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I am a smoking Frau ( partially medical reasons , partially because I like the effects ) but I’m always on the look out for a good cbd product
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I am a smoking Frau ( partially medical reasons , partially because I like the effects ) but I’m always on the look out for a good cbd product
I’m happy for you that the counselling sessions have been beneficial. I don’t binge eat but I do have very disorder eating, I can appreciate how difficult it must be to think about emotions around foodOn a scale of 1 to 10, how immature of me is it to have a little internal snigger every time my counsellor says 'self-love'?
I seem to remember a couple of people asking to know how I got on with it, so since I'm one away from finishing my initial set of six sessions, I thought I'd put some thoughts down.
Firstly, I got lucky with my counsellor. She's not a disordered eating specialist, but it is something she has a particular interest in. I wanted a woman, I wanted someone of an age to understand perimenopause, I wanted someone who understood the peculiar challenges of living in a remote bit of the Highlands and I wanted someone I could afford (a friend recommended her Surrey-based counsellor, but at £150 a session, no way!). That filtered me down to three on the BACP website and I connected with her photo the most, so tried her first, and it's worked out.
Secondly, I have not binged for a month now. I've overeaten a couple of times, but that's been in the context of enjoying a meal out or finishing Mr F's leftovers because there's only a little bit left, rather than slumped down in my car in a corner of the Tesco car park, inhaling double-stuff Oreos, totally oblivious to everything.
I knew before I started that my issues with food come from my childhood, we spent the whole of the first proper session (after a short introductory one to see if we got along with each other) talking about things that happened that I thought might be reasons for some of the things I was doing as an adult, then session two was looking at what set off binges as an adult. Session three was talking about feelings around food and starting to log what I ate, but rather than thinking about calories, looking at what emotions I was feeling when I ate, who I was with when I ate, where I was and so on - historically I don't get on with food diaries and I'm still not a fan, but I can just about do this as long as I think of it as recording observations rather than attaching judgements to it. Session four was looking at what I'd recorded and then session five today was some feedback on a few things she'd asked me to try related to that and what emotions that raised.
She's brought up some really interesting stuff - she's not telling me what to do and what not to do, like a dietician would, she's asking me the right questions to get me to make all the connections for myself, so she's not setting off the rebellious 'duck you, duck the diet, I'm going to eat a load of sugar anyway' thing. Setting rules for myself or getting too restrictive with what I eat is a surefire way to set me off, so we're trying to avoid that at all costs, and I've been able to eat both bread and a very occasional sugary thing in the last three weeks without setting off a binge and without feeling guilty about it.
Still a work in progress and I think I'll probably need a couple more sessions over the initial six, but it's been so, so helpful and I feel like I'm getting on top of it for the first time in decades. Historically I'm absolutely rubbish at asking for help with things (also a childhood hangover), so I'm glad that I've managed to do it for this.
There's a subreddit called r/adhdmeme which is lighthearted and wholesome. It's not designed as a diagnosis or treatment page. People post memes like this, other people comment on sympathetic appreciation of "being seen", and it's a good place.Can I ask a question of some of our Fraus who are on the spectrum/neurodiverse or have family who are?
My sister was very recently diagnosed with both autism and ADHD (in a mild form) by a pyschiatrist and I was wondering if there is any reading material I could point her in the direction of to help her learn more or anything to help her with management techniques?
Thank you kindly
Well I really feel it but I’m not somebody who ever smoked, and I’m scared of booze now, it tastes like acid and pain.Sorry for the dumb question but I got sober before CBD entered the mainstream so naively curious - do you actually feel the effect of it? I’d guess it’s like 10% but if you ate the whole bag it’d be like consuming the actual drug?
Come to mine, I’ll get tunnocko’s teacakeo’s and dreamies for MrPoohOne day when I'm not sick or poor anymore I'll travel to your lovely, rainy island and walk around with a big sign saying 'MCM' and wearing Pooh-Bear as a hat so any Frau will know it's me. I'll go everywhere I can think of.
Sounds like it's been such a positive experience for you.On a scale of 1 to 10, how immature of me is it to have a little internal snigger every time my counsellor says 'self-love'?
I seem to remember a couple of people asking to know how I got on with it, so since I'm one away from finishing my initial set of six sessions, I thought I'd put some thoughts down.
Firstly, I got lucky with my counsellor. She's not a disordered eating specialist, but it is something she has a particular interest in. I wanted a woman, I wanted someone of an age to understand perimenopause, I wanted someone who understood the peculiar challenges of living in a remote bit of the Highlands and I wanted someone I could afford (a friend recommended her Surrey-based counsellor, but at £150 a session, no way!). That filtered me down to three on the BACP website and I connected with her photo the most, so tried her first, and it's worked out.
Secondly, I have not binged for a month now. I've overeaten a couple of times, but that's been in the context of enjoying a meal out or finishing Mr F's leftovers because there's only a little bit left, rather than slumped down in my car in a corner of the Tesco car park, inhaling double-stuff Oreos, totally oblivious to everything.
I knew before I started that my issues with food come from my childhood, we spent the whole of the first proper session (after a short introductory one to see if we got along with each other) talking about things that happened that I thought might be reasons for some of the things I was doing as an adult, then session two was looking at what set off binges as an adult. Session three was talking about feelings around food and starting to log what I ate, but rather than thinking about calories, looking at what emotions I was feeling when I ate, who I was with when I ate, where I was and so on - historically I don't get on with food diaries and I'm still not a fan, but I can just about do this as long as I think of it as recording observations rather than attaching judgements to it. Session four was looking at what I'd recorded and then session five today was some feedback on a few things she'd asked me to try related to that and what emotions that raised.
She's brought up some really interesting stuff - she's not telling me what to do and what not to do, like a dietician would, she's asking me the right questions to get me to make all the connections for myself, so she's not setting off the rebellious 'duck you, duck the diet, I'm going to eat a load of sugar anyway' thing. Setting rules for myself or getting too restrictive with what I eat is a surefire way to set me off, so we're trying to avoid that at all costs, and I've been able to eat both bread and a very occasional sugary thing in the last three weeks without setting off a binge and without feeling guilty about it.
Still a work in progress and I think I'll probably need a couple more sessions over the initial six, but it's been so, so helpful and I feel like I'm getting on top of it for the first time in decades. Historically I'm absolutely rubbish at asking for help with things (also a childhood hangover), so I'm glad that I've managed to do it for this.
to you and your sis. I have ADHD not autism. My son has both. It’s a headfuck and a grieving process to be diagnosed as an adult. Well it was for me anyway. I second the r/adhdmeme and there is also r/adhdwomenCan I ask a question of some of our Fraus who are on the spectrum/neurodiverse or have family who are?
My sister was very recently diagnosed with both autism and ADHD (in a mild form) by a pyschiatrist and I was wondering if there is any reading material I could point her in the direction of to help her learn more or anything to help her with management techniques?
Thank you kindly
That's a little thing that makes a big difference, to see it written in medicine instructions.to you and your sis. I have ADHD not autism. My son has both. It’s a headfuck and a grieving process to be diagnosed as an adult. Well it was for me anyway. I second the r/adhdmeme and there is also r/adhdwomen
ETA. This is written on the leaflet for my medication. View attachment 1174611View attachment 1174611
You are SO kind to help find reading material for your sister. When I first got diagnosed with ADHD, some friends and relatives would send me articles or links, and it meant the world.Can I ask a question of some of our Fraus who are on the spectrum/neurodiverse or have family who are?
My sister was very recently diagnosed with both autism and ADHD (in a mild form) by a pyschiatrist and I was wondering if there is any reading material I could point her in the direction of to help her learn more or anything to help her with management techniques?
Thank you kindly
I’ve seen this on a few people’s instas. It looks soI just got this. I haven’t used it yet but it is beautiful. It’s Cyprus but goes as far as the Middle East and the Balkans. Jack could never.
Cannot help you sadly but smiled as I completely get the last part we’ve still not done a night apart but I had 2 days back to back socialising with friends (annual leave that needed to be used) and it’s insane not having to remain in a constant state of hyper vigilance meets final destination and maintain an endless supply of nose wipes, cuddles, and snacks. After about 5 minutes you miss it all desperately tho! But enjoy wherever you do go dear heart and fly freeeeeFraus can I ask if anyone here is familiar with Birmingham? I’ve never been and I’m travelling there for a conference later on this month, which is exciting for me because it’s the first time I’ve been away since birthing my beloved SB 2.5 years ago. Can anyone recommend a nice, not too expensive, restaurant somewhere central for dinner? Somewhere independent like Dishoom perhaps.
Never did I think I’d reach the point in life where an overnight stay in a Birmingham travelodge would be a source of excitement, but we are where we are and I’m at peace with it.
Oh wow, that’s such a good point, and so beautifully put.
I remember when June Brown was a guest on Graham Norton’s original chat show, it was 2002, and she was AMAZING.
She was wearing a gorgeous outfit, drink in one hand, and a long cigarette holder in the other. I think anyone who saw it would become a fan of hers then if they weren’t already. She was so interesting and funny, all “oh DARLING!” and dramatic eye-rolls.
BIB omg this is the best description ever! I wanted to simultaneously give a and reaction.Cannot help you sadly but smiled as I completely get the last part we’ve still not done a night apart but I had 2 days back to back socialising with friends (annual leave that needed to be used) and it’s insane not having to remain in a constant state of hyper vigilance meets final destination and maintain an endless supply of nose wipes, cuddles, and snacks. After about 5 minutes you miss it all desperately tho! But enjoy wherever you do go dear heart and fly freeeee