    Fucko - Tone's favorite insult. "Tone" is now laying low on X - we miss you Fucko!
    GFM/Gofundme - Alice started a Gofundme for $25k in June 2022, claiming poverty because the divorce proceedings had bankrupted her* (see below). She has received around $7k currently despite making false claims of poverty. This is wire fraud and is illegal.
    Ghosting - This is abruptly ending communication with someone without explanation. AE has claimed she has been 'ghosted' by IG falsely as they can communicate via the Our Family Wizard app. They also have lawyers communicate through.
    Gloria - A former "Nanny" and paid friend for Alice. Alice claimed Gloria was fired by Ioan due to Alice not having access to Ioan's bank account anymore. Later Alice admitted Gloria was still employed by Alice (who had pilfered from Ioan's account to pay her).
    Golden Child - Also known as the GC. The golden child is usually the offspring of one or two narcissistic parents. Some people suspect Ella is Alice's GC and Elsie is the scapegoat as Alice often disparages her like she did Ioan.
    Gray Rock - The strategy Ioan adopted to deal with Alice. It is a tactic to deal with toxic people or narcissists, and involves becoming as bland and unengaging as possible but this didn't work with AFE who is now using legal abuse to get at him.
    Headlock - Alice's favourite manoeuvre - see photos of her with Ioan at public events.
    HW - Harvey Weinstein. [See more below]. HW can also stand for "Hoarse Whisperer", a Twitter user Alice had a fight with in 2019 [see "Alice's social media addiction" section below].
    Ioan Gruffudd/IG - Ioan Gruffudd (born 1973) A Welsh / American actor. Welsh speaker. [Sometimes "Instagram"].
    Ioan Online/Ioanonline.com - This fansite dedicated to Ioan that was started by a fan after seeing him in Titanic. The site was very professional and popular and from 2004-06, Ioan was secretly funding it, as his agent said it was good for his image. Alice, after becoming Ioan's fiancee, complained that a moderator on the site was maliciously editing her Wikipedia page. There was no evidence to suggest this is true and the moderator denied this. As a result, Ioan sent an email to fans** (see below) (which many believe was written by Alice), and then withdrew his support for the site. It was closed in April 2006 due to this incident. Ioan also mentioned the debacle in an interview at the time where he claimed his fans were "vitriolic and evil" and suffering from "delusion".*** (see below)
    Janina - Alice's sixth lawyer, hired in March 2024. She is very incompetent and unprofessional and Alice clearly likes her.
    Joseph Langlois - Ioan's attorney for the financial matters of the divorce, hired in 2023.
    Judge Josh / JJ - The Hon. Josh R. Freeman Stinn, a judge for the Los Angeles County Superior Court in California, who is presiding over Ioan and Alice's child custody case, interrupted repeatedly by Alice during a fake DVRO hearing in July 2023.
    Katherine Heersema - IG's former custody lawyer. Azita is his custody lawyer now.
    Leon - Leon Bennett, one of Alice's former divorce lawyers (number 3), fired in 2022.
    LOTF - Ladies Of The Forum. See "Ioan Online".
    Mama Gruff - Margaret Griffith, Ioan's mother who Alice has repeatedly smeared and harassed. Dear Mother in Law.. Well, I guess it’s all over. You won. I wanted to say you were always going to have your way but I didn’t, because for a long time I thought my husbnad was stronger. He would… - Alice Evans - Medium (archive.is)
    Marie – Marie LaMolinara, another of Alice's divorce lawyers (number 4), fired in May 2023 who gave her unspent fees to Alice not IG's team, roughly $30,000.
    Marjorie - In November 2021, Alice made an alcohol-fuelled, threatening video which she posted to Instagram, where she assumed the name of "Marjorie". Ioan included this incident in his DVRO request. The video can be viewed here.
    MOO - My Opinion Only. An acronym used in some posts - it's not a cow mooing.
    Mr. Fantastic's Alcoholic Ex-Wife - Description of Alice on Twitter by Craig, after Alice replied to an older comment he wrote on Twitter. The full quote is "Honestly just trying to eat my dinner when I find out Mr Fantastic's alcoholic ex-wife is trying to start shite with me from over a month ago. The absolute state of it."
    MS - Multiple Sclerosis. Bianca disclosed that she has MS after FMs lurking Tattle outed her condition on Twitter to Alice. Bianca has now spoken about the disease on her Instagram account and is trying to make a movie about it with Ioan.
    Narcs - Shorthand for narcissists. Their behaviour has been described as, "An inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others. Envious of others and believes others envy them. Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious." Alice is convinced everyone she falls out with in her life is a narc - but that she isn't one.
    Olivier Picasso/OP - Alice's fiance during the 90s who she cheated on with Ioan. The note said “nearly all of us have arrived! | by Alice Evans | Medium (archive.is)
    Our Family Wizard app - Also known as "The Wizard" or "OFW". A high-conflict divorce family sharing app which IG wants to use to discuss the kids with Alice. She doesn't like to use it as it is a "Teacher's pet" app but then complains about how much lawyer’s letters cost, which she doesn't pay for anyway.
    PA - Parental alienation. This is when a child’s resistance or hostility towards one parent is not justified and is the result of psychological manipulation by the other parent. The two children display all the signs of being subjected to this by Alice and court documents show that Ioan is gravely concerned about their mental health and believes Alice is abusing them.
    Peonality: One of several drunken typos Alice made in this post. The full text is: "What the fuck. What the fuck has gone do wrong in your life I=taht you have to say things like this. This is my normal peonality. I am Allowed to be evergivetic and loud and forggetful and yes..loving. THAT IS WHO I AM."
    Pharoahly - Typo on the website of Alice's then-lawyer Marie's law firm website. It should have been "thoroughly".
    Prius Rat - Alice said she had a rat in her Prius that ate parts of her car.
    PRO - Permanent restraining order. This was granted on August 2, 2022. Also known as a DVRO as it relates to domestic violence, which includes abuse and harassment done online.
    Salad Cream Clive - In 2021, an Alice fan from the UK sent her and the kids Christmas gifts, including salad cream. The package was lost for a while but it finally reached Alice.
    Sarah Duggers - Runs a book club on Instagram and has publicly exposed Alice's nonsense.
    Screenshat - What Tony believes is the past tense of "screen shot".
    SCREENHOT -Classic typo during a pished up rant/meltdown July 24 when she is threatening to doxx every Tattler, ever.
    SHOW YOURSELF - Another favourite response from Tone to Twitter accounts that criticise Alice without revealing their identity. See "Doxxing".
    SM - Social Media. Alice has a Twitter and Instagram addiction but has now deactivated her official Twitter account as she 'can't trust herself' to use it without breaking the DVRO that she complains "gagged" her. See “Socks”.
    Smear Campaign - Smear campaigns are frequently used to depict a narc's victim as insane, bipolar, addicted, alcoholic, unstable, gold diggers, cheaters or poor parents. The narc in question is usually projecting their own behaviour. AE engaged in a public smear campaign against Ioan and Bianca.
    Socks - A pseudonym or persona typically online, usually for some sort of deception or for trolling purposes. Alice accuses many people online who criticise her of being sock accounts operated by IG or BW, or by people close to them. However, she was found to be using sock accounts on Twitter, Instagram, Reddit, IMDB, the Daily Mail, Wikipedia and other forums.
    Special Arguing Coat - A beige and black frilly creation that Alice wore in the carpark altercation video, as well as to court when having to answer for her previous no-show in court.
    Tattle Turds/Twattlers - A term used by Alice Evans and "Tone" to describe the people talking about her here. Tattlers have been accused of bullying her and being jealous of Alice, and imagining that they know Ioan and Bianca. Alice also claims that Ioan and Bianca pay Tattlers to 'troll' her when they aren't doing it themselves. Alice claims to have visited Tattle 'twice' but that her FMs send her screenshots. Her own screenshots show she has an account here and lurks constantly.
    TDS - Trump Derangement Syndrome. This was a common theme on AE's Twitter account from 2015- 2020. Rhymes with 'tedious'. AE viewed herself as part of the #resistance but fell out with the more prominent @hoarsewhisperer, @MITH, Franklin Leonard and Leslie-Ann Brandt. Her interest in Trump has vanished but she is now a warrior for women "abused" by the Family Court.
    The DM - The Daily Mail, also known as the Daily Fail. The DM have featured the IG/AE/BW story on many occasions but still denounced Tattle Life users, though they have said many of them "are remarkably articulate."
    The Official Ioan Gruffudd Group - A Facebook group which started out as a fan page for IG in 2014. It is run by a former FM, Lin. It turned into a hate page about IG in 2021, and IG fans were frequently banned from the site. It has returned to being a regular fan page but with a very small reach. Lin said she apologised for doing AE's dirty work and had been forgiven by IG and BW.
    Three Sharp Ones - Meaning 'drunk', and written by Alice in a tweet. Alice may be an alcoholic although she hides it better now. Tattlers frequently noticed many spelling and grammar errors in her posts though this has improved. She used to post videos of herself drunk too but has ceased to do this as Tattlers were capturing them.
    Tits Akimbo - Term invented by Bridgeofsighs to describe how Alice is frequently pictured on the floor, trying to take seductive selfies with her boobs prominently displayed.
    Tone - One of Alice's brothers (Anthony Evans). They used to have public chats on Twitter instead of texting each other privately. He sent veiled or overt threats and insults to IG, BW and Tattlers. Many Tattlers suspect Alice uses Tone's Twitter account to get around her DVRO but "Tone" is much more muted lately. See 'Socks'.
    TRO - Temporary restraining order. Ioan and Bianca were granted this in February 2022 against Alice, who quickly breached it.
    Utter Utter Defamation - In July 2022, Ioan filed a petition for custody. In response, Alice posted a video to her Instagram saying Ioan's allegations were "utter utter defamation".
    Videos - Many of Alice's drunken rants can be viewed here anon - YouTube
    Want More? - Immortal words written by Alice and emailed to Ioan immediately after she had given her Lorraine TV interview in November 2021, where she smeared him and Bianca.
    Warring Wardrobe - Term coined by a Tattler because of Alice's propensity to wear bizarre items of clothing and accessories, and her constant belligerent behaviour.
    Wikipedia - Alice is suspected of editing her Wiki entry, despite it being against the rules of the site. She is determined to not be listed as a 'former' actress, despite not acting for years or seeking acting work.

    *GFM/Gofundme

    In June 2022, Alice's Gofundme said this:

    Hi there.

    I never in a million years thought I would be doing this. Until recently everything appeared to be going well in my life. I had a wonderful husband and two brilliant kids who had cost us the earth in IVF but were so worth it! However in August 2020, just as the pandemic was really kicking in, my entire world fell apart. Since that date I have been not only struggling as a single mother to my babies, but also trying to cover bills and food and legal fees (ha! don't even talk to me about legal fees) which dwarf any other expense in my life and have finally drained everything - savings, accounts, pension, the lot.

    Yesterday all my accounts ran out and I couldn't buy anything. On the same day, my husband's lawyer sent me a letter telling me I was due in court on August 2nd to argue 'my case' in the divorce. I currently have no lawyer and no funds to pay one. If I don't turn up at court I will be in contempt, and I have no idea what will happen to me or my kids at that point. I'm asking for help - something I've never done in my life and never expected to do. I have no parents or extended family to borrow from . Just me, my brother and his wife in the uK and my two kids here in Los Angeles. Yes, it's embarrassing. But here I am. Anything you can spare will help.

    Thank you so much
    Alice

    ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________

    **Ioanonline.com - email to fans (suspected to be written by Alice)

    Dear all,

    It is with a heavy heart that I write this letter. I was utterly aghast and in a state of shock when I discovered the unpleasant and sometimes vitriolic comments that were being leveled at my fiancée Alice when I recently observed the community forum on `ioanonline'. I find it hard to believe that people who have supported me so ardently over the years would behave in such a despicable manner.

    I have never been happier since meeting and falling in love with Alice and I am overwhelmed with excitement about getting married to the woman of my dreams.

    I am aware that it is always a small minority that gives the majority a bad name.

    I wish to thank those of you who continually support everything I do in such a positive and passionate manner, and I implore the few of you that sullies the good name of the majority to put an end to this practice that has brought such heartache to me personally.

    Regards

    Ioan

    ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________

    ***Ioanonline.com - Interview with Ioan regarding closure of site

    IG: "there was a fansite [Ioanonline] that, you know, people could access and I understand that it was something I was sponsoring. And I just had to put a stop to it. Why should I be paying for somebody to be so vitriolic and evil towards my fiancee? It's just a pity. It's a forum for people, I guess, to express whatever anger and sadness they have in their lives. But it's incredibly cowardly in one sense. It's a very schoolyard mentality, I think."

    Presumably a fan who posts disparaging comments about Gruffudd's fiancee or vandalises her Wikipedia entry is labouring under the illusion that she is a threat to that person's ability to meet and form a relationship with Gruffudd themselves.

    "That's the thing. That's the delusion of a lot of these people, I suppose. In fact, it's not even that. It's not really relevant that I exist, or Alice exists. It's relevant that the idea of us exists.""


    *Warning* Alice and her FMs Doxx and Cyberbully


    Alice and her FMs are well known for doxxing and hounding anyone who likes or comments on a Bianca post or criticises her on her Instagram page. It doesn't matter if the criticism is reasonable and factual as Alice considers it hate speech regardless. It is advisable to make your Instagram private if it can be scoured for identifying information, as it will be. Alice has frequently doxxed commenters and reported their supposed 'hate crime' not to police but to the person's employer. She also encourages her FMs to cyberbully and doxx them too.

    If she has doxxed you, report it to your local Police (that's where the crime occurred) and then also where she lives if you choose. She's in Beverly Hills, and her address has made public by her but if you don't know it, the BH police will, as she is known to them from her previous violations of the DVRO and previous doxxing. Their email is [email protected]. Send them screenshots of everything and also screenshots of her Blue Tick and number of followers. Also Bianca has asked for this type of criminal behaviour to be sent to her via her Instagram. Read what she has said under her highlights labelled 'Abuse'. See part of Bianca's comments below.

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    Remember the law is on your side, not Alice's. See below for one of her many posts on 'outing' 'nasty trolls'.

    https://tattle.life/threads/alice-evans-ioan-gruffudd-278-stop-harassing-your-ex-ya-creep.47035/page-5#post-20696671

    Alice also tried to bully Sarah Duggers, who runs a book club on Instagram who dared to remind her she had a DVRO and Alice got more than she bargained for.

    https://tattle.life/threads/alice-e...efuses-to-support-herself.45136/post-19228980

    Background of the Ill Matched Couple


    Ioan is a RADA-trained actor who had a very promising career as an actor when he lived in the UK. He is very proud of his Welsh heritage (see this video about it - Coming Home: Ioan Gruffudd Discovers His Family History in Wales.) He was also a rather naive chapel boy from the valleys who his mother had to rescue from joining a religious cult Church nearly finished my acting career - Ioan Gruffudd - Wales Online (archive.is)

    Alice Evans was a failed model and a minor actress, most well known for being with high profile men. In in 1999, on the set of 102 Dalmatians, she met Ioan. She was already in an eight-year relationship with her fiancé, Olivier Picasso, grandson of the artist. She cheated on him with Ioan, or as she liked to say, they "overlapped". When questioned about her hypocrisy over her husband's alleged affair with Bianca compared to her very real and confirmed affair with Ioan, she has replied that it is both "private" and said that it is not really cheating since she was only engaged to Olivier with no children with him. He later came out as gay. (After Ioan left her, Alice wrote about both Olivier and Ioan's mother unflatteringly here.) Alice gave interviews during this period which were memorable for her idiotic statements Alice Evans - Wikiquote (archive.is)

    Alice and Ioan moved to LA in 2003. Ioan was interviewed by the Sunday Times about their relationship. "Why were they together so long before getting married? "It was a bit like that feeling I had with the church, where I said I'm not feeling it yet and it's not that I don't love you, which of course meant f*** all to her. She'd say, 'When am I going to get a ring?'" Ioan Gruffudd: set to charm Hollywood | The Sunday Times (archive.ph) In 2006, Alice gave Ioan an ultimatum to marry her and he proposed on NYE. Ioan described the proposal on US TV as an nerve-wracking night of a drunk and angry Alice calling him ‘boring’ and shouting that she hated him. She still accepted his proposal however.

    In April 2007, Alice demanded that Ioan withdraw support for his semi-official fansite when a moderator made a mild joke about her on there about getting a Christian award (with the rest of the cast) despite some of her sexually explicit films. Alice demanded the site be closed and Ioan gave in to her. However, unknown to Ioan, Alice had been using sock accounts on the IMDB actor forums to taunt his fans (a behaviour which would be echoed years later when she would do the same on Twitter, taunting and mocking both Ioan and Bianca). She also falsely accused the moderator of Ioanonline of altering her Wiki page.

    One fan from that era, now on Tattle, writes:

    "I think something the old timers here know that some people newer to this weird little play don’t get is the only way Ioan could have avoided her going into a very public psychotic rage, doing everything in her power to turn his kids against him, and basically try to ruin his life was to stay with her for as long as she ordered him to, pay for everything, and let her do whatever she wanted all the time. This didn’t start when he left her, I don’t think it even started when she demanded he alienate most of his not-so-big fan base because people were talking about her ugly ass clothes, she already had him terrified by then or he would have laughed at her childish tantrum instead of making himself look like an asshole.

    This has fuck all to do with Bianca, if he stayed by himself for the rest of his life she still would have bullied those kids into hating him and publicly maligned him if he wouldn’t come back to her and grovel at her feet. She’s an evil poisonous self-centered monster completely devoid of empathy, and no one except those kids will ever really love her as long as she lives and she knows it. She’s burned the love out of everyone who ever did love her. She needed professional help for her personality disorders a long time ago, and now it’s too late. Pointing out all the shit Ioan might have done ‘wrong’ is a waste of time, nothing he did other than stay with her and let her abuse him would have stopped this garbage fire. Just MOO from one of MAlice’s fat, jealous, pie-eating old IMDB buddies."


    See here for more gossip from the pre marriage days.

    Marriage


    Shortly after marrying in August 2007, Alice hit Ioan with a golf club "by accident" and he showed up to collect an award in April 2008 with a black eye but still praised Alice. Ioan Gruffudd's golf pain - Boston.com (archive.is) Ioan also became unemployed for over two years upon marrying Alice. He has talked about having lost his confidence and going into therapy during this period. Ioan has struggled to do a convincing American accent and failed to find lasting success in Hollywood. His career highpoint were the first two Fantastic Four movies, which were successful financially, if not critically. With the leading roles harder to get, he credited Alice with saving him from becoming famous in the US or having celebrity friends. Ioan Gruffudd seeing psychologist to help cope with audition knock-backs - Wales Online (archive.is)

    Alice claims to have saved Ioan’s failing career whilst sacrificing her own feeble career, in order to be a full-time mother (with Nanny and a Housekeeper when the children were younger). They had two children by using 8 rounds of IVF, paid for by Ioan. However, she had a few small roles after motherhood, most notably, a small role in The Vampire Diaries. She also set up AliceEvansDesigns on Etsy which amazingly, made some sales.
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    Alice's Adulterous Affair on the Set of The Vampire Diaries


    There was a Blind Gossip item in which Alice was outed as having had an affair on the set of the Vampire Diaries. This was despite Alice being married with a child. This was circa 2011 and before the birth of Elsie. This came out at the time of Alice's media smear campaign in November 2021, and most people guessed that this was about Alice. https://blindgossip.com/not-so-innocent/

    This rumour was corroborated by a Tattler:

    "I got feedback from TVD crew - she had a brief affair with Caspar [Zafer] but was also massively inappropriate with Joseph [Morgan] and all the crew believed there had been a hook up. She was all over the male talent and pissed off Nina and Caroline massively by being ultra condescending!"

    Tattlers believe Ioan alluded to her affair in the court documents, but implied he had forgiven Alice.

    Alice: “I gave up my career, I helped him through everything. I did so many gen‐generous things to him. The fact that I made one mistake and he couldn’t give it up.”

    Ioan: “No, no, this, no we did draw a line under all that. We drew a line under it all.”


    Alice's Social Media addiction


    Alice took to Twitter and later Instagram with a vengeance and was constantly tweeting and about Trump when he was President. In February 2019, Alice seemingly blocked another Twitter user @HoarseWhisperer. He blocked her in return. Alice reacted to this by saying she had taken alcohol and pills and made some alarming statements. Ioan was tagged on Twitter to help her even though he was working in Australia at the time. Afterwards, she apparently 'got help'. Welp's screenshots of the incident are below.



    Alice also posted private photos and videos of Ioan on Twitter and Instagram which he asked her not to post. Her social media usage was a contentious issue which helped to fuel the divorce as she frequently made 'jokes' at Ioan's expense on her social media from 2015 onwards. Her X/Twitter account was deleted as she couldn't 'trust herself' to use it but she still uses Instagram. On X, she was using sock accounts until the Police linked her to said socks in November 2023.

    Alice's 102 Aliments which have Mysteriously Vanished


    Alice was a lazy malingerer who was clearly googling ailments and diagnosing herself with them. For no explained reason, Alice's many conditions have vanished. She may have realised that her application for 100% custody while claiming to be effectively disabled was suspect. Also there was no one to nurse the invalid invalid after Ioan left.

    Alice Evans & Ioan Gruffudd #277 Alice's Continued Abuse may Disqualify her from Receiving Spousal Support | Page 31 | Tattle Life

    Compilation of Alice’s Social Media Posts 2020-2023


    Put together by Tattle member @welp, this is a record of Alice's SM abuse. It shows the narrative she has put out publicly, and with all its lies and contradictions.

    1) Link to the 4512-page PDF
    This contains a few social media postings from 2020, and most of Alice's social media postings from the start of 2021 to c. August 2022.

    2) Link to the longer 7503-page updated PDF
    This contains everything in the shorter 4512-page PDF, and additionally most of Alice's social media postings until c. July 2023.

    3) Link to the PDF of Alice's suspected sock account postings in 2023

    This article also comments on her abuse of SM. The Actress Using Instagram to Abuse Her Husband | by Shannon Ashley | Honestly Yours | Medium (archive.is)

    Alice's Public Altercations


    Alice v YouTube Vlogger Kayla Lashae


    A video appeared on TMZ in February 2020, in which Alice could be seen ranting at another woman in a parking lot, and it seems that she hit two cars in an attempt to park her car. Kayla, a YouTube vlogger, also made a video about Alice’s bizarre and threatening behaviour. Article and video available here via TMZ. Further media links on the incident:

    Actress Alice Evans Loses It on YouTuber After Parking Lot Fender Bender (tmz.com)
    https://www.dailydot.com/irl/alice-evans-kayla-lashae-parking-fight/



    Alice had another car incident in 2021. She got out of the car barefoot and was unfortunately papped, but no ranting was observed this time. Alice Evans looks distraught following 'fender-bender' in West Hollywood | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    Alice v MITH and Hoarse Whisperer


    Here are the relevant Tattle posts about this incident, which happened in February 2019:
    1. https://tattle.life/threads/ioan-gr...-story-than-a-99c-colander.25740/post-7676109
    2. https://tattle.life/threads/ioan-gr...till-a-squirrel-binned-her.25783/post-7693336
    3. https://tattle.life/threads/ioan-gr...-french-letters-pharaohly.33016/post-11533333
    4. https://tattle.life/threads/ioan-gr...lice-interrupts-the-judge.40844/post-16227810
    5. https://tattle.life/threads/alice-e...efuses-to-support-herself.45136/post-19224629
    6. https://tattle.life/threads/alice-e...efuses-to-support-herself.45136/post-19224767
    7. https://tattle.life/threads/alice-e...efuses-to-support-herself.45136/post-19233561
    8. https://tattle.life/threads/alice-e...efuses-to-support-herself.45136/post-19236368

    Alice jumps on the #MeToo Bandwagon


    In October 2017, Harvey Weinstein was exposed publicly as a sexual predator. Sooner afterwards, AE claims to have been a victim of Weinstein, although her account cannot be corroborated. She claimed he asked to see her breasts but she didn't consent as she is "not that kind of girl". While unpleasant, this encounter (if true) doesn't show that Weinstein behaved illegally. She generated a lot of publicity for herself due to her allegations and some Tattlers believe she was lying for publicity. Ioan publicly backed up her likely lies as he was questioned about the alleged incident. In a tweet, she later claimed Weinstein tried to rape her, in contradiction to her earlier claims - Alice Evans & Ioan Gruffudd #247 No intelligence needed to argue with her, just a tolerance of frustration | Page 2 | Tattle Life


    Alice's Batshit Reaction to Ioan filing for Divorce


    Alice called Ioan a ‘pussy’ on Twitter the day he left to go to Australia in July 2020. Ioan told Alice he did not love her in August 2020, upon his return to LA according to her Daily Mail interview. The couple continued living together until Ioan moved out in January 2021. Alice had been live tweeting marital arguments and insulting Ioan and his family online. Alice described how Ioan tried to stop her doing this, claiming that Ioan ‘mentally tortured’ her. She claimed Ioan locked her out of her Twitter account by changing her password, although this was denied by Ioan.

    Alice alleged that she found out Ioan was divorcing her via the media in March 2021 when he had filed for divorce despite Ioan telling her he wanted a divorce in August 2020. However, she complained about the collaborative divorce that Ioan was trying to do in February 2021. Alice claimed she showed a news article to little E, who ran away crying at the divorce news. Alice is now claiming this never happened, despite many screenshots to the contrary. When challenged on it, she defended her parenting and her right to show her children the article as she didn't believe in lying to them and she did it "kindly". This contradicts Ioan's court documents (see below). On Twitter, she called Ioan’s mother a c**t in a tweet and blamed her for the failure of the marriage. This was before she knew of Bianca's existence.

    Ioan Gruffudd and Alice Evans split: What we know so far | Evening Standard (archive.is)

    In October 2021, Ioan posted to Instagram that he was in a new relationship by sharing a picture of himself and Bianca after Alice had found out about the relationship, as he didn't want her to break the news online. Bianca was driven off social media for a period of time by Alice and her FMs due to their unrelenting cyber abuse. Alice claims that everyone who posts something she doesn’t like is Bianca or Ioan, or related them, or they are acting on their instructions.

    The abuse by and number of FMs has dwindled considerably since the TRO and DVRO were granted. Alice has also stopped posting drunken videos as these were also captured by Tattlers and, one of them, where she is 'Marjorie' was also mentioned in the court documents produced by Ioan and his legal team as she was threatening to 'cut up' her enemies. Alice Evans (Marjorie 2021) (youtube.com)

    She has revealed very personal details about her kids, nanny and now-ex husband, including her version of private conversations Ioan has with his children. Alice was very fond of dirty deletes, but Tattlers are very fond of getting receipts, so this is more rare now. Alice was looking for evidence of a longstanding affair, in 'No Fault' California. Alice has a prenup (which she has claimed is not the one she signed and is contesting) She fought for 100% custody with Ioan requesting 50/50 and sadly got her wish due to PA as Ioan didn't want to expose the children to a court room battle. She has had six divorce lawyers and has stated she wanted more "aggressive" ones and her previous ones were "idiots". Ioan has made no comments or statements about Alice since the divorce began, other than to ask for privacy or to say it's "part and parcel" of being an actor in the public eye.

    Ioan only communicates with Alice via the app Our Family Wizard (OFW). Alice does not like using this app and calls it a "Teacher's pet" app as it monitors tone and content and communications on it cannot be deleted. Alice also said that Ioan had been "playing on it alone" i.e. trying to communicate with her about the children. Ioan contacted Alice via the OFW app because she "leaned in" to a FaceTime call with little E to try to speak to him. She then posted his very polite message on her Twitter account, in an attempt to ridicule him and paint him as an unreasonable person.

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    The temporary restraining order (TRO) court documents proved that she was harassing him via text and calls from the children's phones. Ioan has blocked her from social media, but she uses socks to lurk on him and Bianca online. Ioan originally left all of his belongings at their house when he left; Alice did not pack them and made several references to them being left untouched, in piles on the floor. Ioan then asked Gloria to gather his belongings, but she declined saying she was 'neutral'. In December 2021, Ioan returned to collect them after getting a key from Gloria to enter the house while Alice and the girls were away on a trip. Ioan had an off duty cop with him for protection.

    Alice claims that she doesn't understand why Ioan left her despite her abuse of him. She wanted them to have a sham marriage with him living in the garage. Alice has said that the ‘fake’ reasons that he brought up in the early stages of mediation were her treatment of his mother and her problematic and abusive use of social media. Initially she blamed Ioan's mother, and then latterly, Bianca, for "stealing" her husband. Court documents have revealed a history of abuse by Alice toward Ioan both on and off the internet. However, Alice's Instagram reveals problems in the marriage, with little digs against Ioan being made frequently by her. She also posted videos that she thought would make him look bad regularly and violated his right to privacy.

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    On 7 Jan 2022, Alice posted the following tweet before promptly deactivating her Twitter account.

    This tweet contains a reference to Alice's recurring "dream" in which Bianca would harm the children, which is more evidence of PA and is a lie designed to scare them.

    Index of All Court Documents


    Gruffudd v. Evans Court Filing Index
    (last updated August 30, 2024)

    Domestic Abuse Allegations and Divorce Proceedings


    There have been many alarming signs of long-term domestic abuse and coercive control within Alice and Ioan’s relationship. Alice says that Ioan was abusive but this is DARVO tactics. Alice has yet to produce any evidence of Ioan's 'abuse'. She claims she is saving it all for a 'tell-all' book which will never materialise while Ioan has provided extensive proof which he has submitted to the court.

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    A full index of the important documents filed in the case is located here (PDF with links to all important court filings): Gruffudd v. Evans Court Filing Index
    (Last updated August 13, 2024)

    Below is a list of some of the filings, with descriptions and links to each. More recent documents may be found in the index above.

    TRO document
    Court Document Link
    or
    GruffuddVsEvans.pdf | DocDroid
    Link to a copy of the Temporary Restraining Order, redacted to remove personal information:
    Temporary Restraining Order (redacted)
    Post with Alice's response

    On July 12, 2022, Ioan filed for 50/50 custody and an order for mediation and reunification therapy. Link to the court document is here: Custody Petition

    On July 25, 2022, Ioan filed a supplement to his request for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order with additional evidence that Alice has violated the TRO. Link to that court document is here:
    Supplement to Request for Domestic Violence Restraining Order

    The court's minute order can be read here:
    Minute Order

    The transcript of the hearing was kindly purchased by Hiraeth and the following summary was written by her:
    DVRO hearing transcript summary

    In December 2022 Ioan requested a court order to sell the family home. This detailed his current financial position, Alice's financial position and his intention to investigate where over $100,000 of funds held by Alice have been spent in the past year. Court filing available here:
    Request for order to sell home

    In January 2023, Alice filed a Responsive Declaration to Ioan's court order request.
    Alice's response to court order request

    On 19 January 2023, Ioan (and his lawyers) filed Petitioner's Reply Declaration.
    Ioan's Reply Declaration

    On 31 January 2023, Ioan (and his lawyers) filed a Responsive Declaration to Request for Order
    Ioan's responsive declaration

    On 27 June 2023, Alice filed note of a substitution of attorney, Bernal P. Ojeda.
    Substitution of Attorney

    On 28 June 2023, Alice filed a request to reschedule the bifurcation hearing:
    Request to Reschedule Hearing

    On 28 June 2023, Ioan filed a response to the rescheduling request, saying he did not consent.
    Responsive Declaration

    On 29 June 2023, the judge issued an Order Appointing Counsel For A Child
    Original Order
    Order with handwriting transcribed

    On 30 June 2023, the Judge denied the request to reschedule the bifurcation hearing, saying that a new attorney was not good cause to continue the hearing.
    Order on Request to Reschedule Hearing

    On 3 July 2023, the Judge granted Ioan's request to bifurcate and terminal marital status.
    Minute Order for Bifurcation

    On 3 July 2023, the Judge issued an order stating both parties stipulated to a European Beverage Waiver. This means that if a different Judge hears part of the proceedings or makes rulings, that will not be cause for a mistrial.
    Nunc Pro Tunc Order Hearing

    5 July 2023 Notice of Rescheduling Trial Dates

    On 13 July 2023, the Judge issued a minute order regarding the RFO for custody and visitation.
    Minute order

    On 31 July 2023, Ioan filed a Substitution of Attorney and Notice of Limited Scope Representation.
    Substitution of Attorney
    Limited Scope Representation

    On 3 August 2023, Ioan filed an Income and Expense Declaration, as requested by the Judge. Alice later filed fraudulent court documents and missed the court deadline.
    Proof of Service
    Ioan Gruffudd - Income and Expense Declaration
    Tattle analysis of declaration

    On 8 August 2023, Ioan filed a [Joint] Statement of Disputed/Undisputed Financial Issues. Ioan's attorney, Mr. Langlois, included a declaration stating that he was unable to obtain Alice's financial information from her attorney. The amended statement includes a copy of the premarital agreement (PMA or prenup) as Exhibit 2.
    Statement of Disputed/Undisputed Financial Issues
    Tattle analysis of statement
    Gruffudd - Amended Statement of Disputed/Undisputed Financial Issues
    Tattle analysis of pre-nup

    On 9 August 2023, Alice filed a (Joint) Statement of Disputed/Undisputed Financial Issues & a separate Income and Expense Declaration
    Evans - Statement of Disputed/Undisputed Financial Issues
    Tattle analysis of statement

    Evans - Income and Expense Declaration
    Tattle analysis of declaration

    On 10 August 2023, several issues regarding financial and custody were dealt with in a hearing.
    Hearing Transcript Summary
    Minute Order continuing Status Conference for financial issues
    Minute Order continuing RFO for custody/visitation
    Tattle analysis of Minute Orders

    Petitioner's Ex Parte application for hearing
    Minors Counsel response to Ex Parte application
    Minute Order regarding Petitioner's Ex Parte application
    Tattle analysis of Ex Parte application

    On 11 August 2023, Alice filed a responsive declaration to the RFO for a child custody evaluation
    Evans - Responsive Declaration to RFO

    On 14 August 2023, the Minor's Counsel/GAL filed a response recommending a child custody evaluation be done.
    Responsive Declaration from the Minor's Counsel

    On 16 August 2023, Ioan filed a reply to Alice's responsive declaration dated 11 August.
    Petitioner's Reply Declaration

    On 17 August 2023, the judge issued two minute orders.
    Court Hearing Transcript - Ex Parte Hearing
    Minute Order for Trial Setting RE: Custody
    Minute Order Appointing Custody Evaluator

    Order Appointing Child Custody Evaluator
    Tattle Analysis of Evaluator Appointment

    On 26 September 2023, the following documents were filed:
    Marriage Dissolution Judgment
    Notice of Entry of Judgment

    Alice's Messy Divorce is covered by Tattle from March 2021


    In 2021, Alice discovered and then raged against Tattle and has asked her FMs to sign petitions to get Tattle closed down. On thread #1, (which appeared after the divorce was announced) she asked for the main Tattlers there to be doxxed for $500 for which she would pay. The Tattle Twitter account replied and she quickly deleted as requesting hacking and doxxing are both illegal activities. She is now under Police investigation in both the UK and LA for this illegal behaviour. See the Warning about her doxxing above.

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    The Bianca "Reveal"


    At the end of October 2021, Alice found out about Bianca after Tattlers worked out her identity, and her FMs then passed on this information to her. She went on a social media rampage, and then onto an international media campaign in November 2021, lying and defaming Ioan and Bianca. Alice claimed Ioan was a "cheater" and had been cheating on her for the past 2, 3 or 4 years. She called Bianca an "adultress", "home-wrecker" and "mistress", despite no proof that Bianca and Ioan were together before he left Alice in January 2021.

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    Alice publicly contacted Ioan's colleagues and friends in order to smear him.

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    Alice went on an international media smear campaign (TV in UK and US, an interview in the Daily Mail, Australian radio and a podcast appearance, as well as all her social media rantings making tabloid and entertainment news headlines) Bianca was wrongly painted as someone who broke a family with two young girls up. See the next section, "Alice's interviews from late 2021" for full details of her smears.

    Alice also lied when she said that Ioan deliberately added her to Instagram with the intent of torturing her with the "thank you for making me smile again" post, that's how she found out about his new relationship. Alice had previously added Ioan to Instagram after he removed her, and when he made his profile public again for the post with Bianca, it automatically accepted Alice's follow request - which is why she got the notification about the post. See the section Alice's List of Lies on page 2. She claimed Ioan didn't want to see his kids, and that was because of Bianca forbidding him when it was her doing PA all along. She referred to Bianca as "it". The parental alienation was in evidence here too.

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    In mid-November 2021, Alice libelled Bianca by calling her a "bogan", claimed she had split up other marriages, was a "hooker" with a "big nose" and "horse teeth".

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    Alice's FMs also added Bianca, her sister and mother to an Instagram group with Alice to insult them. This caused Bianca to go off Instagram for a month, and her mother and sister making their profiles private. A compilation of the screenshots which were taken from Instagram, as well as the Instagram group chat, and posted on Tattle by welp and others, can be found here. Read this post to see the screenshots of the harassment that Bianca and her family faced.

    Tamika, a friend of Bianca's after they met via the set of Harrow, starting defending Bianca on X, so she then started hounding her. Tamika joined Tattle in October 2021, but she was then asked to prove to the moderators that she knew Bianca, as she claimed. Tamika posted a screenshot of a message between Tamika and Bianca, on Twitter where they are talking about needing to show proof that she knows Bianca. Alice and Tone keep referring to this screenshot message as if it's a 'gotcha' that shows that Bianca and Tattle are working together and that Bianca is "bullying" Alice. Tattle moderators didn't think Tamika provided enough evidence that she knew Bianca so her account was closed.

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    Alice's Smear Campaign - Interviews from late 2021


    Alice launched her smear campaign across a variety of media after the Bianca 'reveal' in late 2021 and before the temporary restraining order (TRO) was granted in February 2022. Many people believed Alice's lies as people like Lorraine Kelly and others presented her story as factual when she was, in fact, the abuser. She also tried to stop Bianca from getting acting work by contacting her agency online and smearing her name Alice Evans & Ioan Gruffudd #279 Hornblower vs the Moneyblower | Page 14 | Tattle Life

    Daily Mail


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    'I am heartbroken. I feel dead': In her own words, Alice Evans reveals the rejection, betrayal, public humiliation and agony of a family destroyed after the toxic public breakdown of her marriage to Ioan Gruffudd

    Lorraine Interview


    https://www.entertainmentdaily.co.u...ers-as-she-discusses-divorce-in-awkward-chat/

    In February 2022, it emerged that after this interview was broadcast, Alice emailed Ioan with the words "Want more?".



    Inside Edition


    The Inside Edition interview was cut by the studio from 90 minutes to under 2 minutes for legal reasons.



    Sarah Vine's Femail Half-Hour


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    Sarah Vine's Femail Half-Hour EXCLUSIVE: ‘Why did it have to be a Millennial?’ Alice Evans talks divorce with Sarah Vine - Sarah Vine's Femail Half-Hour | Podcast on Spotify

    Kyle and Jackie-O


    Alice gave an interview to an Australian radio station on November 22nd 2021, in which the interviewers fell for her nonsense.

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    Kyle and Jackie O cry while talking about Alice Evans' bitter break-up | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    Hacking of Ioan's Instagram in February 2022


    Ioan's Instagram was hacked and the hacker claimed that Ioan was cancelling Ella's elite private school (annual fee of $50,000) in order to finance a movie with Bianca called "A Ray of Sunshine" which they would both star in. The hacker also left a message saying that Ioan "always had a disliking for gay people". Alice posted a screenshot of Ioan's hacked Instagram very soon after the event, and then commented underneath her screenshot, despite being blocked on Ioan's Instagram. Two of Ella's online friends tagged themselves under the anti-gay comment. One of these friends later commented that they were "exposing him with my bsf, his daughter." Subsequent court documents suggest that Ella was responsible for this hack. Alice posted about the hack on her Instagram, drawing attention to the smears against Ioan.

    Ioan Gets a Restraining Order in February 2022 (TRO/DVRO)


    In February 2022, Ioan filed documents with the court alleging that Alice has been abusive to both him and Bianca, with 113 pages of evidence submitted. He also filed for a restraining order. On February 15, 2022, a temporary restraining order (TRO) was granted by the Los Angeles Superior Court, preventing Alice from harassing Ioan and Bianca and ordering Alice to keep 100 yards/300 feet away from Ioan, Bianca, and their place of residence. She is also barred from mentioning Ioan and Bianca on her social media. By early March, Alice had already breached the terms of the TRO on her Instagram account, although some of the offending posts were quickly deleted. Alice continued to post on Instagram in breach of the TRO (more below), and she returned to Twitter in late May 2022, continuing to breach the TRO with abusive tweets.

    In June 2022, Alice fired her third lawyer, Leon. On August 2nd 2022, Alice's 54th birthday, Ioan's request for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO) was granted. The court ordered a permanent restraining order for three years, expiring on August 2, 2025. Alice did not attend the hearing because she's a coward and has since breached the DVRO by posting about IG directly and indirectly on Twitter and Instagram and using her socks and relatives to comment on them.

    Alice has falsely claimed that she had no money to pay for food or legal representation and started a GoFundMe page to try and raise $25,000. In a court filing by Alice in August 2023, she claimed she spent $3,000 a month on groceries. It was later revealed that Ioan had been paying her legal and all other bills all this time.

    In December 2022, Ioan filed documents with the court requesting that they order the family home be sold as he could no longer afford to pay the mortgage and expenses by himself. His statement indicated that Alice was dipping into their joint account up until April 2022 and that he was paying all her credit card expenses. He alleges that she has more money than he currently does and intends to investigate where over $100,000 of funds held by Alice were spent during the past year. This court filing can be downloaded here: https://tattle.life/attachments/1948177514-pdf.1785079/

    Restraining Orders sought by Ella/Alice against Bianca and Ioan

    On 31 May 2023, Ioan and Alice's daughter Ella filed requests for restraining orders against her father and Bianca Wallace, following an incident at her father's apartment on 26 May 2023. A disturbing pap shot was set up by Alice using her eldest after the RO application was revealed. Alice Evans and daughter Ella, 13, seen for the first time after filing restraining order | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    Evans vs. Gruffudd Request for Domestic Violence Restraining Order
    Evans vs. Wallace Request for Civil Harassment Restraining Orders

    On 20 June 2023, the following documents were filed:

    All declarations re: RO request (redacted & with exhibits)
    Evans v. Wallace - Declaration of Ioan Gruffudd
    Evans v. Wallace - Declaration of Bianca Wallace
    Evans v. Wallace - Declaration of Dr. Gerald LeGagnoux
    Evans v. Wallace - Declaration of Iris Braydon

    On 23 June 2023, the Judge issued a minute order dismissing the restraining order request against Bianca by Ella.
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    The following is a summary of the court reporter's transcript:
    Court Transcript Summary - Evans v. Wallace & Evans v. Gruffudd

    The PRO hearing against Ioan by Ella never took place on 13 July 2023 as Ella failed to attend. The Judge issued a minute order dismissing the request for a DVRO against Ioan.

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    Custody battle and Alice's "Win" due to Parental Alienation


    Alice displayed how she was engaging in parental alienation constantly on her social media and in court documents. Alice said that the child evaluator (when they were doing a collaborative divorce) was biased towards Ioan. Alice also stated that big E "lasted 20 mins before running out in tears" in therapy and little E "is not ready for therapy yet". On July 12, 2022, Ioan filed for 50/50 custody of the children. Link to court petition is here.

    Court documents show that Ioan's visitation with the children is being sabotaged by Alice. Ioan was supposed to have visitation every Saturday and three video calls a week with the children, by court order. No shows and walk-outs by the children were documented by him. The eldest child was 'home schooled' by Alice and Ioan described Ella as 'isolated'. The daughters have been weaponized against him by Alice. Custody was due to be determined in court in February 2023 but this was delayed until 13 July 2023 as Alice requested a continuance in order to deal with her criminal trial for breaching the DVRO which was then dropped but not because the breaches didn't happen.

    The two daughters reside with Alice full time as her parental alienation was sadly successful. Ioan has given up on have any custody or visitation, although he fought hard for the children via all legal means. Ioan and Alice signed a custody stipulation which give Alice 100% custody due to her PA. This avoided the need for a court battle over the children. The failed RO showed that he and Bianca are not safe with the children due to the very real threat of assaults and false allegations being made by them. He would always need a witness present so custody for Ioan was never a realistic option.

    'Ioan Gruffudd would do anything for his girls not to suffer this.' KATIE HIND reveals bombshell documents that raise new questions about ex Alice Evans's story of being destitute | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    A UK Lawyer and Tattler had this to say about the PA:

    "In the UK, it is a basic family law principle that delay is prejudicial/harmful to children. The PA will have done so much damage that even if Ioan gets a technical win, it is doomed to fail in practice. The Judge may even decide that there is no point in ordering him custody because it would cause more harm to the children and would fail. However I have also seen mothers sent to prison for breaching contact orders and custody being reversed."

    Child Custody Evaluation - Another Alice "Win" due to an Incompetent Evaluator


    On June 29, 2023, the Judge appointed a minor's counsel/GAL to represent both Ella and Elsie. On July 13, 2023, the judge issued a minute order addressing both therapy and schooling for the children. Alice opposed having a Child Custody evaluation. On August 17, 2023, an order was filed appointing Dr. Suzanne Dupée to conduct the child custody evaluation scheduled to start in October, 2023. This report was delivered late in February 2024 and IG's legal team expressed dismay at the failure of Dupee to do her job properly despite the cost of $35,000 charged by Dupee. Dupee has numerous negative reviews online about the quality of her work. Alice said she was happy with Dupee's report which speaks to the quality of the report.

    Alice Breaks the DVRO Repeatedly


    Alice was reported to the police for breaches of the DVRO and court records indicate she was arrested in December 2022. She had a court hearing scheduled on January 26, 2023 in relation to two breaches of the restraining order; she didn't turn up initially and a bench warrant was issued to arrest her. She attended court on January 30, 2023 and pleaded not guilty. She was assigned a public defender Daniel Stefanic when we now know she had plenty of money to pay for a lawyer herself (revealed by Ioan's forensic accountant). She had a pretrial hearing on February 23, 2023, another one on March 9, 2023 and a readiness hearing on March 14, 2023. The charges were dropped on March 9, probably as it was an online violation and a first offence. It was covered by the Daily Mail (see below).

    Alice Evans LAUGHS outside LA court after facing arrest for refusing to show up to earlier hearing | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)
    Charges against Ioan Gruffudd's estranged wife Alice Evans are DROPPED (archive.is)
    Screenshot of portion of Sheriff's Department report

    As of 2024, Alice is brazenly breaking the DVRO under her own name on Instagram as her sock accounts on X were exposed by Police. Some of this was documented in the filing of 24/09/24 by Langlois, Ioan's lawyer.

    Ioan Gruffudd accuses ex-wife Alice Evans of violating restraining order AGAIN by continuing 'harassing' social media posts about him and new fiancée Bianca Wallace | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    Professionals Comment on Alice


    In September 2023, in a post to her Instagram blaming Tattle, Alice claimed "My main worry is that these nasty comments are forever and my kids will see them in years to come. It terrifies me." Alice provided no examples of these comments. In March 2021, Ann Buscho, a Clinical Psychologist, wrote an open letter to Alice in Psychology Today captured for posterity here: An Open Letter to Alice Evans About Your Divorce | Psychology Today United Kingdom (archive.is)

    Alice indirectly replied to Ann's letter through a post she made on her own Instagram profile now deleted but captured here: Ioan Gruffudd’s Estranged Wife Says He ‘Abandoned’ Their Kids, They Cry Every Day | Alice Evans, Ioan Gruffudd | Just Jared: Celebrity News and Gossip | Entertainment (archive.is)

    There was also very thorough commentary on the case by the Editor of Honestly Yours in August 2022.

    The Actress Using Instagram to Abuse Her Husband | by Shannon Ashley | Honestly Yours | Medium (archive.is)

    Legal commentary on Alice by Andrea Burkhart


    Andrea Burkhart is a lawyer who posts videos on YouTube and X as a "legal color commentator". Her playlist of videos related to Ioan & Alice can be found here: Andrea Burkhart video playlist. Alice claimed that Ioan and Andrea were 'canoodling' after she was thrown out of court by the Bailiff in the hearing of 09/09/24 because she photographed both of them in the same shot in court.

    Also a Tattler posted this apropos post:

    Since I'm a law professor with 20+ yrs in practice, I'm gonna wade in [...] after mediating a ton of divorces and custody cases, I feel like flexing. Bianca is not: a felon convicted of multiple violent offenses, a currently-using addict of any sort, an contagious TB patient, or an active Nazi. So, no, the judge won't give two shits about the lover-- or when the relationship started, either. That's no fault divorce. If the lover poses a substantial, imminent threat to the children, then maybe there's some adjustment to visitation like lover not left alone with children for significant periods or not allowed to drive them (active addiction). The lover and the dad have been in a relationship for two years which in family law is a long time. Often the agreement is to wait for the new relationship to last six months before introducing the kids to the lover. There's no revolving door here. And who gives a shit when the lover and husband got together? Really? He didn't pass on HIV he picked up from a random bang. Fucking around on a spouse isn't against the law. Which Alice should be happy about.

    And do you think Alice gives a fuck about the sanctity of marriage and family when she isolates and warps her daughters. "They're either with me or they can fuck off?" What the actual fuck? Parenting, family is not a zero-sum game. Except to Alice. What about teaching her daughters that their dad is a lesser creature whose wants, needs, and essential humanity mean nothing? That his only intent is to hurt them. That he is nothing but an ATM, an emotional punching bag, a scapegoat.

    Courts understand that the children of a marriage will be upset, angry, sad is; this is not a reason to keep a divorcing couple in a holding pattern for years and years. There's value in the family members collaborating in both the end of the marriage and then moving into the next phase of their lives. Dealing with pain, anger, and sadness is way better than festering online or staying in a shit-tastic marriage. Maybe seeing their dad in a healthy adult relationship will help the girls down the line.


    Suspected Alice Sock accounts on Twitter from May - Nov 2023


    In May 2023, many suspect Twitter sock accounts were deployed around the time of the elder daughter's filing for a temporary restraining order (TRO) was announced. It seems Alice's lawyer Marie was able to mostly stop Alice engaging in social media abuse of Ioan and Bianca until she was fired. Sock accounts seemed to be Alice's way of evading the DVRO, even though she was still breaking it as it's abuse by proxy.

    Suspect socks that are currently deleted/deactivated/suspended -
    1. @janellek31941 (deleted)
    2. @dontminors5978 (deleted)
    3. @AbusesBian54734 (deleted)
    4. @documents_78378 (deleted)
    5. @apocalypse15587 (suspended)
    6. @mitzicooee89363 (deactivated)
    7. @tameeekimoo (deactivated)
    8. @IHateGossip2009 (deleted)
    9. @2001_juven17 (active, last post June 2023)
    10. @doodledreeeeeam (active, last post June 2023)
    11. @fooledagai31458 (active, last post June 2023)
    12. @biancaschin3425 (active, last post June 2023, tweets like a teenager)
    13. @Lady962335Dog (active, last post July 2023)
    14. @aliceevansgruf3 (suspended)
    15. @JudgeMerc14932 [deleted on 4 Sep 2023]
    16. @Whisper1508848 [suspended on 6 Sep 2023]
    17. @Anybodywit25778 [created c. 5 October 2023 to assist with spreading the video Ella took at Ioan and Bianca's apartment. Deleted 6 October 2023]
    18. @new_lips [created 6 Sep 2023, active, last post October 2023]
    19. @Tattlemember [created c. 5 October 2023] - created to post the video Ella took at Ioan and Bianca's apartment
    20. @DearAbby337232 [created c. 6 October 2023]
    Many believe that Tone is an Alice sock too - @TonyEva92385840

    Someone on X noticed that the suspect accounts have Alicewhoever as their email address. What a coincidence!

    Alice Evans & Ioan Gruffudd #278 Stop harassing your ex, ya creep | Page 10 | Tattle Life

    Compilation of tweets from suspected Alice socks

    It's recommend that you download these files rather than use the online reader. The documents are also OCR-ed (as far as possible) to be able to search through it. The socks are grouped by chronological order of first appearance. These screenshots were put together by @Welp.

    Don't Abuse Minors twitter screenshots
    Socking Hell

    Ioan and Bianca's Engagement


    Ioan and Bianca have been in a relationship since June 2021, according to court documents, after meeting while Ioan was working on Harrow in August 2020. They live together in LA with their dog Bubba Bear. In April 2023, Bianca wrote about her MS diagnosis and her abusive marriage - Bianca Wallace Telegraph article on her Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis. Bianca travelled with Ioan to Wales in August 2023 where he worked at the ComicCon - Ioan Gruffudd Interview at ComicCon Wales. Despite Alice's attempt to split up the couple through constant abuse, they seem very united and happy, and Bianca has been warmly welcomed by Ioan's family and friends. In January 2024, they got engaged.

    Common Alice Themes Repeated Ad Nauseum


    1) Alice claims to be living in "abject poverty"


    Alice plays her old deceitful abusive tricks of "he's a deadbeat dad" or we are going to starve/be homeless constantly. It appears to show a definite pattern of abuse with the intention of causing him personal and reputational harm, often timed to his work trips.
    2) Alice's Histrionic Allegations

    Many Tattlers believe Alice to have Histrionic Personality Disorder as well as being a narcissist. She likes to do is claim everybody around her was very upset, usually at Alice's plight. Over the last few years the girls would have been upset for good reason, but Alice would have undoubtedly made things worse by exaggerating, not allaying their fears, and telling them how bad their father and Bianca are.

    1. Alice claimed Gloria was crying when she read Alice's interview with the Daily Mail in November 2021.
    2. Alice claimed Wayne (trustee of the marital home that Ioan bought with his money) was crying because Ioan had to sell the house.
    3. Alice claimed the younger daughter was crying after Ioan posted the photo announcing his relationship with Bianca.
    4. Alice claimed both children were crying due to Bianca.
    5. Alice claimed the elder daughter was crying, and "emotionally cried out that she never wanted to see Ioan again" due to Bianca making Instragram posts about the abuse she had faced from Alice.
    6. Alice claimed Ioan was crying at Alice tweeting, which she then mocks.
    7. Alice claimed Alice was crying, "for our kids".
    8. Alice claimed her grandad almost cried when as a child, she informed him she was giving up meat.
    9. Alice claimed both kids were "bawling their eyes out at losing their home".
    10. Alice claimed that Gloria and the kids were "bawling their eyes out" because Ioan had allegedly fired her (this occurred in early 2022).
    11. Alice claimed she was "bawling her eyes out" at her dentist's office.
    12. Alice tweeted this: 'Help. He's told us he's leaving us. I don't know what to do' after Ioan left the family home. Ioan has broken my heart TWICE: ALICE EVANS gives account of rejection and agony of family destroyed | Daily Mail Online (archive.is)

    Domestic Abuse Support


    Tattler's own RTP has some choice words for Alice's minimisation of her abuse of Ioan, Bianca and others.

    “Desperate, heartbroken, and angry” text messages can also be astoundingly abusive—I’m so sick of them diminishing ACTUAL VERBAL & EMOTIONAL ABUSE to just a couple of frustrated correspondences. That’s not what that was. She was berating him, threatening him, gaslighting him, harassing him, insulting him, attempting to goad him, the list goes on and fuckin on. I think what upsets me most is the possibility that folks in here (including lurkers) are reading this GROSS minimization of abuse time and again and might finally start to doubt the legitimacy of their OWN traumas. When FMs call Alice’s cruelty just “desperate and heartbroken,” it can be so easy for victims of abuse to think that, hey, maybe THEIR former loved ones weren’t really being abusive but were just “upset” and “sad,” and that they don’t have a right to be traumatized or that their pain isn’t valid. I probs sound dumb but like, it can make you question or even SYMPATHIZE with your aggressors. If anyone needs to hear it, or has ever needed to hear it: Your trauma is valid. NO amount of rhetorical gymnastics can redesign the behavior of the people who’ve hurt you."

    For anyone (male or female) who would like to get support there are some links below.

    https://www.mankind.org.uk/
    https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
    https://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/information/young-people/advice/domestic-abuse
    Narcissistic Abuse: What It Looks like and What to Do - MedCircle

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