I feel surprised she’s behaved like this
I was pretty surprised, too, especially being on the receiving end. It was shocking. I'm not under any illusions, some of these women are true 'mean girls', you see glimmers of it now and then... but I did think Elle was one of the good ones. I was shooketh.
Thank you to everyone who was kind re: my own personal situation. I was really lucky to finally have my rainbow baby three years ago and I cherish her. I never take for granted that I am one of the lucky ones as I know so many people who are still waiting to bring home a living child. The grief you suffer is profound and life altering. I really admired Elle for sharing her experiences in a constructive way in her book, on her blog, and on her social media. She had a positive impact on my life when I felt my lowest. It is always painful to have your bubble burst about someone. But as the saying goes, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. Elle showed me who she is. All the ravers here can think otherwise, but this has been my own personal experience and you cannot diminish that with your "sorry you perceived this as rude" bullshit. If I had been at a different place in life, she would have crushed me that day with her rude response. Women who are grieving lost children are PROFOUNDLY VULNERABLE. She should know better!! Just shut you gob if you don't want to respond. Don't be a dick!!
Here's the thing about following these people, like many of you, I have a small account, it's private as I post things about my children and life in general and I'm concerned about safety and privacy. I followed maybe 15 or so of the bigger accounts, and I followed them for years. I wasn't influenced to spend money I didn't have or to go on diets or drink detox teas or anything crazy or toxic like that, but I did feel a small connection to them. You're invested when you're seeing someone every single day via their grid and stories. The algorithms make it so you often see those big accounts first, before you even see your real life friends and family, so you're pushed into consuming their life every day and that matters. It's good for them, as they can monetize that engagement, and well done them, but it isn't healthy for the people who follow them and are cast aside like an old shoe for no reason at all. Like I said, I do not feel ENTITLED to anyone's content, I don't want just anyone to have access to my content, but that is VERY different from being excluded by being blocked by a dozen accounts all at once. It's textbook bullying, plain and simple. I know this to be true because I work with children and the affects of bullying are profound and pretty intense, even for adults. Exclusion like that is bullying. Instagram is part of most of our daily lives, so the impact of being "blacklisted" matters. When a mass blocking takes place and suddenly all of the accounts you used to see and interact with every single day disappear it can cause you to feel very upset and to question yourself, "what did I do?" "why have they done this to me?" "I have always been so nice and supportive to them". The reality is, they hate their followers if they aren't kissing their ass, and if they aren't translating to cold hard cash and freebies, those followers can fuck right off. My experience with these huns isn't unique. It is easy to see this in how everyone acted when MOD had her fall from grace. They all kissed her ass for years, she was the queen bee of the instahuns. At the first whiff of trouble those bitches jumped ship like their life depended on it. They weren't going to lose their faux upper class lives for MOD, oh no they weren't. Most of these women are from working class backgrounds and would otherwise be living working class lives if they hadn't figured out how to manipulate women on Instagram. The things they have have not come to them through hard work, those things have come to them because they are "popular" in the artificial world of the internet. They can masquerade as upper class twits because of all those freebies, the $400 sheets, the fancy BB makeup, the Jo Malone perfume, the free furniture and flooring and cabinets, they wouldn't be able to afford those things in real life. And you can bet your tits that they're not going to lose that for a pretend friend on the internet.
There are a few big accounts I still follow and interact with and they are always incredibly kind to me, so I still follow them, apparently they didn't get the memo that I'm a dangerous grieving mother who should be blocked. Elle treated me poorly, so now I judge her by those actions and that seems more than fair. If it walks like an asshole and talks like an asshole, it is, in fact, an asshole. If she's been all peaches and cream to you, by all means, keep following her and talking about her like she's some sort of patron saint of grieving mothers, but quite a few of us have had very different experiences with her and she ain't no saint. She's just another mean girl instahun grasping at free shit and ain't nobody gonna get in the way of that, especially not some stupid grieving woman, like me, who wanted to share how much of a positive impact your book had on her life. Just think about that for one minute and let it sink in. If you still think she's perfect Elle, well then you're a perfect fool.
and is totally slamming the door on all her cheerleaders. I can imagine the onslaught of constant questions in her future and unless she drops off the face of the earth there’s no avoiding that
she’s ready to give birth ffs! 
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