bracrumbs
Chatty Member
This thread has been really interesting. I have a couple of thoughts.
(1) people are critical of Bob’s parenting. But whilst I’m not a SW, I have worked with lots of parents trying to raise kids with additional needs. And those girls had the additional need of two traumatic events in their lives (plus the bit before where no doubt they were being told they were going to Australia but Big Bad Bob wouldn’t let them etc) and it’s deeply unfair but it’s not enough to be a good parent, you have to be on your a-game all the time. It’s exhausting. And Bob is of a generation like my own dad where you tell kids what to do and they do it. Any variant from that is too much. And god, teenagers are hard work. My own son has led a charmed life by all measurements and yet he was awful to be around from about 12 to 14. He’s come out the other side now and holds his hands up that he was pretty mean and nasty to us. But during? You’re just praying they do come out the other side.
2000 isn’t now, therapy was still not really for the everyman, ideas around psychological trauma and its effects weren’t as well-known. The sending the girls into school the next day is exactly what a lot of people did. I can remember my own grandad telling me he went into work the day after his mum died because it’s important to keep routines (and, it has to be said, it’s not the worst concept about keeping the brain busy but we have a different viewpoint nowadays about letting ourselves actually feel things)
(2) on a completely different and perhaps shallow note, it’s almost joyful to watch things from the 90s and see people looking like people. Paula in that 60mins clip has a thin top lip and a wrinkle in between her eyes and her face moves. And she’s still beautiful. I hadn’t quite realised how prevalent and just accepted it is now that a woman in her late 30s would have full lips no matter what and a completely smooth face.
(1) people are critical of Bob’s parenting. But whilst I’m not a SW, I have worked with lots of parents trying to raise kids with additional needs. And those girls had the additional need of two traumatic events in their lives (plus the bit before where no doubt they were being told they were going to Australia but Big Bad Bob wouldn’t let them etc) and it’s deeply unfair but it’s not enough to be a good parent, you have to be on your a-game all the time. It’s exhausting. And Bob is of a generation like my own dad where you tell kids what to do and they do it. Any variant from that is too much. And god, teenagers are hard work. My own son has led a charmed life by all measurements and yet he was awful to be around from about 12 to 14. He’s come out the other side now and holds his hands up that he was pretty mean and nasty to us. But during? You’re just praying they do come out the other side.
2000 isn’t now, therapy was still not really for the everyman, ideas around psychological trauma and its effects weren’t as well-known. The sending the girls into school the next day is exactly what a lot of people did. I can remember my own grandad telling me he went into work the day after his mum died because it’s important to keep routines (and, it has to be said, it’s not the worst concept about keeping the brain busy but we have a different viewpoint nowadays about letting ourselves actually feel things)
(2) on a completely different and perhaps shallow note, it’s almost joyful to watch things from the 90s and see people looking like people. Paula in that 60mins clip has a thin top lip and a wrinkle in between her eyes and her face moves. And she’s still beautiful. I hadn’t quite realised how prevalent and just accepted it is now that a woman in her late 30s would have full lips no matter what and a completely smooth face.