Thank you and I’m sorry you’ve been there too. It’s not nice
I’m not too devastated or anything but I’m disappointed he thought it was ok to try and lead me on. He was initiating a lot and obviously hoping to keep me on some hook. There is no point confronting him because he’ll play dumb and say “well, Belle, I made it clear this was friendship, so what have I done wrong?!”
Turns out he was updating the dating profile while I was away, maybe hoping I wouldn’t notice because I was busy. This was as he was messaging me, flirting with me and there’d even been recent hints at the future. He’s underestimated me again. Not even friends do this to one another.
I had my eyes and ears open the whole time and none of this has come as a massive shock, but it finally feels like I can walk away. I know that I could have walked away permanently 3 months ago and in many ways I did… then he contacted me and everything felt so up in the air between us. It still does to an extent but I don’t actually care anymore. I really thought he was a good guy, but it seems he’s just another sad man seduced by the candy shop that is online dating
The grass is definitely not greener and it’ll take a while to find someone who he feels is a better fit than me. On top of that, other than a couple of 2 week stints without contact, we’ve been in touch with each other for 6 months, and he won’t replicate the depth of that connection too quickly or easily… and I won’t be holding his hand anymore!
Current guy makes me laugh, smile and feel desirable. That’s no bad thing right now. I am not even thinking past the next date right now, and will simply see how it unfolds. It’s a bit sad my expectations are so low after all these rubbish experiences, but I have to protect myself. Let’s hope this one surprises me
I can always rely on you to make me giggle!!! I kinda hope it happens too
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