I hate that she is dismissing valid concerns with the way some influencers do things. I've seen many, many people not mark things as per the ASA guidelines, and to be honest they have monetized their lives into a business, and part of that is complying with the guidelines of said business.
Sorry hun, but if you insist on being an influencer to make cash, then do it properly. Don't belittle people's feedback on shady business practices, by gas lighting people and saying it doesn't matter when in any other job you would be disciplined for not following the rules.
The rules are there for a reason, to protect consumers.
It's not 'wild' or 'toxic' to want to hold people accountable in any industry, including influencers.
As for it being 'embarrassing' well that's down to personal preference. I think it is embarrassing that you would 'condone' inadvisable business practices in order to continue to easily make money, rather than use your privileged position to set an example. I would also be embarrassed at being so entitled that I think that I'm untouchable and that no one should get to question my business practises, and it's sad to do so.