When I got with my husband he was already married (I'm a scummy homewrecker i know, but there's a reason I'm saying this) and he moved out because he wanted to be with me, but his lawyer said if we were ever seen together romantically his wife could try for much more money in the divorce. His wife was wealthy and he was told she may hire a PI.
So he got a separate apartment from me. But we still hung out. We still went to stores together. We didn't hold hands in public but we walked my dog together if he was at my place for the day. We would get lunch or walk to the park. But we would not show affection in public. If we got caught together, we were just two friends going shopping/taking a walk. Plausible deniability was a big thing.
This went on for a 13 mos until his divorce was finalized. Then we got married like a month later.
That all being said, I totally understand why people would want to keep things secret for a certain amount of time, as there can be reasons for it that others don't consider, but to never be seen anywhere together at all (within this year at least, 2020 i get) seems so weird to me on so many levels.
Like my husband could have to be paying spousal support for years or been dragged through the coals in court, and we still went food shopping together and walked my dog? Tom could step out with her to do an errand and just say "she's only a friend."
Every experience is different the whole thing just seems weird af to me and I'm saying that as someone who had a secret relationship for like 2 years and had to keep it secret for 13 mos.
And again I know I'm scummy but we fell in love what can i say.
I second Clara's statement. Never ever should you apologize for falling in love. As TH one said, you cannot control your heart or who you fall in love with and that's so true.
Granted, there are some situations when other people get hurt in the process but one should always go to bed content when following one's heart.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us and I'm glad that you were able to find your happy ending despite of the adversity.
That being said, this is exactly why I find it weird.
I was talking to some of my friends about this situation and I kept coming back with a comparison between TH & ZA and Cavill and Cuoco.
Henry, when he made his first movie, wasn't all that known so there was a PR stunt (we later found out) where he was 'dating' Hayley Cuoco. She was the best paid actress in TV around that time and she gave him the exposure he needed to get his career going.
There were only like 3 photos of them holding hands or going out for a bite to eat and that was it.
I sometimes wonder if this is the same agenda TH and ZA have / had. They were only seen in public a couple of times, sort of as to get the gossip going, but ever since July 2020 (when the alleged visit to the vet happened [I'm sticking to the alleged as I never really saw any proof myself])
Maybe they are friends and TH was helping ZA get her career to take off. If that was the case, I commend him for his efforts, they paid off.
It's been more than a year and nothing. I'm sorry but that's weird. I will not stop saying that it is.
The other day I came across this quote on IG and it made sense:
You can be private, not confirming a relationship yet being seen in public together. Those are my 2 cents
At the time of Tom and Taylor, Taylor was going through a real shit time through the media. If you watch her “miss Americana” docu on Netflix it really highlights the major struggles she goes through and Calvin was an asshole to her. Both of them were in a bad place and I say Tom and Taylor were “right person, wrong time”
. (Something like that). The unspoken suggestion is that like most actors he is careful with his diet (watching the carbs).
