littlepup
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I agree with this because my mum is sensitive to food smells and would always do this. You’ve just finished a nice meal that you enjoyed and she’d come in ‘eww, what’s that smell’ with a screwed up face. ‘It’s my dinner I’ve really enjoyed consuming, clearly’.I've said my view upthread, but I still think that commenting on what people are eating/ the smell comes across negatively and will make the guest feel awkward.
We don't know exactly what was said bit it clearly wasn't just a what did you have for dinner or your dinner smells nice question/ comment. Probably more a what's that bad garlic smell? Your dinner smells bad or something like that.
I come back to my original point, what was to be gained by asking, as it clearly wasn't just done in a neutral way. If they said we ordered a roasted bulb of garlic the answer isn't going to suddenly change the smell. Just open a window, or light a candle if it's that bad.
It’s the same as someone doing the old “Eugh, prawns (or whatever), disgusting. I could never eat that, they’re so weird” whilst you’re eating and enjoying them. No need fo comment. It’s bad manners. No one’s asking you to eat it.
I imagine OP said it with a negative undertone - no need to comment, it is annoying.
Having said that, Her response was unacceptable. They were in Mum’s home, she went over the top. The bloke’s an arsehole if he’s bothered. I don’t know any grown men that are impressed by disrespecting your Mum, she was the one who showed herself up. Hardly a mature response.
Was she showing off, trying to act like you were housemates and she has more authority than she does because she’s embarrassed to live at home?
Unless she pays half the bills, I would tell her next time he or anyone comes she stays in her room and you downstairs until she can learn to respect you and your right to speak in your home.
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