TTC #5 peeing in pots and on hands

[Kazzie20]

Hosptials pregnancy test are negative

 

[Kc93]

Hi everyone,

First time posting on this thread but been watching for a while. I have started my journey at the fertility clinic and awaiting a start date for treatment after ttc for over 2 years.
A piece of advice I got from them was not to use ovulation sticks unless we want to. They don't recommend it anymore as realise it is stressful and not accurate for a lot of women. Instead dtd every 2 days! Who has the energy but worth it in the end hopefully!

I hope that can help some of you and happy to share my journey if it would help anyone who is also at this stage.

Take care and sending baby dust to you all
X

 

[Neo2021]

I’m team ‘post what you want’.
It’s more than easy to scroll past if you don’t want to look/read.

Positive vibes to everyone

 

[Burrito88]

Does anyone else feel like it’s a treat to have a normal wee and not go into a cup

 

[sptatnation]

Guys, I finally grew the balls to test and got a faint positive it was midday so not the best time to test, and although faint it was definitely a positive line. I’m going to test again tomorrow first thing in the hope of a darker line…eeek!

TTC for 2 years+ and this month I'm currently 8 days late. I am NEVER late. Took a test on Monday, negative. Took another this morning, negative. Both were Clear Blue digital and now I'm reading loads online that they aren't great at picking up early pregnancy if the HCG levels are still low? I've ordered FRER to collect from Boots today so I'll take one of those tests and see what happens.

I feel sick, like my body is playing a cruel trick on me. Has anyone ever experienced a negative on CB digital but got a BFP on a dye test?

I’ve never done a digital so I can’t comment, but you know your body and it it feels off definitely get a dye test as soon as possible!

 

[SquiggleWiggle]

I’ve stopped burying my head in the sand and realised i have fertility problems. I’ve been referred for tests to see what the actual tissue is but I feel so down. It seems like everyone around me is pregnant and ive just failed. Hopefully i get some answers from the tests I’ve been referred for and I’m not waiting long. I don’t want to feel jealous of everyone falling pregnant but last night i cried myself to sleep

 

[ChickenPorridge]

Well AF arrived last night, 8 days late like nothing happened. I can't believe it. Never been more than 1-2 days late unless I was pregnant before. Gutted, but at least I'm out of limbo. Fingers crossed for everyone still in their cycle x

 

[fishsticks]

Me too, I ended up getting my BFP on a month where I didn’t do anything differently. Didn’t cut anything out, just lived my life as normal. I’d had a few weeks off work so my diet was terrible, I’d been out a LOT and got so drunk at bottomless brunch I was sick. I got my positive test on the Monday after I’d been out at a friends 30th on the Saturday night and drank about 3 bottles of wine. I felt so guilty after that but it was all okay

This happened to me!! After my mc, I cut out so many things inc alcohol, made sure I always took vitamins, took this that and the other. An early mc happened and I literally said 'fk it' I've had enough'.

I still took vits and included inositol, but we went to Oktoberfests, I got hideous drunk many times, didn't even have sex much and then boom, pregnant and a sticky bean. I think it was most likely the introduction of inositol as I've mentioned before, but, and I hate to be this person bcus I wanted to punch people in the face who said this to me, I think giving up in a sense helped and maybe relaxing..? Don't hate me for saying that pls. I completely understand why people get frustrated with that bcus I most definitely did. I wasn't expecting it, I didn't test for ovulation, I didn't restrict myself or anything.

 

[Dearreader]

It took me and my partner, 14 LONG months to conceive (currently approaching 14w pregnant) and I wanted to reach out to share a little bit of advice of which kept me (semi) sane during the process.

Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.

Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.

People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.

In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.

I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)

Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before fucking off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.

Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and fuck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive arsehole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

 

[Spencerskates]

TMI sex talk here, but does anyone else get pissed off with their partner when they don’t just want ‘baby making’ sex during ovulation time? Like now is not the time for you to ask for a BJ, pal!

 

[Gossipgirl79]

Got my period…feels especially cruel today, 13dpo so was really hoping for good news…my first due date should have been last week, my second should have been May…just have to hope that by next Mother’s Day it’ll be different for us all.

But you’re right, so lucky I can go spend a lovely day with my mum. And got a beautiful card and present from my husband and stepdaughter I didn’t expect at all, so better to count blessings.

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Cd1 again for me

 

[Spencerskates]

Currently CD27 of a usually 28 day cycle. My boobs have been SO sore and harder than usual. Had two dreams last night that I was pregnant, tested this morning and BFN

 

[Vivian124]

Just took a notion to do a FRER cos i had one in the drawer, it couldn't have been more negative and it hit me hard. I had one of those months where i really thought we'd done all you could if that names sense. 3 days till AF is due. I just feel like crying.

 

[Spencerskates]

Congratulations Neo, I’m so pleased for you!

Caved and tested this morning at 11DPO and got a BFN. Fairly certain we’re out this month because I think I it would have been early to start to show even a faint line. Trying to make myself feel better by knowing that I would have been due at Christmas and my birthday is already on Christmas Day so poor Mr Skates would have an expensive time if we had conceived this month!

 

[tarquin16]

AF arrived today, onto the next cycle, we are hopefully moving house in next few weeks and my OH working away a lot so going to try not to think about it too much this month

 

[tattle420]

Spoiler

BFP been crying for 1 hour

 

[kcab0231]

I’ve been lurking in this thread for a few months now…finally plucked up the courage to say hello and thank you as reading your posts makes me feel less alone!

We’ve not been trying long but we did have to have genetic counselling before starting and this was delayed due to covid so feel like I’ve been waiting forever (even though it hasn’t been)

I’ve had to deal with 3 pregnancy announcements from family/close friend in recent weeks and each one just feels more painful. Really hoping it’ll soon be my turn - sending love and positive vibes everyone’s way and again thank you for this thread even though I’ve never posted it’s always made me feel less alone!!

 

[make-mine-whiskey]

AF is due on Sunday and got BFN's one of my friends has just announced she is expecting in our group chat and my heart just sank, she knows we've been trying for so long and tbh she's not really been that supportive. I dunno I feel awful for feeling sad/angry about it, I just said congratulations and muted the chat as now they're all going in depth about it. I feel like an awful friend but I kinda need to protect myself because my mental health is at an all time low

 

[mgmhs]

I was 3 days late and getting so excited after TTC for 5 month, came on this morning Oh well, try again next month. Good luck to everyone else.