TheLastLolo
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Dean took Ember into the spare room. Erm, sorry. Anyone else think he should've taken Raven? Brand new baby gets taken out of the sleep space so Raven can resettle... There's something so backwards about all this.
I reckon he just goes and sits by a lake and contemplates what the fuck happened to his life tbh.I wondered this. I thought he was a store manager but he always seems to be at work. Though saying that, clothes shops can still open for click and collect and returning Internet orders so that's probably what he's doing.
I can’t really get my head round this group. It’s mostly a load of women posting about their nightmare children and looking for validation that their terror is normal. All the replies always seem to be reinforcing the crunchiness and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a post/reply suggesting that a parent is being too “gentle”She seems a bit desperate for constant validation from that group.
Peas response isn’t very gentle to Dean at all - surely she should be role modelling kindness? I’d be saying ‘oh poor Daddy, he just wants to sit with us! I’m going to give him a big cuddle so he doesn’t feel sad.’ Wouldn’t accept that nonsense from a 3 year old! Gentle does not bloody mean permissive!Here’s the post if anyone wants a look & one of her replies from the comment section. Raved cried because dean spoke to her?! Ffs. If this was me I would be doing everything in my power to encourage their relationship especially with a new baby on the way! I think half of the problem is pea doesn’t really want dean and her to be close she wants it all to be about her! I think she’s terrified of losing the close bond with Raven & that’s half the reason she’s letting her dry suckle her!! Feel a bit sorry for her really, but this will be detrimental to her and ravens relationship in the long term surely she can see that!
She liked my post but didn't comment. I just meant that I used to follow her before she had Raven, my eldest is a couple of months older than Raven. I just couldn't understand how she had the energy to constantly play all day and then not put Raven to bed at night. And then all the showing off of what she could do, made me feel like I was a crap mum. I'm all for parents finding their own path but I really don't think you should preach. I also really don't agree with showing so much of Raven online. No idea why you'd expose your child to such an extent unless your desire to seem superior was more than your desire to protect the privacy of your child. Just my opinion though! I probably am a gentle parent (I've said sorry when I've lost my patience and try to respond to my kids needs as best I can). But I've never thought that saying no is a bad thing. The difference for me is a gentle parent might explain why they can't have or do something rather than jist saying do as I say which is what my parents did. I don't think Nicola is a gentle parent xx
She's no intention of accepting any advice. She's an absolute martyr and just wants the praise for tandem feeding.So far everyone is just telling her that she’s amazing, no one has suggested prioritising the newborn. Very very frustrating. Most replies are “I don’t have the answer but you’re amazing!” And the very few who have “answers” have suggested that she feeds Raven to sleep in her own (ravens) bed, so she can then get a good sleep...pea just replies with “ooh maybe!” Aka fuck off my venom lookalike isn’t allowed her own space for fear of being more than 2 feet from my vagina.
I really do worry about ember at this stage. She is such a second-thought, it’s horrible. Hopefully dean is at least bonding with her.
This all just sounds like chaos. If it’s not working a stressing her out surely that’s a sign to stop feeding R. Feeding the newborn should be priority! Raven eats plenty of food she doesn’t NEED milk at this age She can be settled in other ways at this age. If the newborn is crying for milk then feed her! What if E is going through a leap and wants to feed continuously... And she carried the 3 1/2 year old up to bed just days after giving birth Surely Dean would say wise up I’ll carry her Would love to see what people replied to her post with...View attachment 423336View attachment 423337
The post on Facebook for those who can’t see. Sounds like ember is still the second thought, makes me so sad.
(thought I’d left the group but turns out I just had it on mute)