TTC #5 peeing in pots and on hands

[HarringBird]

I give up hope as soon as I get the 'period cramp pains' as that usually means I'm out the running for that month -
Still got a week to go and praying I don't get them as they usually start about a week before.

Good luck everyone!

 

[Pinkpascal]

CD26, no AF symptoms, got clear skin, my boobs feel bigger and still feeling nauseous if I don't constantly eat. Starting to think I ovulated later than I thought and that why its not showing on tests yet but I'm not sure. Wish I knew either way. Already booked the donor to come back next month in case its a BFN and AF shows her ugly head.

 

[Lola UK]

Still no period and was due on Tuesday must be pregnacare ruining my cycle. I’m on CD33 and never this long usually. So frustrating!!!

 

[imtakingabath]

CD26, no AF symptoms, got clear skin, my boobs feel bigger and still feeling nauseous if I don't constantly eat. Starting to think I ovulated later than I thought and that why its not showing on tests yet but I'm not sure. Wish I knew either way. Already booked the donor to come back next month in case its a BFN and AF shows her ugly head.

Ooh I’m CD26 too! My last cycle was really long though so app says AF isn’t due until 9th. I had a strong metallic taste in my mouth today, but could maybe be pregnancy vitamins or illness.

 

[Clickbait]

It took me and my partner, 14 LONG months to conceive (currently approaching 14w pregnant) and I wanted to reach out to share a little bit of advice of which kept me (semi) sane during the process.

Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.

Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.

People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.

In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.

I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)

Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before bleeping off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.

Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x

 

[TTC.2526]

I’m out this month. I was so hopeful it’s really crushed me. Trying not to be too upset but it feels harder after being so sure.

 

[imtakingabath]

Strongly agree with all of that, @Clickbait! Trying not to symptom spot is easier said than done I definitely convinced myself I was pregnant before though, and it did make the disappointment harder.

 

[Pinkpascal]

Ooh I’m CD26 too! My last cycle was really long though so app says AF isn’t due until 9th. I had a strong metallic taste in my mouth today, but could maybe be pregnancy vitamins or illness.

I'm due AF on Sunday so only a couple more days to wait.

 

[noseynopinions]

I currently have covid but think ovulation is happening really soon. My opks are getting darker and last night I had watery/ewcm ... so confused.. I'm only on cd8

 

[Dearreader]

It took me and my partner, 14 LONG months to conceive (currently approaching 14w pregnant) and I wanted to reach out to share a little bit of advice of which kept me (semi) sane during the process.

Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.

Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.

People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.

In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.

I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)

Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before bleeping off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.

Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and duck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive hole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

 

[Motherofpugs]

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and duck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive hole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

No need to apologise. I think most if not all people here are rooting for everyone else to get their BFPs and graduate this thread. When I was still TTC I loved seeing positive test photos because they gave me hope. A TTC thread would be pretty pointless if we didn’t celebrate the successes as well as supporting through the lows.

 

[Its_Me]

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and duck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive hole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

Are you sure they were referring to you? I think I remember your post and don’t think you did anything wrong.

Personally I’ve never been offended by people posting their tests even without spoilers but I understand some are more sensitive to that. There was one poster that I asked for the post to be moved because it didn’t belong here. However I’m not blaming the poster for that I think she just didn’t know where to post and the pregnancy thread was better suited.

BTW there is an app pregnancy checker where you upload your pregnancy test for review. You can change the lighting/settings and people just vote if they think it’s positive Or negative.

 

[Clickbait]

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and duck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive hole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

I wasn’t talking about you, this was a while back. I thought the way this poster approached it was insensitive and I didn’t care for it - it’s what I meant about the group being helpful and painful.

Seeing other people’s positive results can be uplifting and reassuring. Also, once you get to follow people’s journeys you’re rooting for them and happy they succeeded. But if you’ve had a bad month it can be hard, much like people posting in this group they’ve been hit hard by a friend or relative announcing their pregnancy. You don’t want to be jealous but sometimes you can’t help it.

 

[Pinkpascal]

Totally agree with a lot of your points here.

Can i just say as someone who did post a test and duck off I had reasons?

I've lurked this thread for a long time, silently going through the motions everyone else has.

I've had plenty of evap lines in my times of TTC. I asked would people mind me uploading a picture of a (extremely faint) test prior to posting as evap lines has left me crying in bed many times and I just wanted support from women who had gone through similar- none of my friends struggled ttc so felt here was a safe judgment free, supportive space and it is.

I didn't come back and post. My reason? Ive also been the other side of TTC and seen many BFP's interwoven between posts of women getting their period etc and the BFP's always left me feeling happy for the poster but envious so i decided not to post again. I didn't want to be the insensitive hole posting a BFP while someone else just got their period and were upset.

So my apologies for offending posters. I felt very alone and just wanted support. Sorry for going about it the wrong way.

I love seeing peoples BFP's because you end up rooting for people on the thread and i'm always so happy for them. I used to lurk on this thread before I was TTC and its always lovely to see people graduate from here to the pregnancy threads (where I also lurk.)

 

[Lola UK]

On the next thread somebody needs to put a poll to see how many lurkers we’ve got here

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

I agree to an extent about the symptom spotting. In the first week or so after ovulation it's unlikely anything you're feeling is down to pregnancy, because it's practically impossible that anything has implanted that early.

In the few days running up to to your period being due, I'd say if you know you're going to symptom spot then make a note of what you're spotting. Get an app or a diary. You might start to see patterns emerging. For example, pre-ttcing I'd have insisted that I never got sore boobs before my period. Once we started trying, and I became hyper-aware of what my body was doing, it became obvious that actually I did get sore boobs a couple of days before my period. It wasn't worth getting "I must be pregnant" excited about, because it wasn't anything unusual.

 

[Nipslips]

It took me and my partner, 14 LONG months to conceive (currently approaching 14w pregnant) and I wanted to reach out to share a little bit of advice of which kept me (semi) sane during the process.

Try not to symptom spot - it honestly is just unhelpful. I could convince myself that things were/felt different and it was even more crushing when my period arrived. Absolutely track how you’re feeling in yourself and healthwise, it’s definitely worth taking folic acid and vitamin D as a minimum. A multivitamin won’t hurt but you don’t need to spend the earth on pre-pregnancy specific ones unless you know you’re deficient in some things only that provides.

Testing before your period is due - unless you need to check because of a medical procedure, event which might mean you want to drink - is often pointless as you’re unlikely to get a positive reading (or could get a false positive) particularly on the cheapy test strips. Try to use them sparingly - it can send you into a bit of an over-testing frenzy which just burns you out and leads to more frustration and upset.

People will always share the things that they feel ‘worked’ for them when TTC - taking x supplement, using pre-seed lubricant, only having sex once a day in the fertile window, having sex 3x a day in the fertile window, having sex every day of the month just in case, following the SMEP, lying with your legs in the air for 30 mins afterwards, popping a mooncup up there overnight, having acupuncture.

In reality, no one (aside from people receiving specialist treatment) knows what actually contributed to conception aside from the right timing and luck! You can spend a lot of time and money on these things with the best will in the world because you’re so desperate for something to work. They’re not necessarily a silver bullet. Use them if you want but don’t obsess over them.

I think the best things you can do to help with conception is be healthy, try to destress, cut back on alcohol (even then I know 3 people who got pregnant on very boozy trips away!)

Take a break from reading about how to conceive if it’s getting too much. I found this group helpful and painful in equal measure. I remember one day someone swung by (new to the group and never posted before) to get us to check out their positive test before bleeping off again. Other people would get pregnant after 3 months, or moan because they’d been trying for 3m and it was so unfair it hadn’t happened yet. I used to find that really challenging and it would make me irrationally angry.

Comparison is the thief of joy - you can only control your own journey. Wishing you all the best of luck x

Only commenting to say I had the exact opposite experience! Iv never been so stressed in my life, I was symptom spotting and only that I was so out of sorts did I test 1 day before my period was due!! I think it’s different for everyone and I agree all of this is unhelpful information too but it can happen ladies! Wishing you all the best x

 

[Cooksie]

I do get upset when I see positive tests like why is it not me?!?! At the same time I’m genuinely over the moon for those getting them. I remember where you guys are at in your cycles and sometimes I’m like aw, so and so must be about 13DPO now I’ll see if she’s updated

If I could turn back time I’d totally make notes about my cycle pre TTC. I remember commenting on my discharge during the TWW to my partner and he was like ooooh is that not normal could that mean something.. and I was like do you know what I have no idea what it was like before

 

[Neo2021]

I’m team ‘post what you want’.
It’s more than easy to scroll past if you don’t want to look/read.

Positive vibes to everyone

 

[MrsWolf]

CD20 for me, we’ve decided not to test for ovulation and just DTD as much as possible (much to my husbands joy) as my cycles are soo irregular we’re just seeing how things go. He’s deploying in the next few months and I’m really trying not to put too much pressure on conceiving before he goes… easier said than done!

We’ve decided to wait to start IVF when he returns due to having to go privately and costing so much I don’t want to rush into it and I also don’t want to be starting treatment and he has to deploy early.

So trying to remain positive
Sending love and baby dust to you all! X