Not much else to say other than I’m sorry you feel you cannot give your kids a countryside / seaside lifestyle and I do see where you’re coming from (living in a seaside town myself which is rather diverse but still largely white) and sadly there are many people who are so sure of being better than others just because they’re British or white or went to certain uni or whatever entitles them... I’ve been verbally attacked for not being a Brit, not offered jobs for not being a bloke, even been looked down by my own in-laws who when came to our wedding in my home country were surprised it was all so civilised (!) and that has stuck with me and don’t want my girl to ever have to live through it. The worrying thing is I don’t think some of that even crosses people’s mind as bias or discrimination - is just the way things are. I can’t even start to comprehend what’s like to grow up being subject to that constantly (consciously or unconsciously), it makes me sad. And it makes me angry when people dish comments out like CH or others did and then take no accountability for it
Absolutely can't understand being on the end of xenophobia or racism but sexism is a big one for me.
I work in a predominantly male environment. Once a few years ago an older gentleman visited my work... (my dad is the boss
) he looked around as I and another female colleague stood in front of him - "is there no-one here?" We look at each other.... it appears not. Long story short, we provided him with what he required from the business.... and charged him three times the regular amount - my dad's response? "Well that's the price of sexism"
Another time, I had to remind a client to talk and discuss his requirements with me (I was answering emails by name, he insisted on using my dad's name and directed his queries to him" as I will be the one doing the work for you!
Boss's daughter privilege maybe.... but battling this and adding skin colour and racism to the mix is unfathomable