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getawaywithit
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I wonder if there is some level of enmeshment in the Deyes family. Nothing wrong with being a close family and doing things together, but it’s as though no one has moved on from that nuclear family unit even as adults, and the partners the children make just get brought into the Deyes family to the point where they almost seem isolated from others.
When you look at everything:
— Main summer holiday as adults being taken with the entire family (even with the adult children in couples and both able to easily afford holidays on their own), at least in pre-COVID years
— The main friendship group being the siblings, Alfie in particular not branching out to meaningful adult friendships of his own… we’ve commented for years that Alfie and Zoe and Poppy and Sean would almost spend too much time together, and their social lives revolve around each other, holidays taken together, etc. Poppy has that weird obsession with Zoe, etc.
— Christmas (and other holidays) spent with the Deyes, recreating childhood set-up, no real inclusion of Zoe or Sean’s family and seemingly an aversion to changing the nuclear family unit. Alfie always looks uncomfortable visiting Zoe’s family, like a high school boy who shows up to his teenage girlfriend’s family get together, not an adult man who understands Zoe’s family is his family now, too.
— Alfie getting matching tattoos with both his parents lol
— Alfie and Poppy both appearing to mirror their parents’ marriage timeline and Alfie justifying his decisions by bringing up his parents and how they didn’t get married until late in life.
— Alfie’s mom making that remark about not having a baby/marriage until 30 as though she has a right to dictate the timeline of her adult son’s partnership, or as though they were two teenagers talking about getting pregnant and not two adults (Add to this her horrified face in the background when it looked like Alfie was proposing that time he got Zoe fireworks).
I almost wonder if so many of his issues around Zoe have to do with an unhealthy attachment to his family and his sense of himself as belonging to that family unit and perhaps feeling as the only way to do things what his family believes in and encourages— and in a way it has contributed to his kind of juvenile mindset.
When you look at everything:
— Main summer holiday as adults being taken with the entire family (even with the adult children in couples and both able to easily afford holidays on their own), at least in pre-COVID years
— The main friendship group being the siblings, Alfie in particular not branching out to meaningful adult friendships of his own… we’ve commented for years that Alfie and Zoe and Poppy and Sean would almost spend too much time together, and their social lives revolve around each other, holidays taken together, etc. Poppy has that weird obsession with Zoe, etc.
— Christmas (and other holidays) spent with the Deyes, recreating childhood set-up, no real inclusion of Zoe or Sean’s family and seemingly an aversion to changing the nuclear family unit. Alfie always looks uncomfortable visiting Zoe’s family, like a high school boy who shows up to his teenage girlfriend’s family get together, not an adult man who understands Zoe’s family is his family now, too.
— Alfie getting matching tattoos with both his parents lol
— Alfie and Poppy both appearing to mirror their parents’ marriage timeline and Alfie justifying his decisions by bringing up his parents and how they didn’t get married until late in life.
— Alfie’s mom making that remark about not having a baby/marriage until 30 as though she has a right to dictate the timeline of her adult son’s partnership, or as though they were two teenagers talking about getting pregnant and not two adults (Add to this her horrified face in the background when it looked like Alfie was proposing that time he got Zoe fireworks).
I almost wonder if so many of his issues around Zoe have to do with an unhealthy attachment to his family and his sense of himself as belonging to that family unit and perhaps feeling as the only way to do things what his family believes in and encourages— and in a way it has contributed to his kind of juvenile mindset.
CinnamonBun
Chatty Member
What a massive coincidence, she starts couch to 5K, just as she’s starting advertise Gym Shark. From the woman who barely leaves the sofa never mind the house.
lozzapaloozza
VIP Member
Why are they always banging on about sex toys? They’re the last group of women anyone would go to for advice on sex. I’ve never known a group of women more boring and vanilla in all my life
Juststopit
VIP Member
What in the ever loving fuck is she doing?
Ain’t nothing bad about growing out the bush guys
Pubic hair is normal at all that 
Cococoleman
Active member
Alfie saying he needs to take more time for himself, whilst sat in a field with a coffee on a Friday. They really don’t live in the real world and with everything that is happening it comes across as quite socially deaf.
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electricmallows
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She blocked me because I asked in the Q&A if she ever does anything without getting paid 
romansalad
Well-known member
I feel like Zoe saying she has shown her birth video to a lot of people is a hardcore version of people making you sit through their holiday photos, what else can you do than to politely smile like poor Mark did
Laughingforlife
VIP Member
Oh Zoella be quiet
rosieposie87
Chatty Member
Alfie getting matching tattoos with his parents, and just his relationship in general with them shows he is capable of feeling and expressing strong love. Same with how he is with his daughter, a lot of us were pleasantly surprised at how openly and expressively loving he’s been about her and fatherhood in general.
Which is why I have never bought the whole ‘oh he’s just too awkward to be romantic with Zoe, he wouldn’t know what to say in a proposal etc’. He just doesn’t have those feelings for her, plain and simple. Obviously he cares for her and likes her well enough but I have never believed that he truly loves her.
Which is why I have never bought the whole ‘oh he’s just too awkward to be romantic with Zoe, he wouldn’t know what to say in a proposal etc’. He just doesn’t have those feelings for her, plain and simple. Obviously he cares for her and likes her well enough but I have never believed that he truly loves her.
coconochanel
VIP Member
The funniest thing about the whole Zoella site is its not even on brand...
Article about the best Rose wine-Zoe doesn't drink
Articles about sex and vibrators-Zoe doesn't even kiss on camera let alone talk about sex
Articles about cooking-Zoe lives on takeaways
Articles about Marriage etc-well lets not even mention that!
Article about the best Rose wine-Zoe doesn't drink
Articles about sex and vibrators-Zoe doesn't even kiss on camera let alone talk about sex
Articles about cooking-Zoe lives on takeaways
Articles about Marriage etc-well lets not even mention that!
coconochanel
VIP Member
Recap for newbies..
Well much like the title suggests our Slobella has done very little...
She uploaded a vlog but that was because it was an #AD for Hello fresh
She went to a food festival and ate pizza and Churros
She went to Alfie's thug mate twins birthday party
Oh and she went with her mum and gran to see Dianne in the Strictly tour.
THAT IS IT!
anyway carry on the chit chat if you can think of anything to discuss
Mod edit do you mind if I change the title to this? It's a bit better than another iteration of so boring no title
Well much like the title suggests our Slobella has done very little...
She uploaded a vlog but that was because it was an #AD for Hello fresh
She went to a food festival and ate pizza and Churros
She went to Alfie's thug mate twins birthday party
Oh and she went with her mum and gran to see Dianne in the Strictly tour.
THAT IS IT!
anyway carry on the chit chat if you can think of anything to discuss
Mod edit do you mind if I change the title to this? It's a bit better than another iteration of so boring no title
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xits_jjx
VIP Member
Idk where people got this misconception of Alfie wanting to get out there and travel the world. He had years to do that before having a baby. Obviously Zoe wasn’t stopping him cause he’s been places without her. He doesn’t want to. He likes the idea of things instead of putting them into practice.