I have never posted because I never have anything useful to say lol, however after seeing Flora's "buy me a coffee" site I dm'd her about it as it felt wrong to me that she as a succesful person was asking for freebies? She responded immediatley and we had a back and forth about it for over 2 hours continously. I was shocked at how speedily she was responding, she would open my message as soon as I'd sent it even when I'd wait a while before replying and she'd start typing instantly even when I had only sent a part of my message and was still typing more (due to ig dm word limit). I have followed her for a while and dm'd her in the past and thought she was sweet, so maybe she responded so quickly because she recognised I was a fan which I once was. I'd include screenshots but there were 10+ from the convo and I didn't want to spam here as they were quite wordy, but her main points where:
- She doesn't make money from her blog so is asking for donations to support her, said she operated it at a loss and when I asked for clarification she admitted that her brand is not at a loss ANYMORE so a bit confusing
- I told her that her enagement from her blog/ig is what gets her the sponsorships that DO make her money, even if the blog itself is free...
- Said she was "offended" that I didn't see her free content as something I'd send her money for because it's free in the first place
- She implied she deserves money for her blog because "everyone should be paid for their work" (won't comment on the irony with shreddy...) even though she CHOOSES to put her blog out for free
- Compared her writing a blog and asking for money to philip green (a bit random) charging customers for clothes in topshop? which I said I did not understand as he is offering a product, whereas there is no product/perk for donating to her link it is literally just a donation to her bank...
- She went on a tangent about only women are judged for asking for money but when male influencers have patreons no one cares? Completely irrelevant to my point and I said nothing to suggest this
- Patronised me by saying "if you want to start a blog and work for 4 years before making money please do!" (again a bit weird because I never said I wanted to) and I responded with "unfortunately I don't have the luxury of generational wealth to cushion me to work for that long with no income"
Anyway, it was the oddest exchange I've ever had with an influencer as she really committed a lot of time and energy into it, it ended with her saying we're going to have to "agree to disagree". Unfortunately she came across as v entitled and out of touch so she lost a long-term follower
EDIT: sorry if this is too off-topic on a grace thread, I just thought people would find it interesting!