Snacksurprise.com but it’s a different country each month. I can’t see myself heading in to London any time soon but had a look and Sugar Sin have a website you can order from too. I apologise in advance to your purse if you didn’t know that
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Fraus I need to grunka so sorry that this is totally out of the blue regarding the current convo but wondering if I can get opinions? I'm a little upset - went for a walk earlier, passed 2 men, one black one white (this is relevant) having a blazing row that was definitely race related. I saw who I assumed was the black guys girlfriend sat on a nearby wall sobbing her heart out, so I went over and asked her if she was ok, if there was anything I could do, and if she wanted a polo (all I had to offer). She yelled at me, said black people don't need or want white saviours, I should check my privilege and read up on black lives matter. I was just trying to be nice, but it's really bothered me...should I have acted differently? What else could I have done? Should I have just minded my own business?! Ugh I'm really uncomfortable and sad thinking I may have made things worse 
Thanks so much. I hear you with the jeans. In the maternity jeans/real jeans no man’s land and can’t deal with the heartbreak of jeans shopping online or IRL.Sending lots of love, tbh the threads have been so funny recently you’ve got a real treat ahead, like tear inducingly good
Didn’t Tara Palmer Tompkinson (sp?) break her back or something horrific, someone was suing them for their injuries? What a stupid thing to do, take a deathly sport and try to engage amateurs in it?!
Sorry I’m posting so much but same, babe minus the second! You don’t need to grunka this thread it’s a non stop chat about everything!!
Massively identify with all of this and thank you for sharing because it’s nice to know there are other women going through it too. These threads have been like having girls round the house it’s SUCH a comfort which sounds so weird and creepy, sorryInstead of normal TV I’ve been watching YouTube - this American boy who DIYs home decor (his words not mine) or upcycles his little thrift finds, and this rich Texan woman Theresa Roehmer who is so... perversely vulgar but I’m intrigued by her crazy rich woman life? Once tried good morning Britain and Lorraine but duck me it’s bad isn’t it. None of it up to Jackie DKL scratch is it
And mega same on food. Dunno what I’m gonna do in winter non of my jeans fit but I’m also eating mcflurries every few days and not exercisingLife is so difficult in a pandemic and especially with young kids, you can’t achieve it all as long as you’re happy that’s all that matters tbh.
I rarely feel articulate enough to post, sleep deprivation and lack of socialising isn’t helping me there! But these threads have such a special and supportive vibe so I will try
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Oh, no you shouldn’t have acted differently I think you must have just got her at a bad moment. It’s awful that this happened to her and to you and I think it’s such a hard thing to navigate. But if strangers didn’t check people were ok what would the world have come to xxFraus I need to grunka so sorry that this is totally out of the blue regarding the current convo but wondering if I can get opinions? I'm a little upset - went for a walk earlier, passed 2 men, one black one white (this is relevant) having a blazing row that was definitely race related. I saw who I assumed was the black guys girlfriend sat on a nearby wall sobbing her heart out, so I went over and asked her if she was ok, if there was anything I could do, and if she wanted a polo (all I had to offer). She yelled at me, said black people don't need or want white saviours, I should check my privilege and read up on black lives matter. I was just trying to be nice, but it's really bothered me...should I have acted differently? What else could I have done? Should I have just minded my own business?! Ugh I'm really uncomfortable and sad thinking I may have made things worse
does anyone else get what feel like physical symptoms during a black period? I feel like my face feels differently almost numb? And my vision feels poorer. I’m so stressed from work and other stuff this last couple of days that my forehead is holding all this tension and seems to make my head heavy. I almost hadn’t processed what was happening but I recognise the symptoms in my face, it’s so odd.
hope everyone is feeling ok it’s hard out herrrre
I know about the website... I have banned myself from itSnacksurprise.com but it’s a different country each month. I can’t see myself heading in to London any time soon but had a look and Sugar Sin have a website you can order from too. I apologise in advance to your purse if you didn’t know that
(without the shampe from cashiers I would have no sefl control) ooh looks interesting! (post lockdown diet i may sign up!)he is from the mtv show jackass, he did pranks on his dad (i assume it must be online)
Oh, no you shouldn’t have acted differently I think you must have just got her at a bad moment. It’s awful that this happened to her and to you and I think it’s such a hard thing to navigate. But if strangers didn’t check people were ok what would the world have come to xx
does anyone else get what feel like physical symptoms during a black period? I feel like my face feels differently almost numb? And my vision feels poorer. I’m so stressed from work and other stuff this last couple of days that my forehead is holding all this tension and seems to make my head heavy. I almost hadn’t processed what was happening but I recognise the symptoms in my face, it’s so odd.
hope everyone is feeling ok it’s hard out herrrre
Oh Alan. I know exactly what you mean. Mine is my hands and fingers where i’m constantly tense. I try and do those mindfulness bollocks exercises and periodically I unclench my jaw, flex my fingers and sit up straight. It doesn’t help the brain stuff but it’s a brief reprieve from the physical.
I know exactly what you mean. Mine is my hands and fingers where i’m constantly tense. I try and do those mindfulness bollocks exercises and periodically I unclench my jaw, flex my fingers and sit up straight. It doesn’t help the brain stuff but it’s a brief reprieve from the physical.
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Something like a spice rack? Wouldn't be big enough for flour though. Or maybe try Etsy? Lots of sellers will make you something to your dimensions.
Oh Alan.
I’ve been noticing it for a long time and trying to see it as an indicator and a good thing, it’s odd the sensation though isn’t it? And feel like I should be able to shake it off somehow voluntarily but I can’t. Really struggled to think and process information today 85 was interfering with doing my job. I should’ve done as you say and focused on something else to bring me back to my self a bit. Trying not to fall over the edge. Mindfulness bollocks 
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Oh no! That’s horrible for you. You absolutely did the right thing, imagine if you had walked on and then been noticed to be doing so and harassed for that? It’s a horrible feeling though, that second guessing of yourself.Fraus I need to grunka so sorry that this is totally out of the blue regarding the current convo but wondering if I can get opinions? I'm a little upset - went for a walk earlier, passed 2 men, one black one white (this is relevant) having a blazing row that was definitely race related. I saw who I assumed was the black guys girlfriend sat on a nearby wall sobbing her heart out, so I went over and asked her if she was ok, if there was anything I could do, and if she wanted a polo (all I had to offer). She yelled at me, said black people don't need or want white saviours, I should check my privilege and read up on black lives matter. I was just trying to be nice, but it's really bothered me...should I have acted differently? What else could I have done? Should I have just minded my own business?! Ugh I'm really uncomfortable and sad thinking I may have made things worse
Last summer I bought a homeless man some bits and bobs and he said he didn’t want them and told me to duck off. It was blazing hot and he was sunburnt and dehydrated so I said at least keep the water and he called me a c*nt. i know he had bigger problems than being kind to some sanctimonius well meaning stranger but I found after that I never wanted to get people stuff whereas I generally always did if I was getting a coffee or something.
Long story short, that sounds tit but you did nothing wrong and the lady is hopefully ok and thinking back on the whole thing and feeling bad for snapping at you. And your polos.
Best Scandi sweet is the liquorice schoolchalks.
I’ve been noticing it for a long time and trying to see it as an indicator and a good thing, it’s odd the sensation though isn’t it? And feel like I should be able to shake it off somehow voluntarily but I can’t. Really struggled to think and process information today 85 was interfering with doing my job. I should’ve done as you say and focused on something else to bring me back to my self a bit. Trying not to fall over the edge. Mindfulness bollocks
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Oh it has become such an umbrella term and it drives me bonkers. Wanky insta posts with ‘breathe’ hashtagged mindfulness and I sit there getting pissed off. I am bleeping breathing.
I am very very lucky in that i’m not working so I can’t imagine that stress load. Maybe set an alarm to go off once an hour and close your eyes for a minute and massage your temples perhaps?
I am very very lucky in that i’m not working so I can’t imagine that stress load. Maybe set an alarm to go off once an hour and close your eyes for a minute and massage your temples perhaps?
yeah I get these spurts of pressuring myself to finish something and not prioritising me. Feel lucky to just have a job as they have put the rest of my department at risk so I feel oddly guilty for the reprieve. Yeah they discovered something they could sell with the mindful term I think!
Oh yes, well not the same but definite weird sensations. I've been walking more in the last few weeks and while out I've been getting a dizzy, like I'm not here feeling that leads to some anxiety that I'm not well and could pass out on the floor in the middle of the street. Never had anything like this before. Some of it I've put down to having too much time to think about things, despite working full time (if that makes any sense) and a lot of pressure from work so I try to get out to walk and end up with these symptomsOh, no you shouldn’t have acted differently I think you must have just got her at a bad moment. It’s awful that this happened to her and to you and I think it’s such a hard thing to navigate. But if strangers didn’t check people were ok what would the world have come to xx
does anyone else get what feel like physical symptoms during a black period? I feel like my face feels differently almost numb? And my vision feels poorer. I’m so stressed from work and other stuff this last couple of days that my forehead is holding all this tension and seems to make my head heavy. I almost hadn’t processed what was happening but I recognise the symptoms in my face, it’s so odd.
hope everyone is feeling ok it’s hard out herrrre
. Sorry, I realise it's not the same but wanted to acknowledge it. Wankerish term but have you ways to destress and unwind? Sorry you're feeling like this x
I keep trying to type out nice long heartfelt responses, but my brain is sludge right now. in short, (sorry to be glib) everything sucks right now so keep being nice to other people and yourselves.
It is the same I think defo a not really there/behind a curtain feeling. Not really I mean there’s only so much telly you can watch and audiobooks/podcasts you can listen to. If left to my own devices I just sleep so I’ve tried to make sure i don’t do that at all hours xOh yes, well not the same but definite weird sensations. I've been walking more in the last few weeks and while out I've been getting a dizzy, like I'm not here feeling that leads to some anxiety that I'm not well and could pass out on the floor in the middle of the street. Never had anything like this before. Some of it I've put down to having too much time to think about things, despite working full time (if that makes any sense) and a lot of pressure from work so I try to get out to walk and end up with these symptoms
God it’s so true isn’t it. I’m a bit back to March times where everything sets me offI keep trying to type out nice long heartfelt responses, but my brain is sludge right now. in short, (sorry to be glib) everything sucks right now so keep being nice to other people and yourselves.
Not being patronising but have you looked on IKEA? I’ve been surprised at how much you can customise their bits, I was struggling with our bay windows (hence fearing the ghost of Jackie at the window for so long) and was going to use their curtain planner. ETA - we didn’t use it but it’s a fantastic interface / proposition tbh. Surely they must have something similar for shelves?
Can you drill into a wall or does it have to be a free standing unit? If you can drill I’d be tempted to buy some brackets & wood and do it yourself?
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I know what you mean. i just keep telling myself that if I can get to the end of the day healthy, fed, clean and (relatively) happy, then it's a "good" day. well, I've got through it at least. and, yeah the not really here feeling really is the worst.
Yes, that's so true. I had a hard time as a teenager as suddenly my friends went off doing drugs in the woods and I was left friendless at the weekends. I got a bit of a comfort blanket around me 30 years ago and it's still evolving. A lot of it for me is about anticipation and looking forward to something I had planned. Might already be things you've tried but this is just some of my list:
- Getting all my washing and chores done before the weekend
- Doing something off my to do list
- Picking a film I really want to watch on my day off-this may have involved going to Blockbuster in the past but now it's Netflix. Getting on the couch in comfy clothes and pulling the throw over me. Hot chocolate?
- Lighting an Autumn candle. Smells are amazing!
- Every year at this time I say I'm going to teach myself to crochet. Or knit. I spend ages watching YouTube which is lovely but I still can't do it!
- Reading cookbooks and planning and shopping for a lovely meal to make myself. That may be beans on toast but with some amazing cheese or homemade beans.
- Brushing up the leaves outside. Deadheading flowers.
ETA. Really hope this isn't patronising. It's just what helps me.
Oh hope you start to lose the feeling, it’s just horrible. I’m so anxious just now. I feel sick and agitated a lot. I think it’s the underlying uncertainty of everything just now.
We had some lovely positive news about something from school and it’s been ruined by horrible Mums, it’s made me really sad, especially as one is a good friend. I’m not good with things like this at all and really let it affect me. This sounds silly but I already know I won’t sleep well due to it.
I hope you start to feel better, keep talking xx
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