Part Time Working Mummy #9

[Becks989]

Hello all. I just wanted to say a quick hello and well done to you all. I have been lurking since thread 1 but always felt I had nothing to contribute. I was horrified at how the story built.

I have, this evening reported to action fraud and will support as I can.

Just a message to Sam. Well done and keep going. Your so strong and you have so much support here. I have witnessed a family member go through what you have and the truth always comes out, it takes time but it will come in the end.

 

[Empen]

There’s been a reply from Trevi also, to one of us. Not stating who, as it will help Rachael out

Rachael is not a Trustee, she is a Patron.
Her role is ONLY to promote the work the charity does as opposed to anything with service users.
That comes DIRECT from the CEO.


Therefore, I’d say an awful lot of what Rachael states is bollocks.

Edited to add- It was specifically asked if Rachael worked with any of the women or babies at Trevi. If Rachael was qualified like the nurses and other specialists they have on their register, or if Rachael is even qualified in safeguarding, given her recent online behaviour- which was then listed in full.

 

[Gemma87]

I bowed out of this thread a few threads back as I thought it was all getting too much. Especially with keels etc (I do still believe she had more of a personal vendetta against R to begin with)

... having caught up, I actually can’t believe I stuck up for her and even doubted some tattlers motives for ‘finding things out’. I was originally sent here by the rant, felt sorry for her, then started to doubt her, and subsequently thought it was nothing more than a witch hunt. Now I can’t believe how naive ive been. I’m absolutely heartbroken for the boys mother. Before I was 100% certain that R & J wouldn’t have got custody of the boys unless some serious stuff went down, that their Mum was abusive, neglectful etc. And now it seems totally apparent that wasn’t the case. I really really hope some truth comes out of all this (from the horses mouth I mean), and hope it all becomes too hot to handle and R can’t manage to keep it all under wraps another second longer. How awful.

 

[Lucyinthesky88]

Personally, I think she knows exactly what she’s doing. Yes, there are doubtless underlying issues but I think (and I don’t work in mental health or anything so this is just my opinion) that she is in control enough to be accountable for her actions regardless of any issues she may have. She has a large house, five children virtually full time, countless pets, she can drive, she (according to herself) holds down a full time job, she spends a lot of time and effort on her appearance, she is able to hold a coherent conversation both in person and on paper. She’s a functioning adult and I don’t believe there is any excuse for her behaviour.

I feel more and more that she is calculating, that PTWM as a business was meticulously pre-planned and that she effectively grooms people. I think she used domestic abuse as a theme to set up her brand and that she now makes a lot of money from it.

A lot of us had difficult childhoods and have turbulent relationships with our parents. That doesn’t give us free reign to fuck other people over because we’re damaged.

 

[BigMama]

Charming fans she has...

She should have taken the opportunity to put her followers straight, right then and there. It would take seconds to say “Excuse me, this kind of response to another woman is not accepted here” and blocked them, to make a point. After all, she’s quick enough to block anyone who asks valid questions?

The lady had just said that she can’t conceive a child. Who on earth would reply with “it’s a joke, not a d**k - don’t take it too hard”. Someone without empathy, that’s who.

 

[Notnastyjustlovetoread]

I hope more people come across here to find out what R is really like

Edited to add this is on messiahkateo’s q&a on his stories

 

[Vixta]

Hello, I’ve been lurking here since thread one and thought it was time to add my piece to the discussion. I came to this site originally to have a nose at a thread about another Instagrammer I follow, but this caught my attention. I was aware of PTWM as I’d followed her in the past at some point. I admired and respected her for what she did for DV victims but I found the majority of her posts cringey and self-indulgent. I also wasn’t comfortable with the constant filming of her kids, even when they were asleep.

My first thought was that Keels had a bee in her bonnet over nothing, that the thread was unfair, and her article bordering obsessive. I read the blurb about donations on PTWM’s site and my interpretation of it was that the donations would allow Rachel to help her “warriors” properly by taking some kind of wage for her time, and the pot of money would be dipped into for rent deposits, household items etc so that she wouldn’t have to post individual fundraisers. When I watched her crying tattle story I actually felt sorry for her. I believed her when she said all the money was accounted for. I thought her recent increase in spending was due to her book sales and personal appearances.

However I continued to watch these threads with interest, as something wasn’t sitting right with me. I went from believing her, to being on the fence, to being totally onside with tattlers. Why? The main reason is the blocking and deleting of genuine enquires, it screams nothing but guilt. Why not have a standard reply saying everything is above board and will be addressed soon?

My eyes have been opened to everything else too - her lies, inconsistencies, blatant disregard for safeguarding etc. The tip of the iceberg was the post on here from Samantha which broke my heart. My ex husband had an affair which absolutely destroyed me, but we didn’t have kids. I can’t imagine the pain of my current partner leaving me for someone else and taking our little girl too. You are a very strong lady and if just one good thing was to come out of these threads I hope it’s that you get the help and support you need to see your beautiful boys again.

 

[xPinkxLadyx]

I contacted her for help this was my reply

Also this was 4 months after the msg I sent

Fucking serious! First thing I spotted was donate for our warriors!
The fact you got an automated message and she replied 3 months later is disgraceful. This needs sorting.
Everyone keep reporting to Action Fraud!!

Hope you’re ok? @Zodastream

I will keep trying!

 

[Quickfyre]

Don’t worry it’s all done to hurt me.
Like I said before using my boys as weapons.
She has well and truly groomed my gorgeous boys.
This is only another example of what a cruel and spiteful creature she really is.
Josh is a disgrace of a father to have ever of allowed any of it.

 

[GiveMyHeadPeace]

Something very strange is going on with this thread lately and I do think it’s best if ‘Samantha’ stays off this thread for her own benefit especially as everything will be read by R&J. Something just isn’t sitting right with me at all at the moment and things have been derailed a bit.

 

[Gi'ore]

It has been said many times but i also came here after the tattle rant, read all the posts and been a bit of a lurker. I too have been a "fan" of R's since the mothercare post and have also noticed a change in her appearance and behaviour over the last year or so.

Since finding Tattle and realising for myself that you are not a bunch of horrific trolls, im so happy to hear that others have the same opinion as me!

I never donated but i did buy her book which first had me questioning her.... Parts of the book didnt match up with things on her insta or facebook!

Another thing that has always bugged me is while i was preparing a personal statement for university and trying to obtain work related experience (which was pretty dammed hard seeing as i didnt have any relevant qualifications or experience) was how easy it was for her to have relevant information and contacts to help her "warriors"

Anyway i wanted to come by and say hi as i have voted in the poll but never posted until now

 

[Ineedahero]

Just one that has disagreed so far.

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The sheer fucking irony of saying you cant judge someone based on one website/page but then doing exactly that about Tattle.
The cognitive dissonance is frightening

 

[FromOopNorth]

Would sharing this image constitute trolling?

I am not saying send it to her, tag her in it, or post it on any of her social media.

It's for anyone to post on their own social media for their friends to see.

It doesn't accuse her of anything, it's just signposting people to come here and have a look.

What do you think?

Anyone is free to use this btw

 

[Mummyof1handsomeboy]

Long time lurker here Sent over by her majesty herself after the rant, of course I came to see al the horrendous things said but struggled to find them maybe I didn’t have my glasses on

I’ve followed her for a while and believed a lot of what she said, now after re reading things I can’t believe I ever fell for some of it.

I also messaged her once upon a time when I was suffering emotional abuse from an ex and had absolutely no reply, was rather gutted at the time tbh, now I realise my ‘drama’ just wasn’t appealing enough to warrant a reply.

Safe to say I’m now sat here refreshing this page almost every half an hour to see what unfolds and whether there’s any answers re the donations(I’ve never donated but actually did toy with the idea until I realised it was a monthly thing rather than a one of donation).

All you ladies(and men?) seem absolutely lovely on here

 

[Elgato]

I’ve noticed some derailment but I’ve ignored them as it wasn’t connected to the thread. It’s lazy derailment at that isn’t it (personal comments that’ll do it ) either way they’ve seemed to have gone now so back to the business at hand.

Where’s the money gone Rachel?
Why are you claiming to help when you don’t?
Why are you abusing people that have funded your lifestyle?

I’ve put in my action fraud report I’m not sure if it’s correct but I’ve done my best there but I’m going to look into the cqc stuff because trevi house really need to realise this kinda behaviour could sink them. They have responsibility to their clients not Rachel.

As I said we’ve been down this road before and look what happened there. We need to realise popularity doesn’t equate knowledge. I’ve said before r needs saving from herself and realise she’s not only putting her own family in harms way but others too. It’s not worth the likes on Instagram when it’s harmiby others.

Empen and qwerty you’re my heroes thank you for all that you do

Quickfyre im so proud of you keep fighting and keep making your voice heard

 

[BigMama]

I follow Constance Hall because in the beginning, way back before she met her current husband, she was raw, real, relatable. I laughed and cried with her posts. I still follow her now, but more because I love her bohemian style now. She’s lost the raw-ness and now it’s a lot of asking people to pay the subscription and buy clothes etc. Most of us don’t have that kind of money... I don’t agree with paying for a subscription for a blogger. I’m basically paying for them to have a comfortable life whilst reminding me how boring mine is in comparison? Little squares of pictures and stories of families aren’t real life.

Then I followed KDIL because she never asks for money and I really did laugh, like ugly snort laugh, when she made reviews of eBay teeth and clothes! But now, I think she’s trying to be like PTWM and refers a lot to her body parts and swears - there’s no need. There’s no need for every single post to have the word anus in. If you’re reading this KDIL - go back to the old version please because you cheered me up when days were tough but now you’re losing the sparkle and appeal.

PTWM doesn’t appeal to me because 1) she is not safeguarding vulnerable women. 2) she has formed an identity as a saviour of vulnerable women when in fact, she has shown that to be false. 3) if she was receiving 1000s of messages a day from women in DA relationships, she should have created a pinned reply message referring them to helplines and services (sorry if she does already do this), then at least women would not have been ignored. 4) why is it only attractive, smiley women whom are invited to her home? Is it branding? Or are these women exploiting PTWM for their own gain? Who knows, it’s murky. I wouldn’t invite a vulnerable woman and child into my home where my own husband and children lived. Boundaries can be blurred. 5) you can’t portray yourself a woman’s woman when you had an affair with someone’s husband. Then married him and publicly discussed the ex wife. 6) there is nothing more cruel than prohibiting a woman from seeing her children whilst simultaneously publishing their lives to the rest of the world. 7) PTWM if you’re reading this - can you monitor your followers so that when they reply with hatred to other followers, they are reprimanded and blocked? If a woman opens up about the hurt of infertility, don’t allow someone to make a mockery of her.

And finally, Isn’t it sad that when our children have Career Day at school in years to come, being an Instagram influencer will seem more appealing than becoming a Doctor or teacher. All those freebies?

 

[Peppermintteaplease]

Never commented but have been following the threads after coming hear from her rant (surprise surprise) and can just say you guys are welcoming honest and refreshing. Suffice to say my eyes have been opened I don’t feel so alone and you have confirmed what I’ve been thinking for a while but thought I was the odd one out. I too was one of Rachaele people she ignored. The only time I got a response was when I had out of desperation said I need advice as was in a volatiles situation she read it then replied ‘sorry babe you need help’ suffice to say I was crushed then I reached out again a while later and was ignored yet I’d see her invite people like that Emily rose come to her house and adopt her in (bizarre) yet she doesn’t have the decency to reply. Any way I’ve moved past that but it’s still sore and I’m so thankful tattle is an environment that is honest. Something Rachaele is not.

 

[FromOopNorth]

I saw this post on her latest photo earlier and thought I’d reply (long term lurker sent over by her rant!) anyway I realised my original post wouldn’t appear (I checked on my partners account and yep it wasn’t there as I’d put in those keywords!) so I re wrote it and it’s now showing! How long will it last is the question!

Welcome.

I love the "getting round the filter" you did..."hard earned sterling" is amazing! Your username as well OMG!

 

[Elgato]

Why aren’t we going to uncover the truth?

A heck of a lot has been uncovered in these threads. Some that’s been kept private and delivered into the hands of people who can action it in the real world and stuff that was a a simple google.

We’ve discovered she’s using a private PayPal not a business one. Heck she’s not even registered as a business!

Yes tattle is for the most part lighthearted and that’s great but sometimes when real world danger is happening people need to come together and work to right the wrongs.

Read all the threads you’ll see why we are serious.

 

[Uberqueen]

Something very strange is going on with this thread lately and I do think it’s best if ‘Samantha’ stays off this thread for her own benefit especially as everything will be read by R&J. Something just isn’t sitting right with me at all at the moment and things have been derailed a bit.

Totally. Keep to the known facts, the financial side and the safeguarding.

Also, so we're not accused of of being total bitches, can we tone down the personal comments on appearance etc as it discredits all the hard work that has gone into this thread over the past month.