I would lay money, most of the money I have actually, on the fact that Oluv is NOT neurodiverse. I have three bespokes, two of whom are neurodiverse, one male and one female. Both present extremely differently to each other in their diagnoses, despite it being the same “condition” due to their gender. Oluv presents nothing like either of them or any other neurodiverse child I have met.
I am not going to write down how my bespokes present, as I don’t want to give her ideas to monetise a “neurodiverse” journey and exploit her child anymore than she already does, but I will say that my son had continence issues linked to his diagnosis until the age of 8, and at no stage did I ever have to pick poo up off a floor. That is not neurodiverse issues, that’s poor parenting.
Oluv has behavioural issues from no boundaries or parenting and lack of attention. She is bored and desperate for attention and routine - that is all.