thetis I love your approach to this and the goal to improve your relationship with food. It all sounds really balanced and sensible
I follow this lady called the nude nutritionist on Instagram, I actually paid for one of her programs to sort out my binge eating (it’s online modules that you do, with videos, but once you sign up you have lifelong access, it’s not like an 8 week program or anything). Anyway, she says that when she took a more balanced approach to things rather than yoyo dieting and restricting, she lost 20kgs over 4 years. She said that works out to be 100g per week, so if she was doing a conventional diet and weighing inregularly she would’ve gotten frustrated, felt bad about herself, and ‘given up’. I really related to that from years of dieting and fluctuating weight. I’m still working on being more balanced, and changing old ways of thinking, but I am definitely finding it is working really well.
Im not in anyway dissing diets or calorie counting for people who it works for, it just doesn’t work for me. I either lose the weight (I’ve lost 30kgs twice in my life) and then can’t keep it off, or I try and lose a bit or nothing, and then give up and keep bingeing. So restricting doesn’t work for me in that way.