Poor, poor Poppy. Kids know when their parents can't be arsed with them. I hope those girls give her hell in their teenage years.
I honestly hope the girls grow up and move away from their toxic mother.
I hope they find people who love them for them, and treat them as worthwhile.
I hope they are successful in whatever they chose to do with their lives, but I hope it’s something meaningful.
I hope they distance themselves from Becky and give her the solitude as independence she prioritised over them.
I hope Becky is slowly excluded from their lives and has to watch from afar as they thrive.
I see so much of my own mother in Becky. I moved away as a teen but now in my 30s I’ve slowly come to an understanding of who she is as a person. She never truly wanted to be a mother - she wanted to be a full time SAHM, she liked the idea of being a mother but none of the reality. She was as disconnected and clueless as Becky is. I don’t think people like talking about the grief that comes from not having the mother you desperately needed. We talk about grieving death but not the deep, deep pain of being so desperate for a loving parent and knowing there is nothing you can do, having to learn to accept that the type of unconditional parental love others benefit from will never be something you get to experience. Some people can’t accept it and so pretend (like my siblings) and make do with the breadcrumbs they are given.
But it sets them up for a lifetime of settling for less than they deserve and I hope the girls don’t go down that route.
I haven’t seen my mother in over a year now and she has very little to do with my life. I’m happier and better off without her, but the sad thing is I don’t think it makes her especially sad to not be in my life. I think it’s more of an affront to her ego and a bit of an embarrassing thing to explain to her friends.
I expect it will be the same for Becky one day.
my mother seems to have it all, does nothing in her big house all day. But she’s alone and has an empty life. I don’t think people like her or Becky ever truly realise how effed up their priorities were, or ever truly care about other people.