Silver Linings
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Hun.
I've never read a DW, being considerably out of his target age zone, but if it's anything like Roald Dahl then I hope it's something along the lines of:
I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself for going to the police. It is something I still haven't managed to do and I don't know if I ever will. There's just no evidence and it would rip my family apart. For now, I feel I can't bear burning my life down that I've worked so hard to build. I don't know where my abuser is now or what he's doing, but I'm pretty sure he's still alive. I have pangs of guilt that my not reporting him could result in other victims. It's a mind fuck and one I don't wish upon anyone.She changed her name because of "multiple sexual assaults and trauma". I was the subject of childhood sexual grooming. I was assaulted from the age of 11, and raped from the age of 12. It is horrific. I plucked up the courage to go to the police just a couple of years ago, after seeing my abuser, now in his late 80's, in the papers getting married to a man in his 20's. The horror came flooding back and all the repressed emotions resurfaced. What made things worse was finding out that he had spent his whole career as a teacher of primary school children. I won't go into too many details, that may identify me but just to say, it is unlikely he will ever leave prison to hurt another child.
If JM's allegations are true, and I have no reason to doubt them, then I would hope she gets the courage to go to the police. It is to my shame that I allowed this man to go on to abuse others. I have had to have counselling to deal with the guilt I feel for not thinking about those others that were abused after me, that went through the same, and in some cases worse, than me. I comfort myself with the fact that 60's Britain was a different place than now, and hopefully I would have acted sooner had this been going on today. JM will not be able to use such reasoning to excuse her lack of action.
Talking about sexual assaults online, changing her name, threatening to name these perpetrators and not doing so, is not dealing with the problem. Allowing them to carry on with the same behaviour is almost akin to permitting the abuse of others to carry on. She will, like me, forever live with the guilt that she could have stopped the abuser from moving on and abusing others. JM has the chance to do what I failed to do, there is so much more support today.
I could go on, but to be honest I am finding this very difficult. Someone with any sort of following, like JM, who continually references abuse, has a duty to report and see through these allegations with police. They are, like it or not, an example to others. With their fame comes a huge amount responsibility. JM seems to not realise this with her flippant way she just chuckes about allegations.
I am writing this with tears in my eyes, and a feeling as though I am about to vomit, the emotions never diminish. So sorry if this has triggered anyone, but unsure how to hide text behind warning.
I completely understand your inability to go to the police, the repercussions are seismic. I had pushed my abuse to the back of my mind, and it only surfaced when I saw the man in the paper. Your, and my, situation is not the same as JM. We have not made allegations online to garner sympathy and increase our SM presence. She is using theses alleged assaults in a totally unacceptable way. It actually makes me physically sick.I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself for going to the police. It is something I still haven't managed to do and I don't know if I ever will. There's just no evidence and it would rip my family apart. For now, I feel I can't bear burning my life down that I've worked so hard to build. I don't know where my abuser is now or what he's doing, but I'm pretty sure he's still alive. I have pangs of guilt that my not reporting him could result in other victims. It's a mind fuck and one I don't wish upon anyone.
What you went through is awful and I know it never goes away. The best we can do is to rebuild our lives and try and live them as fully and as joyfully as possible.
Please know that you have no reason at all to feel guilty or ashamed (yep, I know so much easier said than done).
We're not living in Tudor England no one has a problem with you critiquing any books at all - get a goodreads account hun go fucking wild if it makes you happy - you just can't go round calling people cokeheads & openly try to source scandalous chapters for sale to the tabloid press? Not hard to grasp is it
Wouldn’t it just be abso-fucking-lutely marvellous if DW sued her. I’d laugh so much I’d bite straight through my teething necklace!She’s treading very dangerous ground with these accusations.
omg Alison finish her hun - email legal & get the ball rolling sweetie xJesus! In reply to the editor who said his books aren't ghost written. Now a racist by association I assume.
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