Lately I admit I have often been skimming past the comments about neglect and safety issues, I've just been reading the comments that made me laugh. Our son will be having heart surgery at some point. We already knew quite a lot of information before he was born and we are glad that in the short term he's managing well, but because of this he has struggled to put weight on. He sees various doctors for different things and we are hopeful that everything we have in place now will help him put weight on and help him until he gets surgery.
I won't be sharing a lot about him because this isn't the place, but I shared this because I can't help but think of when Jace (and maybe Mila - I can't remember much other than her being washed in a frying pan) wasn't putting weight on for no other reason than Sarah wouldn't wake up to feed him more often. My other children have been fine to leave for longer stretches, they never lost weight and instead preferred to take large amounts of milk at once (formula, so I was very aware of exactly how large amounts they wanted). But she knew her baby wasn't putting weight on and knew there was a simple solution to try. She just didn't want to make the effort.
With them, it isn't entirely the "nothing bad will happen to us" attitude. Chris and Sarah prioritise their own safety with proper seats/seat belts and put their own wants first. They are aware accidents can happen - they have had trips to hospital with their children's injuries. Minor injuries, but even that usually leaves a parent quite shaken. They have watched their baby daughter go down for surgery. They have watched Jace ill in hospital for days. They seriously considered continuing their holiday whilst Jace was ill, they took him away as soon as he came home, and put off appointments for Mila. Their first thought is always to film medical appointments, they don't even go home before getting the camera out to start talking about it. They know things can happen, and as long as it doesn't disrupt their plans too much they welcome the vlog content.
After Mila got her cast off they have done nothing to help her catch up with her milestones. Luckily she seems to be getting on with it herself but it shouldn't have been like that. She should have had time to play and learn to explore in safety at home, not crawling across a bunk bed or left in the care of children when she isn't stuck in a car seat or being carried to yet another lake. They don't deserve their children, but the sad thing is they will have more just because they can.