Lily's hair struggle can be defined by one phrase: She wants to have the cake and eat it too.
She wants to have healthy hair while also:
- Straightening her hair everyday;
- Curling her hair on top of the straightening;
- Dying her hair;
- Manhandling her hair constantly (e.g. using elastic hair ties that cause breakage, putting her hair up in these crazy pineapple hairstyles which create knots);
- Sleeping on her unprotected hair (no hair wrap, silk scarf, or silk pillow);
- Eating like shit;
- Not using appropriate products (I guess Olaplex won't sponsor her...).
She wants instant fixes to her problems without having to make any kind of concessions. At some point, you have to make choices. You have to figure out your priorities. If you want results you are going to have to give up something. Whether that be dying your hair, or straightening (preferably both in her case, considering how dire the situation has become). She also has no patience or consistency. She hasn't even begun taking the supplement pills that she's already making excuses for herself about them (how she hates taking pills because they make her nauseous), which tells me it won't last long. Not that supplements will fix her problem.
She claims that her hair "could handle the heat" during renos and therefore heat processing must not be the issue now... For one, just because your hair once looked smooth from using products full of silicones doesn't mean it was healthy inside... Her hair--even at its "best"--has always looked limp, overprocessed, dry, and frizzy. And I mean, why would you ever assume that just because something (which is objectively really damaging) was "working" before, it will keep working forever? It's obvious that with time her hair is going to be less and less resilient to all this bullshit, especially when she's gone through something like pregnancy in the meantime. As she likes to always point out, her body's different from pre-pregnancy now--if it's different on the outside then chances are it's different on the inside too! Most likely her body won't be able to handle damage she was doing to it when she was younger, and that includes her hair! It's like how you can eat tons of candy as a kid and it won't affect you, whereas if you did that at 30 you'll likely feel sick from it. Why is it so hard for her to believe that it might be the same with hair styling?
I seriously think she is confusing hair loss and hair breakage. Hair loss can be caused by things like stress, hormonal imbalance due to pregnancy/coming on or off the pill/thyroid issues and so on. It just means you'll notice a lot of hair shedding (more than normal) all of a sudden, but then with time your hair growth will resume as normal (in terms of pregnancy related hair loss, your hair growth usually will be back to normal by your baby's 1st birthday). Now hair breakage on the other hand is more commonly caused by coloring/heat processing, not having regular enough haircuts (the split ends will travel up your hair causing it to break higher up), being too rough with your hair while brushing it or while towel drying, tight/repetitive hairstyles (if you wear your hair in a ponytail everyday it could wind up breaking around where you tie it), etc. When you look at Lily's hair, it's crystal clear that her hair has snapped in the middle. It's not just around the crown, it's literally all over. It's incredibly obvious that she's suffering from hair BREAKAGE, which is due to her styling habits as mentioned above. The strands of hair she always points to are NOT hair that has 'regrown', it's hair that has SNAPPED in half!
Finally, I will never ever get the logic behind the "I put my face on the internet everyday for my job so I can't have my hair look bad" excuse she gives herself for not doing the curly hair method / refusing to give up heat tools. It's clearly just a lazy excuse when the reality is she just doesn't want to put in any kind of effort toward anything...and she really just doesn’t like curly hair, she ultimately just WANTS to have straight hair. Killing her hair with straighteners everyday is just easier for her. Tell me one thing Lily--what looks worse? Having 'natural' hair for a few months as you transition into getting some nice curls back again, OR having this yellow/green-ish, broken, snappy, dry but greasy, uneven, thinning head of hair for years and years and years? With scenario no. 1, it'll only last a few months and it'll only get BETTER, whereas with scenario no. 2, it'll last a lifetime and it'll only get WORSE. For me, it'd be an easy choice. NO ONE on the internet cares if her hair looks 'weird' for a few months, because her hair already looks like pure shit RIGHT NOW! Giving up heat literally couldn't possibly make her hair look worse than it does currently. She's delusional and hiding behind this "my job forces me to show my face" excuse when really the only thing stopping her is HERSELF and the internalized self-hatred she has for her natural hair (which she’s not willing to work on at all, not even for the sake of her daughter).
..I need more information on this. What happened?
People didn’t assume that because you are women...