The advice thread for random problems #2

[rainbowlemon]

I am also sorry to hear of the pain and challenges that you are experiencing.

As others have suggested, please do try to reach out to other services.

I have challenged a PIP appeal recently and I struggle to do on my own and am fairly isolated. A local charity referred me to welfare society, who come under the local council. Met a gentleman last Wednesday who spent time going over referral to tribunal. He will advocate for me if go to tribunal. Hope there is someone within your locality who can help.

Also, as mentioned previously, the DWP are going hardcore with refusals. There was a recent article, I will see if I can find it tomorrow, that states cases that go to tribunal, are being signed off with the same evidence that DWP had.

Sending you love, strength and positivity. It isn't fair but we do have the right to ask for help and hopefully we can all help you some. Sounds like the people/system are failing you.

Take care x

Thank you lovely but it’s for a relative not me. They themselves originally didn’t want to appeal after they got their original decision letter but I wouldn’t let it drop because I know how ill they actually are. Their PIP form was also filled in by a GP. I feel sorry for those who really do not have the support.

I think people can fall thought the cracks.

 

[Purrrrrrr]

Thank you lovely but it’s for a relative not me. They themselves originally didn’t want to appeal after they got their original decision letter but I wouldn’t let it drop because I know how ill they actually are. Their PIP form was also filled in by a GP. I feel sorry for those who really do not have the support.

I think people can fall thought the cracks.

I think I've fallen through every crack along the way. Then they don't believe you need help because you coped for so long without it.

 

[Little Fluffy Clouds]

Thankyou for your replies. Our council is still closed due to covid and getting through is extremely difficult; CAB said they need proof of needs and there is no other Dr. I’m very rural, one dr one surgery. I was turned down for disability benefits as GP and social worker said I’m better. I can’t get through to dwp as can’t answer their security questions (I struggle with phones, something GP and CAB won’t accept). There’s no help with forms CAB just said go online, or get family/friends to do them as they’re hours away (I’m too ill to travel) and can only offer one session for two hours which isn’t enough. DWP aren’t going to give me benefits just on my say so and we’ve had high profile fraud cases here, CAB ‘helped’ with the claims both times so now very wary of being involved (two were working full time whilst claiming to be housebound, unable dress or function - all untrue).

Our SS don’t do complex needs my assessment with involved being told to choose either mental or physical health and the referred for ‘socialising’ Which I’ve no functioning for. Mind we’re useless telling me to go to their centre (hours away, upstairs and very expensive). They won’t help non members. I’ve less than £80 a week for everything I can’t be paying 10% of my income to them, even if bank would allow me to.

Anyway thankyou for all the advice, and, kindness.

You are clearly not better and your GPs abuse of duty of care sounds awful.

I cannot critique anyone for doubting as we are all entitled to our own feelings.

You have the right to help and you are being failed, if what you say is true.

I did a quick Google of Llanelli and please see screen shots attach. Not preaching and you said you had mentioned MIND though I say contact again, I believed they were open to help all and non judgemental so please try again.

One of the services say for domestic abuse support, though if that is not a cause /effect of your condition, why not reach out and tell them about the reality of your situation. It will not improve unless you get support.

Can you not set up a new email? I have more than one across outlook and Gmail.

Re utilities, if your situation progressed, there is a multi service provider, UK based who are good. Utility warehouse. They offer, unsure if you need electric and or gas (they do if electric only) unlimited SIM £18 month. They can do quote on line.

I do not know what else to do, though empathise as since July 2020 my life turned upside down though making tracks to recovery. It is going to be a long hard winter and it is harder for those of us who are vulnerable.

It is hard to believe how badly you are being treated by those responsible for our welfare, though hope you find the strength to reach out as you need support, and hopefully the next person will listen.

We all have the right to ask for help. Being isolated can make the voices in our head tell us that we are not worth it but you need to push for you.

Sending best wishes. I really do not know what else to suggest.

Hope it is ok to post the following info Mods, just concerned for our fellow tattler.

I wish you the best.

Thank you lovely but it’s for a relative not me. They themselves originally didn’t want to appeal after they got their original decision letter but I wouldn’t let it drop because I know how ill they actually are. Their PIP form was also filled in by a GP. I feel sorry for those who really do not have the support.

I think people can fall thought the cracks.

How wonderful of you to help and be aware. DWP ruthless and there are blaggers in every walk of life, however, it can be disastrous for those of us who need real and proper support. Yes, people definitely can fall through the cracks, sadly.

Good on the GP too.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

You are clearly not better and your GPs abuse of duty of care sounds awful.

I cannot critique anyone for doubting as we are all entitled to our own feelings.

You have the right to help and you are being failed, if what you say is true.

I did a quick Google of Llanelli and please see screen shots attach. Not preaching and you said you had mentioned MIND though I say contact again, I believed they were open to help all and non judgemental so please try again.

One of the services say for domestic abuse support, though if that is not a cause /effect of your condition, why not reach out and tell them about the reality of your situation. It will not improve unless you get support.

Can you not set up a new email? I have more than one across outlook and Gmail.

Re utilities, if your situation progressed, there is a multi service provider, UK based who are good. Utility warehouse. They offer, unsure if you need electric and or gas (they do if electric only) unlimited SIM £18 month. They can do quote on line.

I do not know what else to do, though empathise as since July 2020 my life turned upside down though making tracks to recovery. It is going to be a long hard winter and it is harder for those of us who are vulnerable.

It is hard to believe how badly you are being treated by those responsible for our welfare, though hope you find the strength to reach out as you need support, and hopefully the next person will listen.

We all have the right to ask for help. Being isolated can make the voices in our head tell us that we are not worth it but you need to push for you.

Sending best wishes. I really do not know what else to suggest.

Hope it is ok to post the following info Mods, just concerned for our fellow tattler.

I wish you the best.

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I question how the OP is financing their lifestyle if they apparently have no job, no family, no income in the form of any benefits etc - where are they getting money for food/bills/the mobile phone or device they are using to access tattle?!!

 

[Little Fluffy Clouds]

I question how the OP is financing their lifestyle if they apparently have no job, no family, no income in the form of any benefits etc - where are they getting money for food/bills/the mobile phone or device they are using to access tattle?!!

I'm not having a dig at anyone questioning. Do not want to make anyone defensive.

I have been victim to my detriment of a liar but it not about me. I am more than aware some people twist the truth.

Had no intention of antagonising anyone. It not for me to question anyone else belief.

Sorry to anyone who has taken offence, was in no way what I meant to convey.

I'm not discussing this further but take care.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I'm not having a dig at anyone questioning. Do not want to make anyone defensive.

I have been victim to my detriment of a liar but it not about me. I am more than aware some people twist the truth.

Had no intention of antagonising anyone. It not for me to question anyone else belief.

Sorry to anyone who has taken offence, was in no way what I meant to convey.

I'm not discussing this further but take care.

No I agree I’m just curious I guess.

 

[Snippysnips]

If the GP isn't offering the help then they need to be reported as all GPS have a duty to listen an offer what ever help they can or refer you if they are unable too as well as continuesly keep researching

Years ago none of my GPS knew what Depersonalization-derealization disorder was, am in a small town an theres 5 GPS at the practice but none knew what I was on about so I was then referred to the hospital for scans as well as the doctors there, not once was I ever called a liar or made to feel like one an after 3 years they finally understood what it was as they kept researching more into things since they had never come accross someone that had had this before an now they have been able to help others understand what it is that tell them the same symptoms I told them I had

So if you GP isn't working with you or referring you to others then it needs to be reported, even if its rare they should be researching further into it an what they can do to help

Also your computer should still be able to update things like Firefox or chrome, if it's not then delete it all off an reinstall it, my laptop is going on 15 years old an still works fine for me, I did have to reinstall chrome to get it to work but it's fine now an my parents pc is just as old an still works, some graphics don't work but the page still loads it just has a blank space where the graphics should be but everything else is there

 

[Carapop]

Thinking of you @Carapop, and your Mum x

Ah you sweetheart thank you. This is such a gorgeous gesture. I’m absolutely fine until met with any kindness and then bam, devastation hits. I can’t cope with how lovely people are.

mum has been on life support in intensive care for the last ten days. Fully sedated, multi organ failure. We are being prepared for the worst but how can you really prepare?!

she was 70 this year, drove herself to doctor two weeks ago, packed her hospital bag with lipstick, iPad and her fav little chocolate bars. I cannot stress how unexpected this is. But the one comfort is she’s spared all of this. She’s dreaming while we are going insane

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Ah you sweetheart thank you. This is such a gorgeous gesture. I’m absolutely fine until met with any kindness and then bam, devastation hits. I can’t cope with how lovely people are.

mum has been on life support in intensive care for the last ten days. Fully sedated, multi organ failure. We are being prepared for the worst but how can you really prepare?!

she was 70 this year, drove herself to doctor two weeks ago, packed her hospital bag with lipstick, iPad and her fav little chocolate bars. I cannot stress how unexpected this is. But the one comfort is she’s spared all of this. She’s dreaming while we are going insane

My family will keep you and your mum in our prayers (I hope you’re okay with me saying that, lots of people aren’t), and to send you strength

 

[Carapop]

My family will keep you and your mum in our prayers (I hope you’re okay with me saying that, lots of people aren’t), and to send you strength

I love and appreciate all displays of kindness and compassion. My mum is a big believer in the power of prayer. I have no faith of my own but I know that she would find comfort in it. She prayed for others so I’m more than happy for others to pray for her. Thank you

 

[Lalla]

I question how the OP is financing their lifestyle if they apparently have no job, no family, no income in the form of any benefits etc - where are they getting money for food/bills/the mobile phone or device they are using to access tattle?!!

I'm pretty sure the same person used to post on Mumsnet (living rurally in Wales, unable to travel, couldn't wash or change clothes, no one to help, no money/ severely limited benefits, rare medical condition - all of which is pretty specific and unique it would be surprising if it was 2 entirely different people). Any solution anyone provided was never workable.

I don't know whether it's all a fiction (there were references to the MN poster having, or being accused of having Munchausens) or actually someone who is very mentally unwell . But either way, sadly I don't think any advice given here is going to help, just like it didn't help on MN.

 

[Carapop]

I'm pretty sure the same person used to post on Mumsnet (living rurally in Wales, unable to travel, couldn't wash or change clothes, no one to help, no money/ severely limited benefits, rare medical condition - all of which is pretty specific and unique it would be surprising if it was 2 entirely different people). Any solution anyone provided was never workable.

I don't know whether it's all a fiction (there were references to the MN poster having, or being accused of having Munchausens) or actually someone who is very mentally unwell . But either way, sadly I don't think any advice given here is going to help, just like it didn't help on MN.

Scenario 1, she’s not telling the objective truth but it’s her (misguided, very unwell) truth that she needs to tell for whatever reason.

Scenario 2, she’s telling all the facts as they exist in objective reality, and may legitimately benefit from the kindness and support being offered.

Either way, it’s not hurting anyone and it may offer some relief to someone in need. No one is dedicating time or energy they don’t have to a thread on tattle.

and to the poster in question, Please forgive me for speaking of you in the third person

 

[Little Fluffy Clouds]

I love and appreciate all displays of kindness and compassion. My mum is a big believer in the power of prayer. I have no faith of my own but I know that she would find comfort in it. She prayed for others so I’m more than happy for others to pray for her. Thank you

Just wished to say sending you and your mum love, strength and positivity, too.

I hope that a brighter corner is turned soon

 

[LaBlonde]

I love and appreciate all displays of kindness and compassion. My mum is a big believer in the power of prayer. I have no faith of my own but I know that she would find comfort in it. She prayed for others so I’m more than happy for others to pray for her. Thank you

only just catching up @Carapop but sending so much love to you, your family and your (wonderful sounding) mum x

 

[Snippysnips]

Looking for anyone that's techy with computers, so this weekend DW is airing the regeneration episode, I don't watch it but my close friend is a huge lover of DW, for some reason they aren't airing it in America at the same time as the UK an she's really bummed about it

My question is, is there a way to somehow hook up my laptop to the TV an have what's on the TV on my laptop an give her a link so she can watch along or am I only going be able to point the webcam towards the TV on a Skype chat an have her watch that way

I know how to hook the laptop to the TV to watch what's on my laptop on the TV but if never tried it the other way around

 

[LaBlonde]

Looking for anyone that's techy with computers, so this weekend DW is airing the regeneration episode, I don't watch it but my close friend is a huge lover of DW, for some reason they aren't airing it in America at the same time as the UK an she's really bummed about it

My question is, is there a way to somehow hook up my laptop to the TV an have what's on the TV on my laptop an give her a link so she can watch along or am I only going be able to point the webcam towards the TV on a Skype chat an have her watch that way

I know how to hook the laptop to the TV to watch what's on my laptop on the TV but if never tried it the other way around

would caracal work? (https://caracal.club/)

you can basically watch the same thing on both your laptops so if you have DW on yours she can watch it simultaneously! i sometimes do it for an american friend who loves eastenders

 

[shadowcat5]

Looking for anyone that's techy with computers, so this weekend DW is airing the regeneration episode, I don't watch it but my close friend is a huge lover of DW, for some reason they aren't airing it in America at the same time as the UK an she's really bummed about it

My question is, is there a way to somehow hook up my laptop to the TV an have what's on the TV on my laptop an give her a link so she can watch along or am I only going be able to point the webcam towards the TV on a Skype chat an have her watch that way

I know how to hook the laptop to the TV to watch what's on my laptop on the TV but if never tried it the other way around

what channel is it airing on? Is there an Iplayer type option that you can stream on the laptop and share screens? I don’t know what DW is sorry.

If you can watch it via iPlayer type service, I would also suggest to your friend to get VPN as she will be able log onto a UK IP address (this lie that influencers spread explained here) and watch it as if she was in the UK

 

[Snippysnips]

would caracal work? (https://caracal.club/)

you can basically watch the same thing on both your laptops so if you have DW on yours she can watch it simultaneously! i sometimes do it for an american friend who loves eastenders

Thanks I'll check that out, she wants to watch it live so I need to find out how to get it on the laptop while it's playing on the TV so she can watch it at the same time it's airing

what channel is it airing on? Is there an Iplayer type option that you can stream on the laptop and share screens? I don’t know what DW is sorry.

If you can watch it via iPlayer type service, I would also suggest to your friend to get VPN as she will be able log onto a UK IP address (this lie that influencers spread explained here) and watch it as if she was in the UK

It's doctor who, sorry should have put that instead, she's going look at getting a vpn an changing locations but I think she was wanting to watch it as it was airing live in the UK as spoilers are going be everywhere after it an somtimes Iplayer is much later before they put it on there

 

[LaBlonde]

Thanks I'll check that out, she wants to watch it live so I need to find out how to get it on the laptop while it's playing on the TV so she can watch it at the same time it's airing

for my friend i used to play bbc iplayer live via caracal and she could watch it live - that was a year ago or so though so hopefully it still works!

 

[Snippysnips]

for my friend i used to play bbc iplayer live via caracal and she could watch it live - that was a year ago or so though so hopefully it still works!

Thanks, will I need to make a account for it, am gonna be testing it before Sunday so we know what's going work