I don't think fat shaming is helpful.
However, generally the same scolds who accuse people of doing that will decry anything that isn't a full celebration of the person's size.
Fat shaming isn't helpful. Nor is normalization.
There is a far difference between fat glorification and fat normalization.
I can agree with you on fat glorification. There are things that Lizzo does that I consider to be rather over the top. When 400 lb women pose naked on the cover of magazines with the phrase "I am Woman" on top....I consider that to be too far.
But...to say that treating people like human beings....treating people with a certain amount of decency because they are a human being...is unhelpful....well to me, it's just sad.
God forbid a teenager be able to go prom dress shopping with her friends, instead of having to go to a speciality shop or have a custom dress made for her, right?
God forbid that when I go shopping, I am able to find the same cute clothes in my size than are in the regular sized section, right? It's terrible that the only clothes available to me aren't huge floral muumuus.
I think there is a very wide gap between fat glorification and fat normalization. And, what's sad is I see a lot of people say that basically.....if you
aren't body shaming a fat person, then you are supporting their unhealthy lifestyle. Like it has to be one or the other.
I see that you used to be heavy and have lost weight. Congrats. I have also lost weight. I have ways to go. Maybe I'll get there, maybe I won't. I will say this. I know people who have lost significant amounts of weight (due to surgery, but that's neither here nor there). They are the meanest, most wicked people toward overweight people. They say the most awful things, and are so critical. Forget "But for the grace of God, there go I." They have no empathy. At all.
With my weight loss, one thing I have tried to do is not forget where I came from. Not forget the mental battles that all people face...especially overweight people. I try not to judge. I have my failings, for sure. But, I do try to put myself in their shoes. I will tell you this. I am 100% better off, mentally, now that I have been able to date people and not feel like my weight is a hindrance....to date and feel "normal." Even if my success rate is only 10%. It's much better than...not getting dates because every single guy tells me point blank that I'm not "his type." If I had no hope at all, I probably wouldn't even go to the gym. I would be in a pit of depression. Feeling normal gives me that hope.
So I would argue that normalization is absolutely a good thing, for the mental health of lots of overweight people like myself.
What does "Waves of Disney" even mean? Am I missing an obvious pun?
And that to me is the danger of the whole "fat acceptance" thing.
I used to be very, very heavy. I wasn't Pooh-shaped, I was obese. Being told I was disgusting didn't help me. But someone saying that I was beautiful no matter what I looked like and I should love my body was, in a way, even more insidious and destructive. Because not being able to do that made me hate myself more. At least the people who were insulting me weren't encouraging me down an unhealthy road.
So, no, I don't think we should be telling the Kaykateers how beautiful they are.
Except, someone can be beautiful and still be a bigger person. It's not mutually exclusive. And, I am not taking into account inner beauty, either. I am not even saying someone can be a beautiful person because of their spirit. But, just physically.....there are beautiful people with extra weight on them. And there are skinny people who are terribly ugly. And vice versa.
I don't think telling someone they are beautiful is "encouraging" them "down an unhealthy road." Essentially what you are saying is overweight people can NEVER be beautiful. That beauty and weight are intrinsically intertwined. That overweight equals ugly.
Here's the issue though. I have lost some really great guys before because of my insecurity issues. They would tell me how pretty I was, how attracted to me they were, and I never, never believed them. Because it had been drilled into my brain by society that most people, especially men, saw overweight as ugly. You are now confirming that bias. In any case, because of that philosophy that society had drilled into my brain, I have lost men...because I never believed them.
So maybe "You shouldn't tell a fat person how beautiful they are, because that's destructive" shouldn't be the narrative here.
20 feet should be a safe distance. At full staff Michael will still be 19 feet 8 inches away.
Oh geez. I actually prefer "smaller" guys....but I'd rather not think of Michael at any staff. Rofl.