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Shesaidwhat?

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Fraus I appear to have done a thing 😬.
My neighbours I think son knocked to tell us she’ll be going into a care home soon (I’m gutted she was a lovely little thing) and was telling me that Dobby (her cat) was probably going to have to go to the local refuge. It was at this time my brain & mouth decided to part ways with each other and the words “we could take him” came out. Most women sneakily buy shoes when their husband is at work not me I adopt cats.
 
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Lornadoom

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Remember me? I was discharged from hospital today after receiving my first chemo, feeling weak and sick but so glad to be home - hopefully for the next 4 months of chemo.
 
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My car problem has been resolved. After being messed around by two garages I found a great third one (was recommended).
I had to decide whether to replace mashed engine with a second hand one, which couldn’t be guaranteed. As I’m a cautious soul I decided on a new to me car.
Now have a Focus. Bigger engine size and nice to drive.
Thanks Flumps for your advice.
Have been referred to a Mental Health team for depression . I was on the urgent list since the start of August. No idea how long the wait will be. Told my adult children how I actually am, rather than the front I’ve been presenting.
Posting here helps. You are all lovely.
 
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Alansbigplate

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I feel a bit pathetic at my age to be upset but some of my friends have posted photos and they’re having a nice old bbq together before lockdown comes back. I rarely get invites because they’re couples and I’m not usually bothered. Think it’s because of lockdown, they’d know I won’t see anyone again for a while 😔
 
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EddieBeds

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Hello all. Really hoping having done a mini grunka this doesn’t land inappropriately!

Firstly, sending the Frauen who need them some hugs and love. Life in general can be hard enough to deal with at the best of times without the current COVID world we’re navigating on top. You are all amazing, and always on hand to lend an ear on this lovely thread to anyone that needs it alongside providing a lot of laughs along the way.

Little Master EddieBeds decided he wanted out of my tummy earlier than planned. We are both well, just a bit of a fraught experience as it happened sooner than we expected! I’m biased but he’s as beautiful as his big brother and I’m so in love.

But HTRIA it meant I missed the chance to play with the carpet cleaner so no pictures of bin juice - genuinely gutted not to have seen it. Also weather comments - went into hospital and it was a mini heat wave, left hospital and it was freezing.

Will be lurking about here in between the chaos and at some point might attempt a grunka on the MT, though Poca’s recaps might have to suffice for now unless I’ve missed anything major?!

🔺 My waters began going earlier on in the week....not in the dramatic fashion often shown on TV just a steady trickle. My first was a planned c-section so never had that experience so was convinced I was just leaking something else? Fucking dumb in hindsight I know! 🤦‍♀️ So ended up being admitted for steroids to help his lungs and antibiotics. Not caught up on the MT yet but the Brenda pics/comments on Tuesday night provided a welcome distraction and I genuinely think I lost more waters as I hooted up a lung!

Our maternity unit was super busy (crazily so) so he wasn’t born until the early hours well over 24hrs later. My incredible Consultant went above and beyond and ended up delivering him which was a relief - the poor man had me crying on him a lot as my anxiety/ptsd from previous pregnancy losses got really bad. Contractions never got going so another c-section but all ok on that front.

Still in shock he’s here already to be honest mixed in with ALL the hormones. He’s so dinky compared to my first so all his clothes are massive but kinda cute too. We are back home now and I’m so pleased to be back with my older boy - was horrible to be apart from him for so long. Despite Covid-19 the midwives and other staff were incredible and I couldn’t fault them - I really hope the same is the case in other hospitals for other women. My other half, as designated birth partner was able to come during set visiting hours. He was also able to stay with me the majority of Wednesday when we thought we were headed to theatre earlier than it ended up being so all things considered it was ok.

Sorry realise that’s a very long winded, likely boring spoiler so will stop rattling on now!
 
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Jay-cloth Cow

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Fraus I need to grunka so sorry that this is totally out of the blue regarding the current convo but wondering if I can get opinions? I'm a little upset - went for a walk earlier, passed 2 men, one black one white (this is relevant) having a blazing row that was definitely race related. I saw who I assumed was the black guys girlfriend sat on a nearby wall sobbing her heart out, so I went over and asked her if she was ok, if there was anything I could do, and if she wanted a polo (all I had to offer). She yelled at me, said black people don't need or want white saviours, I should check my privilege and read up on black lives matter. I was just trying to be nice, but it's really bothered me...should I have acted differently? What else could I have done? Should I have just minded my own business?! Ugh I'm really uncomfortable and sad thinking I may have made things worse 😞
 
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MarmiteExtract

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Fraus, I finish quarantining today! It’s been long and rather dull and I’ve often found myself wishing I lived on a country estate that cost 370x my salary, but it’s all over now. By the state of the news, it looks like I’ll just about have time to pop my head out the window before the next lockdown is upon us.


 
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Pocahontas

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Congratulations to @Falkor for the thread title! You lucky, lucky dragon. Please can I go for a ride on your back and punch a fist to the sky while you roar with laughter?

Food, drink and whatever chat.

All welcome 🌸

 
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crystaleyesd

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GRUNKA CHOO CHOO.

I am definitely going to forget people, but CONGRATS to @EddieBeds, much love to @Alansbigplate and all the other fraus who are feeling a little fragile (moi aussi ❤), and YES to @Breakdance Badass for the spangly socks.

Gutted I missed the tat chat. Super keeeeen to see frau ink but appreciate the triangulation opportunities are high. I love mine though and want to show them off.

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BOOB GANNET

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FUGLY SEA COW
 
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SoulRebel

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A bit of a change of subject, but JM often gets negative comments about her tattoos, I'll admit that a lot of them look cheap and scrappy, but I like mine. I have a few big ones that can't be seen unless I'm on the beach but had this one done last year. I've also got all the babies and grandbabies in script down the inside of my right arm (just waiting for an appointment to have the newest baby added. He is having his tenotomy for his little froggy legs done next Wednesday).

Big socially distanced abrazos for you amazing lot. (I'm still worried about @Sausage Grand Station)
 
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Flumps

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off topic but he really is the love of my life uno

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He is so beautiful @Veronicaaa

I've just had a lovely grunka to catch up with you all. I will tell you that my school knickers were brown, we were supposed to wear them at all times, and there were checks to make sure we were wearing them. The past is another country fo'shure.

Anyway, I have been BUSY. I had a hospital appointment yesterday where I was prodded, poked, x-rayed, desanguinated and otherwise examined. I came away with impression of very nice doctor, but I don't know why, I didn't feel listened to. However, many tests were done, but none of the things suggested that might be wrong with me account for the INSANE levels of tiredness that I am currently living with. I find it hard to get it across because I will *force* myself to do things, and live with the fatigue, but I could spend all day every day in bed, napping, and constantly ache for more sleep/less pain. Still, things are afoot, so will have to wait and see what comes of them, but I do not feel the confidence I wanted to feel in the process. Whinge. Moan.

You are a lovely lot btw.
 
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Switchstreetz

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So how the fuck will they make a vaccine if a vaccine IS anti bodies? Does anyone else feel like they’re gonna end up like will smith in I am legend?
Massively over the top paragraphs below because i genuinely find this interesting and wish i had more time to read up on it. (This is coming from like...nearly a decade old a level biology and a couple of podcasts/sciencey websites i read, so if anyone has more current and in depth knowledge in virology from their job or degree etc feel free to step in and save me from my ignorance)

From what i understand vaccines are either a weakened/dead strain of the virus in question (flu shot) or another virus so similar that the immune system thinks theyre the same disease and will react to the actual virus we want to stop (cowpox to smallpox)

Our bodies produce antibodies to fight disease. They do fuck all at the time of actually getting the disease to stop you catching it, but if virus enters your body, something starts cranking these antibodies in trial and error until it works out a shape that fits the virus. Antibodies are all pretty much shaped like the letter Y though and its top two bits are like hands, which grab onto the virus. If the white blood cells see anything covered in antibodies they know its bad news and go in for the kill.

So the first time you get a disease theres a lot of time spent making the exact shape of antibody specialised for this virus but the SECOND time the virus moseys on into your body, your body is like

"its that little shit who made us too sick to go to the work xmas do last year! Get him lads!"

and we already have the 'factories' for that shape of antibodies in place, so it rattles them out much quicker. A bit like a car factory, once they have all the equipment to make a vauxhall corsa or whatever they can just start firing them out, but if they suddenly get told "we need to make ferraris" it might take a while to get a new factory with all the equipment and machine lines up and running. A chickenpox antibody would look at covid and just go "pfft. Not my job."

The flu gets round this by mutating and changing all the time (basically it puts on different glasses and a silly hat), so the science boffins have to basically guess (im sure theres a good analytical model rather than a pure guess) which version of the flu will be round at xmas time, and if they get it wrong you can still get the flu which is why some people still get sick.

And obviously there can be issues when some people's bodies are a bit paranoid and start labelling everything as an intruder - whacking antibodies on completely harmless cells like say, one's own liver, and then the white blood cells start attacking your own body - which is one reason why some people may have to take immunosuppressants - and then with the immune system knocked out theyre vulnerable to genuine threats

It is normal for some immunity loss over time for a lot of diseases (imagine the corsa factories havent needed to make a single corsa in 2 years, body's just like nah clear off we're gonna close most of you and build some overpriced student flats here instead) The weird thing about covid is that the body is maybe shutting down the antibody 'factories' within like 2/3 months which is ridiculouslyquick ???

So people could get it again and body would have to start from scratch making the covid antibody shape again.

I know its a completely new virus so its all up in the air, and my science knowledge is nowhere near deep enough to know WHY antibodies being lost so fast, but i know it means "herd immunity" is not happening now or in the near future and just infecting everyone will not help at all.

We also dont know how quickly it mutates - though it must be slower than flu or we'd have noticed changes by now since this debacle has been going on since last december.

Hopefully worst case scenario we'll just all have to have semi regular "booster" vaccine shots once they have working vaccines, and eventually it'll be like polio and measles where so many people are vaccinated that it can't really spread easily and it calms down. Or maybe they'll find another coronavirus very similar, base a vaccine on that, but the antibodies for that virus stick around longer than for covid? Idk this entire paragraph is speculation, but yeah.

TL;DR barricade the fort with Smegs and we'll eat post apocalyptic slop and discuss naming the german shepard.
 
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Bookweevil

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Lads, lads, lads! Very special treat last night - I went for dinner at Le Gavroche! The food was amazing and Michel Roux Jnr popped by to say hello. I complimented him on his huge scallop.

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The glamour took a rapid plummet at the end of the evening when I discovered - too late - that neither toilet cubicle had any loo paper and, of course, it’s far too posh to have paper towels and has strategically draped flannels to dry your hands on instead. Was reduced to tearing up the inner bog roll tube and using that. Two Michelin Stars and No Bog Roll.

It reminded me of my friend who refuses to poo at work. If he needs to go, he pops to the nearest McDonalds. On one occasion he realised, after the fact, that there was no loo roll. So he.....used his tie😱💩🥳
 
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Flumps

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Not being nosy, but are you visiting the Rheumatology department for your tests? The extreme tiredness is one of the symptoms of Fibromyalgia.
Yep. That's where I was yesterday. That didn't even get mentioned as a possible thing. TBH, I felt like the tiredness was dismissed as 'Oh, you're in pain, so you're not sleeping well, and so the body isn't getting a chance to heal, welcome to a vicious cycle of general exhaustion'. I mean, hopefully, that's right, but I've been in pain before and been tired before and this is a whole 'nother level of stuff.

I'll tell you lot, haven't even told MrF this, because I'm tired <hollow laughter> of sounding like a wimp, but I tried to do some gardening on Saturday. I got down on the floor to weed some stuff and just got stuck there for about 10 mins longer than I needed to be because I couldn't work out a way to get up without hurting so much it made me want to cry, and because I was just too tired to go from sitting on the floor to standing. Less than a year ago I was impressing MrF with my ability to do the sit-stand up test without using my hands (apparently a thing that gets hard over 40 - https://www.prevention.com/fitness/...1/the-stand-sit-test-that-predicts-longevity/ ) and now I have to prep to stand up from a chair.

Sorry. I am so moany about this. As you were everyone.
 
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SoulRebel

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Oh wow, @Pocahontas, I love being tattooed, it must be the scratchy feel of something being permanently imaged onto you? I wouldn't trust the current Mr. Rebel, mind, or I'd have images of Chelsea FC and Airfix kits of tanks all over my body, is your husband a tattoo artist? Black cats are the absolute best although they seem to hate them here in Spain. This is me with Percy
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Breakdance Badass

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Oh @Flumps i hope they fix you soon ❤

I have been busy working and catching up to join in that much, heading to the MT soon! Congrats to all Aunties on the thread, sadly as I have no siblings I will never be an Aunty 😟

We’ve had a rollercoaster here as my daughter got her dyslexia assessment and no surprise (but maybe a slight fright?) it turns out she is. Explains so much but I feel a bit just now like I’m standing at the bottom of a mountain trying to figure how to get her to the top.

@Veronicaaa what a lovely dog, I’m such a dog person so I will show you my boy...this is him with my daughter’s rabbit (toy)

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Pocahontas

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Thank you my kind hearted Princess, I get the joy of the ex MIL bringing her round too just for added risk factor of being told details I Really Don’t Wish To Know!

You’re all bringing me a lot of the nearest thing to love I’ve got in some ways right now & I really appreciate it x
But I do really love you, Alan. It’s real X
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Flumps

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Love the tats fraud. That sea cow is amazing @crystaleyesd

Super triangulating, but I care not, here are mine that I can take a picture of without moving.

Ladybird, some trad stuff (swallow and anchor) because I love the trad stuff. Robots. Owl (couldn’t get a good pic of all the roses and moths) and a stylised Ada Lovelace portrait.

Soz. Lots of photos
 

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