Getting a diagnosis as an adult is a minefield and can take years, but hey, our very own hypnobirthing NHS shunning health care Professional guru can tell you to self diagnosed simply by looking on Google. Who would have thought a search engine could diagnose complex SpLD/ ASC conditions.
Here's a thought, you spend hours infront of your phone, trying to keep up with the Telfords, FODs, Gi Fletchers of this world. We're a similar age and we're the first real MTV generation brought up on short 3 minute pop videos, that's partly why we have short attention spans, not because it's the latest "cool" thing to have.
Put your phone away, write lists in advance of things that need doing and engage with your kids properly not through a screen. I think you need a digital detox not a diagnosis my love.