TBH I don't even care about her weight and her lying about what size she is that doesn't bother me. I am 3 years younger than her and 9 years ago when I was 27 years old and hitting 300lbs I made the decision to have the full gastric bypass surgery more because I had two young boys I was a single mom and wanted to live a great engaged long life with my boys. I've lost about 130lbs and have kept it off. Went from a size 24 in pants and 3x in tops to an L/XL in tops and 13 bottoms. But her weight doesn't bother me. What bothers me more than anything is I strongly believe Isaiah is pushed to tbe side and has always been. Abbie has always came first no matter what. She pulls a tantrum at a restaurant they all have to leave and eat at home. No make her and one parent leave let him and another stay. Everything is always and will always be about Abbie. Another thing is they baby her she is literally a 2 year old and that's their fault. I can't tell u how many times I've seen her pinch or punch her mother and they laugh. No that's bs to laugh at that and not correct the behavior. The yelling stim he claims he can't block her stims its cruel but he was quick to block the gagging stim. And he doesn't follow through on anything here and there says go to your room to yell. That teaches her nothing. She could be a lot further along than she. And i strongly believe there's a disconnect between P and Ab. And it's sad. P has no interaction with her at all. That girl needs to learn hygiene skills and toileting before washing dishes and vacuuming. Abbie is plain and simple LAZY because they made her that way. Its sad watching a 15 year old girl run around the house or outside with a diaper on yelling, stomping twisting her head all over. I believe she's severe IDD but i also believe maybe she lost oxygen during birth a little mentally challenged as well. They need to wake up and face who she is what can and can't do and work on the important stuff not cleaning maybe cleaning herself. Sorry this is long.
Okay so before I say what I'm thinking, I want to let you know that this isnt an attack and not just directed at you
I really struggle with anything that hints that abbies issues may stem from birth. It very well could be true, we dont know, but I worry that it comes across as blaming mom. When it comes to special needs, moms are often blamed. I *think* I remember P saying both kids were delivered via C section, and at least here in canada, that needs to be an emergency of some kind.
Both my kids are special needs. When I got pregnant the first time at 27, I was 95lbs (5'3"), so obviously underweight. I was told i would need to gain more weight than the average person, and i did try. However, i didnt gain what they wanted.
When he was diagnosed, these were the questions i was asked: how much weight did you gain? Did you know not gaining enough while pregnant increases the risk factor for autism? How was birth? (He ended up being a forceps delivery, as he was backward, and he pooped in there). Did you take your vitamins? Did you fall, or drop him once he was home? Was he breastfed? On and on and on.
My second is also autistic. I got the same treatment, with the addition of "why would you have a second when you knew the dx of the first?". Questions of my weight, my hormone levels, if I played with them enough when they were little.
It's so discouraging. While I think that P wasnt very involved, that isnt true for a lot of us. I gave my life over for these little guys, breastfed each of them 3 years each and even delayed their shots a little and yet here we are.
I know this is long and I hope I didnt sound like I'm attacking at all. I know of so many women in my autism circles and they all get asked about birth and pregnancy and never is dad asked. My husband is autistic. Maybe it isnt me, you know?? Maybe it just is.
I think its natural to wonder, esp as P wont talk about it, but maybe she is sensitive to it. I know I am, and I am very tired of feeling blamed for it. (My second also ended up being an emergency, as my placenta abrupted, I bled out, and he was five weeks early)
Are their issues related to birth? Maybe. But I really think it's just the way the brain is wired.
I'd love to hear what others here- particularly moms of special needs kids think. Does it bother you? Do you feel blamed in some way? Maybe that's why there's so much focus on Isaiah- maybe it helps with inner guilt? I wouldnt know, I dont have an NT kid.
All the best, hoping this comes off the very gentle way I'm intending it to be!
was saying the comments on YouTube were flying. On my end the comments we're coming in groups, so I guess Asshole and others were deleting them. Did I hear her say that Pig 