Sorry for all the awful cowardly behavior many have been experiencing. I'm also sorry that I have absolutely no useful advice except we need to stop analysing the why's and wherefores of these weak creatures & say whatever the reason, it's not for me!
Interestingly, in the past I have always tried to be Mrs Reasonable/Mrs Rational and have been dumped for Miss Puts her Foot Down & Miss Throws a Blue Arsed Bloody Fit if they step out of line.
So, I have a very cynical view of men both from life experience and the soul destroying apps.
For example my last relationship of 8 years to a commitment phobee finally ended when I accepted he was happily stringing me along.
Within two weeks he was in another relationship & despite crying when we ended & wanting to stay friends, disappeared completely and that was that!
Honestly I could have died of bitterness and the ego kick in the teeth.
I had spent so many hours worrying how much it would hurt him blah blah.
All I can say is put yourselves first.
Sorry for the long winded reply. I just get so depressed & angry about this callous & cowardly behavior!!