I feel like viewing your relationship as being this transactional is surely very unhealthy? It’s not tit for tat, if she didn’t want to go she shouldn’t have gone, and if she wanted something in return for going I feel like that’s a clear red flag tbh. As a couple you make decisions together, if one person isn’t happy it’s not a joint decision and stuff like that has to be. If she just said yes because she wanted to hang onto him and she knew he would’ve gone otherwise, she should’ve just let him go then tbh.
Well, more like she should be his number one priority and in return he should be hers. She clearly wants marriage and a child, so why waste time following him to India if his priority is work, and not a future with her wanting the same. It would have been wasting more of her time as just a gf, when after four years she wanted to be a wife. Not all women want to be a wife but she clearly sees it as a marker of success and wants that public declaration of commitment.
It's hard to sympathise with her at any time, but now acting like a sexy boot wearing, fullmoon worshipping loon doing bad yoga whike eating dry bean burgers, swiping right on tinder (raya) and meeting randoms in enclosed spaces against c0vid prevention regulations it's even harder.
Personally i am living for the possibility of niomi getting dreads and going off grid to weaving her own cloth, bathing only in collected rainwater and foraging for mushrooms. Loading a monthly video using only the computers at her local library after completing a month of utter silence for full reflection. Perhaps going into one of those darkened tents to complete a weeks worth of self reflection in utter darkness, solitude and silence. Now THAT is a video i would watch!