Thing is, she talks about homesickness as if she's a child sent to a boarding school who can't wait to get back home. But she's in her final year which for a lot of people is a time when you are ready to start looking for a job and your own place to live. I wonder what her plans for the future are. Is she planning to continue living with her parents after the graduation? Not that I'm judging her if she's in a bad place mentally, but I wonder if she ever craves independence at all
Ruby Granger #18 Still no deal with Waterstones but half her food was mailed from home
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I've just watched Ruby's recent video and I don't think she realises that people don't say "those were the best years of my life" just because they went out drinking? For me the highlights of uni were being free to do what I wanted, meeting people who were on my wavelength and living in a city with loads going on (things I hadn't had growing up/at school). Yes there are bad times too, there are always bad times, but a lot of it is about pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and making mistakes so that you can grow and learn from those experiences. You have to do things you're not sure about to find out whether or not you like them, not just decide that you don't like them in the first place and write people off.
It's okay to not like drinking and partying, absolutely! But not embracing your freedom is a wasted opportunity.
It's okay to not like drinking and partying, absolutely! But not embracing your freedom is a wasted opportunity.
This was my thought too. The video was too long and involved to be a coincidence, I think she read here and is justifying her homesickness to us. I just see a regressing, increasingly sickly person
I hope she is getting help. What would she do if her parents ever decided to move house, for example?
Is it just me who thinks her Dickens project is dubious? Dickens isn't known for murder mysteries but that's the route she's gone down. 'Murder in the workhouse' is a ridiculous concept and I doubt Dickens, who highlighted the grinding poverty and hardship faced by the poor, would have approved of the way they're turning the lives of the poor into a stupid unrealistic game. The idea that you have to 'alert the authorities' - as if the authorities would care that someone had died in a workhouse. The whole thing is so cheap and sensationalist and just badly thought out.
Yep, you can definitely see it coming - drip-feeding her viewers hints that actually she was never enjoying it all along, and it's not her fault everyone! I think if she didn't want to keep promoting her 'lifestyle' on YouTube, she'd have stopped uploading for months and then dropped an announcement video after dropping out/suspending her studies.
I genuinely don't think she'd cope with that, unless they were planning to move to a more aesthetic-looking place.
Even though I never went to uni, I still craved independence at that age. I get it's been tough during the pandemic but she's entirely missed the point of being away at uni.
No one would judge you for not drinking or going to parties.
I can't help but feel like a lot of her "homesickness" is stemming from the realisation that she's going to be finished uni soon without any job or any form of life skills.
I'm sure she'll be fine financially as she has rich parents but at the age 21, you'd at least have some sort of work experience. Perhaps she's finally realising that and is now starting to panic that she doesn't really have anything to show for the last 4 years.
Sorry if that's super harsh but it's the reality. Obviously it's great she was head girl and has a successful YouTube channel but it's not a grantee that she's going to be able to do that forever.
I can't help but feel sad for her. However, it's her own doing. She should have gotten herself a little job or pushed herself more to be more social with her peers; rather than hiding away in her room doing busy work.
It's easy to blame her parents but she is an adult and made her own decisions.
No one would judge you for not drinking or going to parties.
I can't help but feel like a lot of her "homesickness" is stemming from the realisation that she's going to be finished uni soon without any job or any form of life skills.
I'm sure she'll be fine financially as she has rich parents but at the age 21, you'd at least have some sort of work experience. Perhaps she's finally realising that and is now starting to panic that she doesn't really have anything to show for the last 4 years.
Sorry if that's super harsh but it's the reality. Obviously it's great she was head girl and has a successful YouTube channel but it's not a grantee that she's going to be able to do that forever.
I can't help but feel sad for her. However, it's her own doing. She should have gotten herself a little job or pushed herself more to be more social with her peers; rather than hiding away in her room doing busy work.
It's easy to blame her parents but she is an adult and made her own decisions.
It does feel in poor taste to take this horrible setting and turn it into a murder mystery. Like it's not as much in poor taste as "Murder in the concentration camp" but I feel like it's getting there
What will she do if she drops out of uni? Starve herself? More pointless studying? Light candles? At least her classes give her something to do
I do feel for her that uni hasn't been great for her and I do agree that it doesn't have to be the best time of your life but also she is an adult now and that means doing stuff you don't always enjoy and feeling uncomfortable sometimes, it's how we grow as humans. Not saying she has to drink or go clubbing, I don't do that but I still enjoy seeing people even though i'm introverted it just means if I've done stuff a few days in a row I get overwhelmed and have a few days alone but she never does anything to push herself beyond going for tea and book shopping, anything outside her comfort zone scares her. I find it cruel she won't even visit Marfa who is up north without her family, Ruby could easily make a nice weekend of it she has the money to book a nice hotel, she wont even have to stay with her.
She was in that harry potter society in first year, beyond that I've never seen her socialise in a setting she isn't comfortable with. A job would really benefit her but I can't see her going for one. She's got way too used to having a nice big house, attention, money and loving parents and now she doesn't have all those things 24/7 she cant cope, which I do understand to an extent, If I came from a neat little world into a world where things are new and not used to it, I'd also get uncomfortable and scared but she isn't doing anything to help how she feels.
It's ok to be home sick but not all the time? It's not healthy to feel any one thing every single day
She was in that harry potter society in first year, beyond that I've never seen her socialise in a setting she isn't comfortable with. A job would really benefit her but I can't see her going for one. She's got way too used to having a nice big house, attention, money and loving parents and now she doesn't have all those things 24/7 she cant cope, which I do understand to an extent, If I came from a neat little world into a world where things are new and not used to it, I'd also get uncomfortable and scared but she isn't doing anything to help how she feels.
It's ok to be home sick but not all the time? It's not healthy to feel any one thing every single day
It's like this. She has everything and she still wants more.
She wants every thing to be 100% exactly the way she likes it. Anyone doing anything different to her is somehow ruining the uni experience for her by making her feel bad she's not willing to try those things.
She wants every thing to be 100% exactly the way she likes it. Anyone doing anything different to her is somehow ruining the uni experience for her by making her feel bad she's not willing to try those things.
It looks like she doesn't have anything to do with any societies anymore - her tenure as VP of the Harry Potter society ended when lockdown hit in March 2020, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't attend any of their socials even though the society is pretty active.
I still don't understand why she didn't do any writing for the uni's newspaper, unless she wanted to have full creative control and knew she wouldn't get that with an editor overseeing things.
Such bad advice!! She’s just encouraging people who are already socially awkward/dependent on their parents/regressing into childhood to carry on the way they are when they go to uni instead of coming out of their shell and growing up.
this is true whilst im introverted I knew uni at 18 would not be right for me went as a mature student and whilst I dont drink every weekend I push myself to do things each week and once my little social bar of peopling is full I step back for a bit and then go back out into the world. wow do I sound like a vampire i'm not honest but ruby's advice could really be detrimental to people
I wonder whether that interview she did was an online magazine spooked her - they explicitly asked her about her plans after graduation and she was classically non-committal and said something about her channel not being sustainable after she stops studying. I'd imagine that was a bit of a reality check that she didn't want.
Age regression is usially either a coping mechanism of aging, or a response to trauma.
I used to do it, during my ed phase, and then we discovered that I have severe anxiety, ocd and autism.
When you are anxious all the freakin time, you don't think you ever are, you don't notice it.
Medication changed my life. College and Uni was incredibly stressful for me. Still is. But it's a lot better since I got help.
I used to do it, during my ed phase, and then we discovered that I have severe anxiety, ocd and autism.
When you are anxious all the freakin time, you don't think you ever are, you don't notice it.
Medication changed my life. College and Uni was incredibly stressful for me. Still is. But it's a lot better since I got help.
I'm amazed to see how many positive comments she's getting from this video.
It's one thing to be introverted, that's okay, but she's sending out a really bad message to her younger and impressionable viewers.
It's one thing to be introverted, that's okay, but she's sending out a really bad message to her younger and impressionable viewers.
Calling it now: she will drop out to concentrate on writing her new novel (while living in her parents house to save money, so relatable!). New videos will include "Researching my Victorian Dark Academia novel | Morning Routine as a Writer", "wintery Novelist evening Routine & a dark academia Christmas", "writing a novel: notion set-up and my new fountain pens", "chatty evening routine: how I research novel ideas" and "how I plot and write using my favourite tool for writers (Kindly sponsored by Scrivener)".
Here’s a wild idea Ruby….. go to a uni near your home and live at home…. Oh here we go you wouldn’t like the status of the one by your parents house…. And you can’t drive so makes it more difficult…..
if you like learning you will do it anywhere
Also I don’t know anyone who always enjoyed uni…. It’s normal to find it a rollercoaster!
She also doesn’t have hindsight, if you now full work full time in a job you have to just to pay your own bills uni is gonna be the best time of your life…. All the free time to do whatever. Also some people make their friends for life for uni, some don’t, that’s normal
Also academic pressure, one of my tutors explicitly told us, just get 40% unless you need it for a year aboard or placement applications because it doesn’t count and you just need to settle in. That’s YOUR problem… you’ve done first year twice, you knew what it was like so why did you care?
She USED on Liberty to justify going home…. Ruby it’s time to tap out
if you like learning you will do it anywhere
Also I don’t know anyone who always enjoyed uni…. It’s normal to find it a rollercoaster!
She also doesn’t have hindsight, if you now full work full time in a job you have to just to pay your own bills uni is gonna be the best time of your life…. All the free time to do whatever. Also some people make their friends for life for uni, some don’t, that’s normal
Also academic pressure, one of my tutors explicitly told us, just get 40% unless you need it for a year aboard or placement applications because it doesn’t count and you just need to settle in. That’s YOUR problem… you’ve done first year twice, you knew what it was like so why did you care?
She USED on Liberty to justify going home…. Ruby it’s time to tap out
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I agree with others, the dissertation will be the tipping point (as it requires a lot of originality and critical thinking - the things Ruby struggles with) she'll defer the rest of the year and go home. She could use the time to get some intensive therapy, instead we'll get videos on, "Living in your truth // There's no shame in being vulnerable // Honouring your inner child."
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