ETA: Long post but needed a rant
I’m still worried for her. As someone who’s been in a very toxic relationship before, they have ways of working their way back in. Feeding false narratives and promising they’ll change. When you’re at your lowest, the way she was yesterday, you’ll believe anything that they tell you because you want to think that you’re so important in their life that they’re willing to change for you. They know all the right things to say to get in your head and doubt yourself that the things they done to you actually even happened. They make you doubt your entire perception and gas light the fuck out of you. She’s a troubled girl. You can spot it a mile off.
These men know this and prey on the vulnerabilities. She was abused when she was younger, assumably by a family member or an adult that was supposed to protect her. Victims of Child abuse often repeat the cycle in adulthood, seeking out relationships similar to that they witnessed as a child because that’s all they know.
It’s so hard to not pity her. I’m so conflicted because she’s shown time and time again, that she’s not a very good person, at least it’s how she portrays herself on social media. Even if it’s a persona she puts on for clout, she has publicly humiliated and berated and bullied people online for the whole world to see.
She’s utterly alone in this world. Not one person from her family helped her when she was over there when it was clear as day something dodgy was going on. It was said on here countless times how isolated she was and people did mention strange patterns of bruising on Tiktok and she hoped on the biggest defence train she could find.
As someone who’s seen it first hand that screams red flag to me. Her family need to rally around her, get her off social media for a while, get her money, properties and dog sorted as much as they can or at least out of his hands and help her get back on her feet here. I’m not saying stop OF, she’s made her decision there and is financially independent so kudos to her.
But if she is lying, it’s absolutely disgusting and she needs help as well if she’s capable of coming on camera sobbing her eyes out and creating a false damaging narrative like that which only deters real victims of abuse from coming forward.
Regardless of what’s happening, this girl is extremely vulnerable, clearly going through some sort of mental health crisis and she needs a lot
help from her family and mental health services.