The advice thread for random problems

[monga]

Does anyone know if you can remove the “for sale” sign from your home when it’s sold subject to contract? I see a lot of houses have theirs changed to “sold stc”. But a house near me has removed the sign completely, but it’s showing as sold stc online. Is this down to the hone owner, or do the estate agents have rules about how long you have to keep a sign up for?

My sister just sold hers and they didn't change her sign until the contracts were signed ,maybe incase the sale falls through ? you could always ring and ask them .

 

[S29S37]

Does anyone have any dog /puppy advice?

We just rehomed a 9 month old pug, she's settled in great so far, she is eating and toileting fine, great with my children, great out on the lead, but she seems to have some separation anxiety.
I know pugs are clingy anyway, but she's barking and crying just at us leaving the room, so we're worried about leaving her in the house alone.
Also the previous owners had her in bed with them which is a habit I would like to break, along with getting her to be confident when we leave the house. Any tips? Is this even possible?

 

[Purrrrrrr]

Just to jump in re the junk mail, a member of my family is a postie and believe me he hates having to lug it around on his route with his regular mail as much as we all hate receiving it. Unfortunately “door to door” as they call it make up a huge part of RM revenue, and if he was seen to be not posting it because of a sign left about not receiving junk mail he could lose his job. They are specifically told to ignore them. Just wanted to clarify that it really isn’t your postman being difficult, it’s the powers that be unfortunately.

No, I know that. My postie is a diamond. I just meant that we should be able to refuse it and most people would.
I have a job picking it up and cant have a letterbox cage as my door then won't fully open. it's a pain.

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Think you need to chill out mate!! Getting awfully riled up for a few bits of paper.

Me chill out? I'm not the one with the exclamation marks

 

[Purrrrrrr]

I had a OT come round the week before last to see what adaptations need doing for me in my home
. Housing is coming round next Thursday Anyone knows what to expect? Do they also need to ask questions about my health etc or will they just be looking to see if the adaptations are possible?

 

[HoGi]

Random question since we haven’t been abroad since before covid! Going to Turkey for 7 days all inclusive on a resort me and my 2 kids Iv already bought floats and sun cream etc sooo my question is will 5000 lira be enough for a week? It’s about £260 roughly.. and then £100 for airport for there and back food or whatever (will be taking lots of food too incase if delays) money is super tight since the inflation and I’m also starting maternity a couple of weeks before we go..

If you're all inclusive, unless you are planning to leave the resort and go on trips etc, then it shouldn't cost you anything.

 

[1001 others]

I do love the warmth and cheeriness that summer brings but I loathe all the bugs! (Or, more specifically, their bites). I get eaten by everything going, despite spraying insect repellent on every morning and night. As well as the usual mosquito bites (my arms look like someone's been using them for target practice), I managed to get bitten by a spider last night while sleeping - I found it, dead, in my sheets this morning, and my leg has swelled and is making me feel queasy. I've cleaned the wound, disinfected it, and am now waiting to see if it improves ...

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Hi
I’m totally new to this and i can’t seem to work out how to make my own thread. Hope I’m okay posting here.
long story short - my now friend, I once had a fling with the father of her children. Before we were friends ofs! She knows all about this. I ended things with him. He then got with someone else. Had a child with her. She (my friend) has one child to my ex. And two more with her now husband. She has not been with my ex in around 10 years. She has been the one that repeatedly made comments such as “Go back there” “give him another chance”. On one occasion not that long ago, she even suggested I used him as a “friends with benefits”. I always declined. His relationship failed and once that happened he began calling and texting me. I very rarely replied. However one time I was out, and he began texting me. So I did go and see him. I did not sleep with him. I did however tell him not to contact me anymore. I told my friend this as soon as it happened and she didn’t seem too bothered by it. Things were normal for us. Then she had a particularly bad week and asked more questions about the encounter. I told her 100% honestly. And since then I’ve felt that something was off. I am autistic and struggle to “read the room” so to speak. I’m also having a particular difficult time with my own anxiety and depression. My friend has always replied to my messages. Although a little slow at times, and I feel maybe abit tense. Although she has used emojis and “x” a few times. She never told me she was angry or annoyed with me. I did ask if things were okay and she said they were. But something just feels off. Any advice is greatly appreciated as this situation is really sending my anxiety sky high.

My advice would be to meet up with her and ask her outright. Warn her first that you need to check something, that you are concerned you might have upset her and would like her to be honest in her replies.

You haven't done anything wrong but maybe you and him having contact has upset her more than she realised it would, even though she encouraged you.

I don't really think this is a conversion you can have by text either. Some things need to be face to face.

Try not to overthink it though. There might not even be an issue and if there is this definitely sounds like something that can be talked through and sorted out.

 

[newaccount2022]

Just a quick one.
My daughter hurt her wrist yesterday playing netball. It’s not broken. She can still move it. However, she’s clearly done some damage as she can’t use it much. She can’t hold anything in that hand and it you touch it. Even lightly she winces in pain. I don’t want to waste hospital staff’s time especially as my local hospital is struggling at the moment. But I feel like she should be seen, but also as it’s not broken I’m unsure what they will be able to do?
None of my children have ever had an injury like this and I’m not too sure if I’m being over cautious

I broke my arm on Xmas day once and my parents didn’t bring me to hospital for four days because I could move it/wasn’t crying lol and they thought it would improve with ice and painkillers. I’d say you’re better off getting it x-rayed! It’s better to know and if it needs to be re-set it needs to be done asap

 

[Zaggerzoo]

Colour it in a similar colour ? Maybe there’s flooring repair kits on eBay?

Thank you I’ll have a look! I’ve seen people use some crayon wax stuff before but that was on wooden floor but hopefully will work on Lino too! X

 

[emmer_moans]

I've tried so many different ways to hold the yarn but there's only one way that works for me an it just makes my hand hurt but can't just give it up now, not that I really want to either

I crochet in winter months. I used to get like rope burn on my left pinky finger but it turns out i was getting my tension wrong. There are different ways to hold the hook and yarn. Last year I taught myself how to hold my yarn differently from a youtube video and it worked for me. I am on a Crochet group page thing on Facebook and quite often others say they are having RSI issues etc. I think we just have to try not to hold the yarn and hook too tight, and also take regular breaks.

 

[Justhereforthebantslll]

Sorry when I said, I changed the cat litter I didn’t mean changed the brand. Mine is also fickle like that. I meant changes as in cleaned out. And there’s never anything in there. So she’s not even gone in I don’t think.

She defo is grieving and I must say, it’s heartbreaking to see.

 

[Piff paff puff]

Oohh no, I hope it doesn't damage the roots, what tree is it? Maybe it won't have strong roots on it like the bigger trees, some you can get away with being close, some of my neighbours have the little trees planted in their gardens which wouldn't harm the house

Yeah I knew what they were, I found the chestnuts from a young tree in one park an found acorns from another park, took them all home an got 3 out the whole bunch to grow, they weren't saplings, I guess that's how am trying find homes for them, it was the fact I grew them from the acorn an chestnut themselves rather than get them as saplings that had already started

That's bloody amazing! and so inspiring
It's an Apple tree, the one that's close to my house

 

[monga]

Thanks, wasn't sure if they would be right or not, like am not sure if most would just tell me it must be a scam an to forget it, but honestly am getting more an more dissapointed, I seriously want to get out to the studios an paying for London will be expensive as it is without having to pay out for tickets

I think they deal with all types of things from benefits to consumer issues ,it's worth a try anyway ...so rotten when these companies don't respond a reply isn't much to ask ,hope you get it sorted so you can enjoy your trip.

 

[orange club biscuit]

Has anyone had soundwave therapy ( I think that is what it's called? I have a problem with one of my feet and it's creating all sorts of other problems due to not getting it sorted (it wasn't covid so it wasn't important) My Achilles heel is inflamed and calcifying and apparently nothing can be done via NHS due to it being left so long


I just wondered has anyone had this alt treatment done and did it help with your problem?

shockwave therapy? my husband is having this at the moment on his Achilles! He’s only had two sessions so far so I can’t comment but his physio is really really good and this treatment was recommended to him by a sports doctor (was a running injury) , so I think it does work for some people.

Sorry just reading back my answer that wasn’t actually very helpful! I can report back in a few weeks….

 

[Purrrrrrr]

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Does anyone know if I can still use this stamp? I dropped it when getting out of the car, couldn’t find it and then found it about an hour later. It’s a bit soggy at the moment so I was going to let it dry out and then potentially stick it down with tape but I’m not sure what’s allowed thank you

Pritstick is a better bet than tape.

 

[newaccount2022]

Just got my shiny new fridge delivered from argos and the old one uplifted by them at the same time. Will have to do some shopping today now

feck ya I’m so jealous!!! hope you enjoy (it’s funny the things that excite us as adults)

 

[Snippysnips]

I went to the opticians yesterday and at the grand old age of 64, it's been decided I need glasses. Boo

Apparently, if you are on income-based ESA You can get a voucher towards the cost .. How do you know if you are on income-based? I've looked through my paperwork and can't find anything other than ESA . although I know I am on the income-based one, only because I was on the wrong one for years and didn't know and they finally switched me to the income-based one

What do I need to do to get this voucher? or is that something the opticians sort out?





Edited to say found something that says I am on income-related ESA,, So that's ok. but what do I do now?

You just let them know an they tick the box, the voucher only covers so much an I don't believe it's for any designer ones either

I myself am only on ESA an I usually go for the glasses at £19 cause those are completly free for me, the ones after it start to cost because even though the voucher says it covers that amount of the I think £40 ones by the time they add things on like the lens an such it actually makes the cost go up an you end up having to pay the excess, so before picking frames I'd ask if the lens is going be expensive or not incase you pick £40 frames thinking your voucher will make that entirely free an you end up with a excess to have to pay

 

[1001 others]

I got a TV man in to hang mine ... I also got him to provide the brackets as I'd read mixed reviews about some not being strong enough. He was really good and worth every penny.

I don't have LED strips on my TV.

 

[Snippysnips]

Am going away two nights to a holiday place near Edinburgh, anyone know a good place to board my rabbit near there? can't trust the little demon to stay home not that I'd want to anyway since it's two nights an not one, but my area has nothing an family aren't confident at taking him since he's quite the handful, he's a indoor bun as well so can't do outdoor places since he's never built up his coat plus he's only 6m so this is first winter too

 

[daisychains_]

Has anyone ever been at the point where they are done listening to/trying to help a friend who will not leave a bad relationship even though they have every Avenue and all of the support to do so

Is it cruel to not want to be friends anymore? It doesn’t even feel like there is a friendship left and I can no longer hide the anger and hurt I feel towards her.

I want to tell her that I will always be there to help when she decides to leave but I cannot play along anymore

I think unfortunately, until someone recognises themselves that the relationship is bad, there is nothing that anyone around them can say or do to convince them - it's just something they have to work out on their own. That does however mean that is becomes incredibly draining on the people around them as they have to sit back and watch their loved one/friend etc setting themselves up to be hurt in a toxic situation. I think the best thing you can do is distance yourself, but if and when she recognises the relationship is bad and potentially needs you, just be there. Don't give the "I told you so" attitude, but just encourage them that they're better off out of that situation.

You don't need to cut her off completely if you still think you could be friends after the relationship has ended, but there is no harm in distancing yourself. She may have a light bulb moment that makes her realise that the relationship is causing the relationships with the people closest to her to dwindle.