Just wanted to put an alternative take on all the baby comments out there...
I've had 3 babies and each time I never felt the need to be prepared, nurserys ready, house all stocked up nor did i feel the need to only focus on the impending birth.
It didnt mean I was in denial, nor didnt love my baby nor did it mean i was under any illusion that my life would change & my house might be a little untidy.
I just dealt with it in a low key way.
I have a nice house with nice things, and my kids didnt slobber, shit or wreck everything the way people seem to be putting out as a given. Not saying this is always the case...but in my experience my kids didnt do this.
What im just putting out there, is a different approach/ perspective that people have when having babies.
We aren't all the same...some feel comfort in being incredibly prepared...some people arent overly bothered.
I was pretty laid back, knew my husband could get us anything we needed - but appreciate others aren't.
I also sent my sister to buy lots of the baby stuff. I knew she would love this...i knew i wouldn't. And it wasn't a precursor to not bonding with my children. I just knew she had the time & interest ...& I didnt.
Just a different pov from me.
Men are just as capable.
I dont think we should be putting her down for taking time out & doing fun things before her baby comes.
Just find it really surprising the attitudes from women on the roles & expectations of other women - in particular pregnant ones!
I've had 3 babies and each time I never felt the need to be prepared, nurserys ready, house all stocked up nor did i feel the need to only focus on the impending birth.
It didnt mean I was in denial, nor didnt love my baby nor did it mean i was under any illusion that my life would change & my house might be a little untidy.
I just dealt with it in a low key way.
I have a nice house with nice things, and my kids didnt slobber, shit or wreck everything the way people seem to be putting out as a given. Not saying this is always the case...but in my experience my kids didnt do this.
What im just putting out there, is a different approach/ perspective that people have when having babies.
We aren't all the same...some feel comfort in being incredibly prepared...some people arent overly bothered.
I was pretty laid back, knew my husband could get us anything we needed - but appreciate others aren't.
I also sent my sister to buy lots of the baby stuff. I knew she would love this...i knew i wouldn't. And it wasn't a precursor to not bonding with my children. I just knew she had the time & interest ...& I didnt.
Just a different pov from me.
Also...just wondering why there seems to be such a focus on Nikki doing these tasks? Why does she have to do the traditionally 'womens' tasks of cleaning, shopping tidying?I know. And the one she’s bought the replace it, looks nearly exactly the same….! Same sort of oversized slouchy style.
nonsense.
This afternoon she’s dicking around with pointless (and UGLY) vases and bowls for the guest room…. WHYYYYYY?!!!!!!!!!! Away get your house ready for your baby and get the clothes washed, cupboards stocked up with milk, get all that stuff sorted instead of hiding in a spare room playing with some shitty air fresheners trying to pretend it’s all not happening….!
Men are just as capable.
I dont think we should be putting her down for taking time out & doing fun things before her baby comes.
Just find it really surprising the attitudes from women on the roles & expectations of other women - in particular pregnant ones!
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