I need advice!
I've spent the last few years losing and gaining the same half a stone, through sensible eating, various degrees of 'treats' and mostly out exercising eating a little bit too much.
I reached my lowest weight in years for my wedding last month but since then I just can't seem to stop eating. I've had nutrition coaching previously, I've calorie counted, I've done Joe Wicks but I am my own worst enemy, and as soon as I start to see progress I let things slip, and stop losing.
I don't have a huge amount to lose, but what I need to do is change my relationship with food I think. I know what I should do, I know how/what I should eat to lose weight but can I actually stick to anything? Can I fuck.
What I need is to have someone/something to hold me to account... can anyone recommend any coaches/plans they are or have followed?
My biggest issue at the moment is that I had a minor op last week which has me out of action exercise-wise for at least 3 months and between not exercising and comfort eating I know I will balloon if I don't do something to nip it in the bud.
Help!
That sounds like you've had a lot of stress recently.
What are you comfort eating
for? That might sound like a daft question with the answer, well, durrr, comfort, you Dragony Twat, comfort! - but what is it
exactly you are gaining from it?
Is it a warm, sleepy carb feeling? The buzz of a ton of Haribo, E Numbers and chocolate? The feeling that you've been a good girl and good girls get treats? Punishment because you don't deserve to feel and look as good as you did on your Wedding Day? A desperate craving for food because you've not eaten much? Protein for an instinctive attempt to help heal, but it's been mixed up with high fat, high carb, high salt, highly processed stuff? Not mobile enough to shop and cook, so quick, easy and out of a packet? Is it your instincts going mad because you restricted massively in the dieting phase so your head is saying FAMINE'S OVER LADS, LET'S GET THIS DOWN OUR NECKS JUST IN CASE THERE'S ANOTHER ONE SOON?
I'll give an example. Luxury cakes and chocolates are often seen as a treat food. They're high in fat and sugar and carbs on the whole. They also tend to look quite pretty.
But something else can be a treat - something sweet, brightly coloured, attractive and with some fat. But also some vitamins, minerals, calcium and the like. It's also quite expensive for something that tastes nice but isn't actually essential. Now you might laugh or tell me to piss right off - but that something, if you think about it, can also be an absolute treat;
Strawberries
Banana
Blueberries
Nectarines
Passion fruit
Pineapple
Raspberries
Passionfruit
all cut up to look pretty and served with some thick, clotted cream, a drizzle of maple syrup and a scattering of pecans. You'll also likely feel a lot better after eating a ton of that compared to the same weight in Sour Mix.
or be a total tosser like me and chuck some edible flowers on top.
A half pounder with cheese, chips, onion rings, a can of Coke and some ice cream can also feel like a treat. A greasy, salty treat. But so can a fuck off expensive piece of steak, well seasoned and served with chips with grated Parmesan on top and a salad with lettuce, tomatoes, cucumber, red onion, etc, etc, etc. Or a big old jacket potato with cream cheese, spring onions, beans, more salad....Or a duck breast glazed in some proper marmalade on salad with beetroot and potatoes...Or a high quality burger, salad, mushrooms, egg, good cheese, chips,
but no shitty bun that's only there to give you something to hold onto, half pint of mayo and burger sauce to grease it down, double bag of onion rings and then sugary sour drink and some more sweetened lubricant on top...
Those 'treats' that I've suggested are full of nutrition and will fill a hole more effectively than the sicky feeling after a Haribofest, burger blow out, three packets of salt n vinegar, cakes and you're still hungry because you've only had sugar or a cold can of sugar/acid to try and cut through the sensation of grease and salt.
(obviously, if you're vegetarian or vegan you're way out of my expertise - but there is a world of food outside a breadcrumbed meat substitute or cook chill pizza.)
There's also a role for how you see yourself; are you the person who wants cake when you're tired, stressed or unhappy - or could you be the person who craves things that are sweet and light and pretty when you're tired, stressed and unhappy? They're not the same.
How about being the person who nourishes their body with high quality food and their eyes/soul with the brightness of instagram worthy meals and fruits whilst they're healing? Could you be that person? Whose meals look wonderful and are enjoyed throughout, not crammed down in desperation or a sense of their never being quite enough?
not being an angel 
finally seeing some progress after feeling like nothing was happening for a while
