Thread suggestion - queen Raven still ruling the roost.... even though pea has reproduced
This all just sounds like chaos. If it’s not working a stressing her out surely that’s a sign to stop feeding R. Feeding the newborn should be priority! Raven eats plenty of food she doesn’t NEED milk at this age She can be settled in other ways at this age. If the newborn is crying for milk then feed her! What if E is going through a leap and wants to feed continuously... And she carried the 3 1/2 year old up to bed just days after giving birth Surely Dean would say wise up I’ll carry her Would love to see what people replied to her post with...View attachment 423336View attachment 423337
The post on Facebook for those who can’t see. Sounds like ember is still the second thought, makes me so sad.
(thought I’d left the group but turns out I just had it on mute)
That post is ridiculous. What the hell does she expect people to say? She point blank shouldn’t be leaving her newborn crying for food in another part of the house so she can settle her nearly 4 year old ‘back to sleep’. It’s neglect. Has she never thought oh maybe if Raven went to sleep initially in a bed ‘the sleep space’ whatever, she would stay asleep and not be woken during a pointless transfer? If I didn’t know better it seems to me Nicola loves all the ‘mamas I need your help, here’s a photo of my norks’ and the ‘you do you mama’ validation. It makes my teeth itch, she’s making problems where there don’t need to be any. Stevie wonder could see how to solve this - TELL YOUR 3.5 YEAR OLD NO AND GO TO SLEEP.
Yes but pea will just spout on about how breastfeeding isn't just for nutrition and how there are soooo many other benefits to extended breastfeeding. I can't see any benefits currently to what she's doing if I'm honest.Surely Raven wil have eaten food during the day so her wanted milk is just a want , where as the baby actually needs milk to grow and thrive !
I don’t understand how pea can’t see this .
you need to get yourself in this group to provide this solution!You know what I’d be doing also, making Raven aware of Ember’s needs and explaining that Ember is crying because she NEEDS Mummy. Empathy etc. can all be taught/experienced in this situation, but Raven really needs to know that her baby sister is first in the line when it comes to feeding. Given Raven a cup of milk if she really has to have milk (which we know she doesn’t) and prioritise.
Yes but pea will just spout on about how breastfeeding isn't just for nutrition and how there are soooo many other benefits to extended breastfeeding. I can't see any benefits currently to what she's doing if I'm honest.