She says it's not hurting anyone to go home every weekend, forgetting that her parents may want some time to themselves. The home changes when children leave, it can be hard for parents to adjust to the empty nest, then your eldest turns up every weekend needing ceremonial tea and mourning the end of October.
Judging by Martha's recent Instagram livestream, she apparently wasn't made aware of the family trip to Devon until after the fact and didn't get invited.
Which seems par for the course - all family events are planned around Ruby, and her parents will happily drive hundreds of miles to chauffeur her around, but Martha has to get the train by herself to and from uni and is mostly an afterthought to her parents.
I doubt she would thrive studying at open uni. She relies on constant validation and praise, I think one of the reasons she isn't enjoying uni because she is just another average jane in her course (barring her excessive busywork & study hours) and not the Gifted Child like she thought she was.
Most of these studytubers suffer from 'big fish in small pond' syndrome, they all thought they were hot shit until they went to uni and faced the fact that being head girl or star student at their old school meant fuck all, unless they applied their soft skills to their new studies. Vast majority of them failed/are failing miserably at this. I've always found Eve Bennett a bit irritating and spoiled but one thing I can applaud her for is how she adjusted to Oxford and eventually managed to make the most of it. When I look at Ruby or Jade, I can't help but laugh at how much they are a shadow of their former selves. Both are narcissistic and and delusional, refusing to accept that they actually hate studying but can't let go of their online persona because the cash and the praise is just too sweet. Jade is a greenwashed MLM clown and Ruby is forever living in Neverland. I have no idea how younger fans look up to these two.
You wake up to find yourself tied up with £1466 worth of Pumpkin Productivity ribbons and a Joules rainhat on your head. HELLOOO, whispers a distant voice. You can smell the odour of unwashed clothes and nail varnish from here. WELCOME TO MY ROOBEE RED RYOOM.
Princess Ruby has blocked me from Insta for calling out her fad of sustainability. I said Miss Patina is a fast fashion brand and block it is! Keep blocking out the truth Ruby. Enjoy your hypocrisy and watching the planet burn by continue to shop at fast fashion.
Great support of women's rights too btw!
I've just watched Ruby's recent video and I don't think she realises that people don't say "those were the best years of my life" just because they went out drinking? For me the highlights of uni were being free to do what I wanted, meeting people who were on my wavelength and living in a city with loads going on (things I hadn't had growing up/at school). Yes there are bad times too, there are always bad times, but a lot of it is about pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and making mistakes so that you can grow and learn from those experiences. You have to do things you're not sure about to find out whether or not you like them, not just decide that you don't like them in the first place and write people off.
It's okay to not like drinking and partying, absolutely! But not embracing your freedom is a wasted opportunity.
"I feel like this is going to be quite a long video," Ruby says. And what better way to guarantee that her video is longer than it needs to be than to insert long chunks of recycled footage from nearly four months ago?
October 2021:
August 2021:
Ruby starts as she means to go on, by rambling incoherently for several minutes. Her first topic is fire, and how she doesn't restrict lighting candles directly on or next to fuel sources to just the month of October; fire hazards are for life, not just for Autumn as far as Ruby is concerned.
At least she's temporarily stopped using gas lighters to light her perpetually wonky candles, but Ruby "Super Sustainable" Granger still hasn't switched to an electric one, that just wouldn't be "aesthetic".
Find someone who looks at you the way Ruby looks at the fires she starts.
Ruby claimed to have read Stephen King's "Shank-Shaw Redemption" not long ago, but there's another King book that seems far more up her alley...
Nobody is safe from Ruby's firestarting, not even herself. Deciding that putting a used matchstick on the candlestick's tray or somewhere safe wouldn't be aesthetic, in her attempt to put it somewhere else, she leans across an open flame and almostsets her fucking sleeve on fire...
(Pictured: A complete fucking idiot.)
After rambling nonsense about candles and fire with an almost gleefully surreptitious look on her face, as if she's secretly imagining burning down the homes of anyone who ever gave her a bad grade, she moves on to rambling about how it's October, which she's been droning on about endlessly for several months. Ruby at least brings some educational factoids to the table: After October comes November. Ruby bringing her research skills out in force for that one.
But even though it's October and October is the best month ever and you should embraces the Octobereyness of it all, Ruby has already been cheating on October by celebrating Christmas for months, apparently. She obsessively rants about Christmas like it's the only signpost of joy in her future, mostly because she'll be at home, latching onto her parents for dear life again and won't have to deal with adulthood.
Ruby looks at Christmas the same way she does childhood. In reality, childhood is all the more precious for being fleeting, much like Christmas, which is a magical time of year because it's a seasonal holiday that comes once a year. Celebrating Christmas for months on end dilutes the whole holiday and waters down that fleeting magic to rote, routine, everyday nothingness, but Ruby's content to do that, just like she's happy to drag her childhood out a few extra decades.
After lots of unrelated rambling, Ruby finally starts getting to the point of the video. University isn't supposed to be the best time of your life, apparently. This is only really news to Ruby, as most people approach uni as a fun, challenging and hopefully rewarding growth experience, where you learn new things, meet new people and get some semi-sheltered experience being independent before you go on to the real world to live the rest of your adult life. But Ruby's conditioned herself to believe academia is the focal point of everything, so it isn't shocking that she felt that university was supposed to be life's high point, and she's done everything she can to push that view onto others up until now.
Ruby briefly wonders if the word "chide" is real after using it in a sentence, and looks it up to find that it is, of course, a real word. Ruby is delighted with herself, and only included this footage of her doubting her language because she believed it was another "Ruby was right all along!" moment captured on camera. She punctuates her self-congratulatory moment with her new faux-Italian "pinch the air" hand gestures:
Ruby continuously blames the system for misleading people regarding university and "adults" for telling people that uni is supposed to be the best time of their lives, while never acknowledging that she herself has been parroting this narrative endlessly, and she's not a child anymore. It's everyone else's fault but Ruby's, and she yet again admits no culpability for romanticising toxic productivity and idealising uni and academia, despite that being all she ever does.
She also never picks up on the fact that most people who graduate uni and look back with nostalgia as the best time of their life do so because they had a tonne of fun with an active social life, with a relatively easy workload, doing new things and it was likely the last time before they had to worry about working all week in an actual job, paying bills, rent, a mortgage. Of course that's going to look amazing in rose-tinted hindsight, but those people probably struggled too at times while actually at uni. Ruby has no interest in nuance or perspective, though. Lying adults sold her a fake bill of goods, and they're to blame.
(Pictured: The world's most disgusting-looking mug.)
Ruby has actively deprived herself of a social life, has never left her bubble of comfort to try the things that most people feel define the uni experience, and she's made the academic work involved take up far more of her time than was necessary so naturally she's not going to have the same fondly-remembered experience. All she'll have to look back on are the endless busywork she forced on herself and having to be away from home. She also won't have to worry about finding a job, paying bills or being a responsible adult after she graduates because of her wealth and privilege.
She claims she's not the only one who feels this way: Everyone she talked to told her that they really struggled to adjust in first year. The key part being "first year". Ruby is in her fourth year and still hasn't adjusted because she was privileged enough to be able to run home every week, or for months on end. Almost everyone else either got over that shit and adjusted through exposure therapy of sticking it out. Ruby has never adjusted because she just runs home every time she can.
She claims nobody told her in year one that they were also struggling, but it's more likely Ruby never heard about it from anyone because she actively avoided socialising and tuned out any voice that wasn't her own.
Ruby then rambles for what feels like a lifetime about nothing at all, and she breaks out the greatest hits of "I was bullied at school", "It's okay to be different, but if you're different to me, I'll passively-aggressively judge you" and "We need to normalise all the things that I want to do!"
Ruby says it's okay that she's introverted and doesn't socialise, because she has one friend who she spends all he time with. Only that's not healthy when you approach a single friendship as intensely as Ruby does with Blakeney, co-opting all her time and imitating all her mannerisms, wardrobe and habits. She even admits to "romanticising" the fact that she lives with her best friend, which sounds both obsessive and weirdly detached. It's not going to leave her in a great place when Blakeney moves on with her life after graduation.
She takes the same self-centred approach to going home all the time. It's okay to be homesick and go home if you are. Only Ruby isn't just homesick. She's obsessively reliant on her parents, at the expense of her own physical and mental health, as evidenced by the entire last year of steady mental and physical decline and her current timetable of being in constant contact with her parents throughout the entire day at uni, writing endless letters to them a day after seeing them. She claims that going home leaves her recharged and in a better mood when she goes back to uni, which we can clearly see is bullshit by how miserable she looks at uni constantly. She's not emotionally equipped for adult life by any stretch of the imagination.
She also says it's now fine that she goes home all the time because it's not hurting anyone or inconveniencing anyone - John Stuart Mills says so; it's a free country! We have personal liberties and we must exercise them! This from Ruby, who drags her parents hundreds of miles to pick her up from uni when she can easily afford to get the train if she wants to go home so much. She makes her parents take all their holidays in Devon to be next to her. She makes them cut holidays short to attend to her childish whims, then throws tantrums when they're late even if she's not ready herself .
Not only does this seem like a mentally unhealthy, massively wasteful inconvenience all around, but Martha's sat in Sheffield like chopped liver because Ruby's monopolising all her parents' time and attention. Also Ruby's lip-service crusade for sustainability doesn't hold up to scrutiny when she's having her parents drive a camper van all over everywhere every week for her. But nope, not inconveniencing anyone at all, Rubes.
"I don't know if this was helpful at all," Ruby wonders aloud. It wasn't, Ruby. It was 20+ minutes of rambling nonsense from a self-absorbed child in extreme denial. At least it wasn't sponsored, though.
Coincidentally, Ruby's mother posted a poem about the joys of finally having time alone to enjoy peace and quiet and how good that is for her mental health...shortly before Ruby comes back to ruin it.
Oh, here I am Alone at last Just me, the rain Present and past I sit by the window And start to write away I’m all cosy inside On this grizzly, grey day The silence is perfect Drips are all that I hear Settling into puddles Nature’s very own tears I relish the quiet To be all by myself To be in...
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Oh, here I am
Alone at last
Just me, the rain
Present and past
I sit by the window
And start to write away
I’m all cosy inside
On this grizzly, grey day
The silence is perfect
Drips are all that I hear
Settling into puddles
Nature’s very own tears
I relish the quiet
To be all by myself
To be in the moment
Just so good for my health
Looking out through the pane
I can see the willow tree
Bows majestically
Saying hello it's Roobee to me
A spider is stuck
Halfway down the wall
It’s stillness stills me
Doesn’t let me fall
The glass lamp shines down
My laptop gives light
The unlit fire waits
Until day is night
The garden fuschia sways
I feel like I should too
But how blissful it is
Until I do need to
Updating your laptop Everytime a new software comes out is incredibly tolling on the planet. Please think before you buy a new electric gadget every year
“updating” her laptop means keeping the same laptop and updating its software by downloading it, it actually prevents you from buying new technology because it keeps your laptop working properly
This advert for the school that Ruby went too is so pretentious, the girls in it are like little Ruby clones. These fuckers are setting up franchises of Ruby's
lmao these people are truly living in a different world. Imagine having gone to school with all those facilities, even a nice indoor pool and perfect-looking science labs, it's a different level of privilege. Makes me feel sorry for myself having gone to a crusty village school with bits falling off the asbestos-filled 60s buildings, dictionaries being thrown at teachers, and always being told to use everything 'sparingly'
also love that they picked what's probably the only 3 minority ethnic girls in the school to do the ad, so inclusive x
This is my first time commenting on one of these threads even though I have been reading through them for a long time. I just found it quite interesting and worrying that in Ruby's most recent video, these came up as recommended videos for her.
After having a look, one of the person on one of these channels does have an ED and the channel in general contains a lot of body checking. I was kinda sceptical when people initially started saying she has an ED but after seeing these and countless other examples as well as all the weight she has lost over the past year, I don't think it's something we can really ignore anymore. I just really hope Ruby realises this and gets the help she needs.
Not to be pedantic but we aren’t really in the middle of a pandemic anymore. No rules are in place anymore in England and she’s double vaccinated. As long as she’s washing hands frequently or using gel, and not overly touching her face she should be fine. We can’t limit ourselves forever and one of the joys of book shopping is picking them up and reading the blurb! Each to their own but now it’s kinda just do what you feel comfortable with.
I mean, we are still very much in a pandemic and being double vaccinated is no guarantee of protection. Both of my grandparents, my uncle and my aunt are double vaccinated with pfizer and they’ve all currently got covid.
However, I agree with you, at the end of the day Ruby isn’t breaking any rules and she wears a mask in more places than most UK influencers so I don’t really see the need to pull her up for touching books.
I'm gonna play devil's advocate and give Ruby and her parents the benefit of the doubt here.
They clearly thought the person sat next to Ruby was Martha, when really it was just a random person who was waiting outside the restaurant when the family arrived.
This person tried to tell them, but Ruby's family aren't used to listening to what other people have to say, so it fell on deaf ears and the random captive just went along with it for the free meal.
In fairness to the family, they ignore and avoid Martha so much that they wouldn't know any better - any young person with vaguely dark hair could easily be their daughter as far as they know.
But while everyone else is looking at the camera, you can see Daddy Bones starting to look across the table and start to wonder if the person across from him maybe isn't his daughter at all.
Unfortunately, the person he's suspicious of is Ruby. He has no clue whatsoever that the real Martha isn't there.
Remember when she said in a video that she carried around a handkerchief to open a freakin latch on a gate in the middle of literal nowhere? But touching every single book in waterstones with grubby little fingers is okay somehow? I feel like It’s not even about the actual germs or whatever, it’s just her constant pretentiousness and inconsistency in what she says and does.
She washes her hands til they’re raw, but her house / her flat in Exeter is so freaking grimy it makes my skin crawl. The dust bunnies, if you can even call that disgusting collection of god knows what under her bed, is the stuff of actual nightmares. But again, she tries to make it seem like she’s a germaphobe?
Bestie, germaphobes don’t go touching every item in a store, don’t turn their living quarters into an actual garbage can, and they certainly clean under their bed at least once in two decades
What's wrong with her touching books? Like you guys never went to a bookstore and flipped throught book pages.
I agree with a lot of things said on these foruns but you're just nitpicking at this point
Browse a bookstore every now and then.
Look at books they're at least vaguely interested in.
Buy something.
Call it a day.
Most People During a Pandemic:
Limit unnecessary touching of random things in public for the sake of themselves and others.
Sanitise hands afterwards.
Ruby:
Browses the exact same bookstore every single day.
Despite only ever reading children's books, touches absolutely every single book in the shop, including ones she already owns, or books about Pope Francis, quantum mechanics, and travelling in Norway.
For books that she doesn't take off the shelf, she ensures that the spines and covers of all books are touched - pointing at them simply will not do.
Buys nothing.
Leaves.
Repeats entire process the very next day.
Ruby During a Pandemic:
Same as usual, but with a soiled handkerchief from the 1800s kept unused in her dusty bag.
Many people are likely going to be more reluctant to go grabbing numerous things they have no intention of buying during an ongoing pandemic, especially in the UK, where cases are once again skyrocketing.
You would expect Ruby would be one of these people, since she was crying crocodile tears over Covid when she needed an excuse to go home and claims germaphobia prevents her from touching things touched by other people. Her behaviour might be perfectly within the rules, but all it does is prove that everything she says is lies, and especially hypocritical considering she took money from the NHS to advertise pandemic hygiene precautions.
Seeing people like Ruby pawing at all the books every day would only make me that much more apprehensive to browse a physical bookstore, since her hands are constantly filthy and she has no concept of cleanliness.
Browsing Waterstones endlessly is just part of her superficial need to be seen with books, and part of her desperate campaign to attract a Waterstones sponsor deal. She doesn't need to be touching everything, every day, as she has no interest in actually buying or reading anything, and what few books she buys, she buys online anyway. She can't even feign interest in anything beyond the pretty covers.
We need to normalise wearing X
We need to let go of the idea that we should only wear Y
We shouldn't have to wear Z if we don't want to...
And why is she so defensive about not wearing jeans? Nobody gives a fuck...?
Also, what a hypocrite. She claims she doesn't buy brands and only shops secondhand??!! Gimme a break. How many Miss Patina things does she have? I guess it doesn't count if it was gifted.
If it's so important to her to keep re-wearing certain items over and over again, why the hell does she own over 200 pieces of clothing? The same skirt in 3 different colours, the same jacket in 5 different fabrics... She could literally wear a different outfit every day for a year and not run out.
Preaching about sustainability and shopping responsibly after showing us 35 "essentials" we all "hopefully" should be able to get if we are patient enough and wait for the the universe to manifest it for us - this is just taking the piss now. I'm baffled by the cognitive dissonance of this middle-aged granny toddler.
I have big issues with Ruby's video:
1) She conflates introversion with not wanting to go to parties or social events at all, which I don't think is entirely correct.
2) She says that she's homesick every. single. day. whilst she's in Exeter after 3+ years of studying there. That's more than homesickness, that's definitely something more deeply rooted. Most people who are homesick don't have it 24/7, especially not in their later years of uni. By then, people are getting used to being an adult away from the family home, which she seems to never have got used to.
3) Does Ruby not want to have an independent life at all? And I don't mean 'independent' as in never speaking to your parents again or moving 1000s of miles away - just being able to do things without them, buy the cereal your parents disapprove of, stay up all night without being questioned, having a space that you have complete control over etc.
The fact she says she likes monochrome outfits but then wears a green and blue skirt with a black top with a brown cardigan with a white, red and blue scarf is something.
