Hi! New to the thread but I’m really stumped here and not sure what to do.
At the weekend I started chatting to a guy on Hinge - we just clicked right away and we’re making lots of jokes with each other and even both saying that we weren’t just looking for sex. Anyway, we both had busy weekends, so we agreed to meet on Wednesday.
Wednesday comes along, we have a brilliant date. Chemistry through the roof, lots of stuff in common, ended up staying out far too late for a school night, lots of drinks and lots of snogs. So many butterflieOnly slight dampener for me is that my phone had died and he ordered an Uber, I needed to flag a cab in the street, and he just left me to flag down a cab at 2am in London, didn’t ask me to text him when I got home etc but we were both quite drunk so whatever.
Anyway Thursday we just exchanged a few messages about how it was a good night but we were feeling awful etc, we arranged a date for Saturday, but then on Friday I woke up and he had blocked me?
has this happened to anyone before? What should I do?
Sadly yes, I think quite a few people will have had a random ghoster.
What should you do?
• Buy a charger pack for your phone so you don’t run out of battery at the end of the night.
What you should not do is:
• Start questioning your experience on the date or sanity - you enjoyed it, he seemed to as well. If something has happened subsequently you’ve not been party to it;
• Think you did anything wrong and consider you might need to change anything about yourself: this could involve not kissing on a first date or drinking less. You were being authentically you, reverting back to the point above you had a good time and he appeared to as well. If you woke up in a bush at 6am the next morning with your belongings missing that might be a different story;
• Spend ages going over the date in forensic detail to see if there was something that could explain why he ghosted - the only explanation is he’s a twat;
• Let this dent your confidence - not your fault, nothing you could do to prevent it;
• Reach out to him in some other way for an explanation - you won’t get one (or at least not a satisfactory one);
• Entertain the idea of seeing him again if/when he pops up again. I found men like this are eternally on dating apps because they can never spot a good thing when it’s in front of them and they’ll likely appear again at some point down the line on an app and you’ll be intrigued to see if they swiped for you. Or they’ll just text randomly out of the blue like nothing happened.