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I have a date with my new puppy.
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xcyber
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Hi all, new here, I’ve been reading this thread and wondering why I didn’t find it at any point when I was single (for most of my life). I have Had many many an app date and literally everything that’s been spoken about on this thread I can relate to!
But as for my worst date, it was near the end of summer last year maybe August time. It was fine. He was attractive enough and even though there wasn’t a spark as such we were able to chat for several hours - or mainly he chatted and I listened but whatever. He spoke a lot about how he’d made loads of money on crypto or something of the like. I did notice that he was a bit reluctant to order drinks after the initial one we had on entry - even tho it had been a couple of hours. I’d say we stayed for 3-4 hours and had 2 drinks each. Cordial goodbyes and no intention of seeing each other again but no hard feelings. We hadn’t exchanged numbers. Anyway next day I wake up to a message on Hinge with his bank account details asking me to pay him for my 2 glasses of wine. I got INVOICED for a date! Needless to say I took a break off dating after that.
But as for my worst date, it was near the end of summer last year maybe August time. It was fine. He was attractive enough and even though there wasn’t a spark as such we were able to chat for several hours - or mainly he chatted and I listened but whatever. He spoke a lot about how he’d made loads of money on crypto or something of the like. I did notice that he was a bit reluctant to order drinks after the initial one we had on entry - even tho it had been a couple of hours. I’d say we stayed for 3-4 hours and had 2 drinks each. Cordial goodbyes and no intention of seeing each other again but no hard feelings. We hadn’t exchanged numbers. Anyway next day I wake up to a message on Hinge with his bank account details asking me to pay him for my 2 glasses of wine. I got INVOICED for a date! Needless to say I took a break off dating after that.
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Clickbait
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I have A LOT of bad date stories. Here are just 3:
• He got his penis out in a pub on our second date under the guise of “getting more comfortable” and then proceeded to beg me to touch it, when I refused and told him to put it away he asked whether I would suck it?! I promptly got up to leave and he caught his foreskin in his zip and started howling in pain.
• He wet himself because he was too scared to go to the toilet in case I did a runner. He then asked me to go and lie down in a park with him (in February in the rain) and tried to follow me home. I had to get on a tube in the wrong direction which he also got on and then get off at the next stop at the last minute like I was in some sort of spy movie.
• He turned up dressed in dirty clothes and heinous shoes (with food in his hair) and instead of the 5’10” he claimed to be he was 5’3”. He also admitted to being 8 years older than his photos which was immediately obvious. He took me to an open mic stand up comedy night at a pub (despite me saying I found stand up really awkward). Made sure we were sat the opposite side from the exit and proceeded to try and grope me when the acts started so I had to try and fend him off whilst not drawing attention to us until I could leave. I told him I was leaving and he thought I was joking. He then left many long and strange messages on my phone telling me I was his ideal woman, inviting me camping, asking me to meet his family, inviting me to be his plus one at a wedding etc.
• He got his penis out in a pub on our second date under the guise of “getting more comfortable” and then proceeded to beg me to touch it, when I refused and told him to put it away he asked whether I would suck it?! I promptly got up to leave and he caught his foreskin in his zip and started howling in pain.
• He wet himself because he was too scared to go to the toilet in case I did a runner. He then asked me to go and lie down in a park with him (in February in the rain) and tried to follow me home. I had to get on a tube in the wrong direction which he also got on and then get off at the next stop at the last minute like I was in some sort of spy movie.
• He turned up dressed in dirty clothes and heinous shoes (with food in his hair) and instead of the 5’10” he claimed to be he was 5’3”. He also admitted to being 8 years older than his photos which was immediately obvious. He took me to an open mic stand up comedy night at a pub (despite me saying I found stand up really awkward). Made sure we were sat the opposite side from the exit and proceeded to try and grope me when the acts started so I had to try and fend him off whilst not drawing attention to us until I could leave. I told him I was leaving and he thought I was joking. He then left many long and strange messages on my phone telling me I was his ideal woman, inviting me camping, asking me to meet his family, inviting me to be his plus one at a wedding etc.
Bianca Del Rio
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@Sprottish Oh you’ve dodged a bullet there. First of all, it was a ridiculous thing for him to say (but thank God he did because you now know exactly what you’re dealing with) but secondly, his “Have I touched a nerve?” comment as though your reaction to this lovely piece of information he’s just divulged is somehow disproportionate or overly sensitive. I’d confidently say that most women would be repulsed by a man boasting about his conquests and if he’s going to get stroppy about that, well he’s going to be spending an awful lot of time stropping. Into the bin you go pal. 
P.S: Hi everyone
It’s the artist formerly known as ThreeSteaksPam here. Not me deleting my account and then trying to quietly slope back in with a new one mid-thread.. 
P.S: Hi everyone
It’s the artist formerly known as ThreeSteaksPam here. Not me deleting my account and then trying to quietly slope back in with a new one mid-thread.. 
realhousewivewannabe
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Hi Gang,
catching up. Can I pop my head back in
I’m no longer single (posted this already but)
Anyone remember the thread we discussed Micro
. Well after this weekend I’m thanking my stars that mine doesn’t 
I’m one happy girl 
catching up. Can I pop my head back in
I’m no longer single (posted this already but)Anyone remember the thread we discussed Micro
. Well after this weekend I’m thanking my stars that mine doesn’t I’m one happy girl 
BunnyLebowski
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Hi gang,
I’m back and very single
. Gutted. I feel such a fool cos I ignored so many red flags just cos I fancied the pants off him.
He could just be so viscous. He doesn't even see his own daughter FFS. Major anger issues.
I’m devastated but so grateful to have you guys to talk to. Hope you’re all well. I’m off to drown my sorrows in a fuck-tonne of booze
I’m back and very single
. Gutted. I feel such a fool cos I ignored so many red flags just cos I fancied the pants off him.He could just be so viscous. He doesn't even see his own daughter FFS. Major anger issues.
I’m devastated but so grateful to have you guys to talk to. Hope you’re all well. I’m off to drown my sorrows in a fuck-tonne of booze
Woohoooo ! Result ! Fingers crossed you get a date 2 under your belt
So I nearly threw my phone out the window last night ! Had the misfortune to ' meet ' Russ on Tinder! What is it with average looking middle aged men that think they are Brad Pitt ...he apparently only dates skinny women but fancied trying a date with a curvy women
but he didn't want to lead me on or give me false hope because he's never been with a curvy women....firstly wtaf and secondly wtaf ! My response back, once he took a breath from his spewing forth of message after message... oh dear poor you, I'm soo sorry you've got to the age of 45 and never had the pleasure of a curvy woman! You might want to reconsider your sales pitch because fat shaming and being presumptious ( have i indicated i would date you ? Err noo ) is a massive turnoff ! I then removed him from my curvy presence! 
Honestly what rock are these men living under!
And FYI I'm tall and I'm a size 16/18 and I'm bloody sexy as ....! No issue getting dates just not with men I like !!
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MsCurly
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@TillyMiffin Ibiza is lovely! Have loads of fun there!
@al255 I say this with nothing but love and kindness, but can you please calm down? I had to catch up on the thread, but from the last three pages alone, you're all over the pages with thoughts about this guy. For your own sanity, please stop letting these guys invade your peace of mind. You've been on a few dates with him and you already sound stressed AF. I can understand this level of overthinking when you've been with a guy for a few years and he's slowly backing away from the relationship, but you have only been on a few dates with this guy!
When you are dating, please remember that those dates are without obligation. You never know what someone is thinking or feeling, unless they explicitly tell you what they are feeling or thinking. So there is no point to all of your overthinking. I hope I am not being too harsh here, but you need to treat yourself better than this, because too much overthinking will only drive you insane. I speak from experience, because I used to do this to myself!
As for my dates... I had a date lined up last night, but I saw that there was a new season of Strangers Things available on Netflix, so I cancelled.
@al255 I say this with nothing but love and kindness, but can you please calm down? I had to catch up on the thread, but from the last three pages alone, you're all over the pages with thoughts about this guy. For your own sanity, please stop letting these guys invade your peace of mind. You've been on a few dates with him and you already sound stressed AF. I can understand this level of overthinking when you've been with a guy for a few years and he's slowly backing away from the relationship, but you have only been on a few dates with this guy!
When you are dating, please remember that those dates are without obligation. You never know what someone is thinking or feeling, unless they explicitly tell you what they are feeling or thinking. So there is no point to all of your overthinking. I hope I am not being too harsh here, but you need to treat yourself better than this, because too much overthinking will only drive you insane. I speak from experience, because I used to do this to myself!
As for my dates... I had a date lined up last night, but I saw that there was a new season of Strangers Things available on Netflix, so I cancelled.
Clementine
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I’m in a relationship. For the first time in about 4 years. It hasn’t been plain sailing, because LIFE, but he’s just the best kind of different. There’s an age gap (think Kim & Pete) but it works for us.
BunnyLebowski
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Well today I was supposed to be going away with D. Still haven’t heard from him - stupid fucker. Probably for the best.
Anyway, I’m going for a country walk and coffee with a man I met on bumble. I’ll report back.
for you Belle and everyone 
Anyway, I’m going for a country walk and coffee with a man I met on bumble. I’ll report back.
for you Belle and everyone 
millsymilsean
Active member
A random bit of advice ladies - turn off the blue ticks and ‘last seen’ on whatsapp. I haven’t had them on in years and it saves me SO many headaches. If I can’t see if he’s seen my message then I just assume he hasn’t! And I don’t torture myself with when he was last online.
It also gives me privacy regarding not responding immediately- to all sorts of people! I really recommend it
It also gives me privacy regarding not responding immediately- to all sorts of people! I really recommend it
@LaBlonde I completely get where you are coming from ... I feel like a right old grumpy Debbie downer when I post here sometimes but I think that is why this thread works soo well and is such a good place to stop by ...we celebrate when someone is happy and doing well, we all rally round with support and advice when people are not doing so good and ... importantly there is zero nastiness on here .. 
TillyMiffin
Chatty Member
Hello! I’ve been M.I.A over on the Jack Monroe thread, she’s great entertainment right now! Went out with a very old female friend on Saturday, we had a ball! Remember me saying I found out in jan that my ex (who almost destroyed me) had started a relationship with one of my best friends? They went the whole hog, both sharing it on FB ‘in a relationship’ and actually saying “someone screenshot shot this and send it to Tilly” etc.
Well they and their group of friends (also my ex friends) were in the same bar as us, I still speak to one of them and she said they (my ex and my ex bestie) had split up
only lasted 4 months! Then the icing on the cake was, he ignored her all night, then at the end when all their friends had gone she was sitting on his knee! so he’s obviously doing the same to her as he did to me: ‘I can’t be in a relationship but we can be best friends’ but still staying over, having sex, etc. it was so edifying for me, I had such low self esteem when I was with him, thought it was all my fault he treated me so badly.I’d feel sorry for her if she hadn’t taken such pleasure in gloating she’d ‘got him’. I’d confided in her throughout my relationship and she knew how badly he treated me but was still desperate to get with him! Oh and he also unblocked me on WhatsApp; I can see his profile pic now (even though I’ve still got him blocked)
So all in all I’ve had a great weekend, finally seeing a tiny bit of karma in action
Fledgling Psycho
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I find it so hard to respect someone who can't be alone. I suppose because I've been so independent. Having said that as soon as a man's on the scene, all my insecurities come out as if I'm losing that part of myself that sees me as worthy. Hard to explain but our childhood experiences run deep for sure.
I’m sure everyone will be with me when I say: Please keep posting here and venting! This thread honestly keeps me sane and has genuinely got me through really hard situations, and that is only because of the real honesty and lows that we all go through.
sorry i’ve only just seen this and i was the one who suggested it
i think for me a sort of spinster/completely unlucky in dating thread would just give me a place to vent. at the moment i feel like i enter this thread like i’m kicking the door in and just dropping a huge anvil of self-pity in amongst the stories of people who are actually having success and getting messages back. when i get into a low-ish mood these things are sometimes hard for me, so a general release thread would just give me some space.
aware that i could basically just not post here and keep a diary or something though
My god I feel like I’ve lived my entire last 18 months of dating through this thread! From troubles within the relationship, the breakup (I literally posted on here the night it happened stuck on holiday), the aftermath and my lowest lows, and now trying to get back into it all….
Honestly - couldn’t have got through it without being able to post everything on here. I’ve been the biggest downer going and the community on here is just golden. Reading everyone’s stories makes others feel like they’re not alone. The more we can post of the lows and the highs, the more we can pull each other through (sorry, so cringe) x
Honestly - couldn’t have got through it without being able to post everything on here. I’ve been the biggest downer going and the community on here is just golden. Reading everyone’s stories makes others feel like they’re not alone. The more we can post of the lows and the highs, the more we can pull each other through (sorry, so cringe
) xI don’t mean this to sound harsh but reading through your posts makes even me anxious, never mind your date. I feel you are being far too intense.So I said to him I’ve deleted hinge cos if I’m meeting you I don’t even have time for other people (which I don’t lol) and he said sound enough
i just said what I said again and said all you said was sound enough and he put
I’ve just said should I just take the hint?
Wtf is wrong with meni don’t give a fuck if he’s decided after a second date that I’m not for him. That’s dating, it’s no big deal but I’d rather he didn’t waste my time!
last week he was like over the top can’t wait to see you etc bla bla .. he replied back saying if he wasn’t interested in me he wouldn’t text me
Thank god I’m going out to get drunk tonight