That post made me very very cross.
She constantly shows her complete lack of discipline and very low behavioural standards. She encourages poor behaviour and being ‘wild’ by laughing and filming. She designs their lives to be chaotic and frantic with no down time, and shows no insight into her children’s need for regular quality time to decompress and connect. That’s all for her own validation, not what is best for her children.
She is charmed by his wild behaviour, even when it impacts the (paid for) experiences of other small children, expects those children to ENJOY his disruptive behaviour and their parents to accept it. Has she considered there maybe other children there with needs not being met because of her son?
If things are improving at school because of ‘a lot of extra support,’ does she really expect private activity clubs to also bear the cost of resourcing all that additional support he needs?
All kids can have poor behaviour sometimes, and that’s ok. But if a child is frequently disrupting the class and affecting other kids on a regular basis, it’s really unfair of her to expect those families to continue to take their kids to a club that is spoiled by her son’s behaviour. Club leaders will not be able to afford children leaving or having a poor experience, and probably can’t afford to pay for an extra helper if he needs more support than the other kids.
This isn’t about other people not having tolerance for L, it’s about HER not having consideration for a room full of kids trying their best. Kids regularly seem accepting of poor behaviour because they are following social norms - but later say actually they didn’t like it because somebody sucks up energy and time, or distracts or is unkind or too loud or drags the group in the wrong direction.
Being inclusive is massively important, I volunteer with an organisation where we will pay for additional support for children with diagnosis so they can have a good experience without impacting the class leader or other kids. Costs a lot and is absolutely worth it (we are a charity). But as a parent, if my child was causing these problems in a setting where that support was infeasible, I would take my child to something more appropriate, with trained staff ready to deal with it, or volunteer to help myself.