How many are there in winter, then?Brilliant
Hey, I remembered, fleetingly, the dream FACT for you all. Then I forgot. It was about 90 seconds ago. Things going well for me. Trying to recapture it. #fml
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HOORAY I'VE REMEMBERED.
Fun fact: in Summer, Australia has five different time zones.
There's no way I dreamed this. I must have thought of it prior to falling asleep last Saturday or Sunday. I assure you, my dreams are wild. Just last night I dreamed once again of "my best ever user predator narcisstic friend in the whole wide world" (with whom I ended all contact in 2018 and whom I wish I'd never met when I was 17) and, once again, he took over everything in my dream and made it his, including breaking some antiques I wish I owned.
As always, I appreciate you guys for not reporting me for tedium and or vacuity.
In conclusion: during the Summer months of the Southern Hemisphere, Australia has five different time zones.
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So sorry. Iāve been there and can sometimes still feel the shock of it. But 30 years later I can say that older dating gets better. Donāt listen to the voice that says youāre worthless. Easier said than done I know. Have fun on your own for a while once the shock passes xHello Frauen, sorry to be the bringer of sad vibes but ā¦
mr em dumped me on Sunday completely out of the blue. Said he doesnāt love me anymore. Iāve been totally pathetic since, canāt work, get out of bed, stop crying. I know it will pass in time but right now itās SO HARD and my self worth is rock bottom. I feel like Iām just fundamentally unlovable (an ex once told me that) and I just cannot get it together. I saw no warning signs, nothing. Please tell me dating at 35+ isnāt going to be a complete nightmare. I thought mr em was my futureI feel like my whole world has imploded on me
Hello Frauen, sorry to be the bringer of sad vibes but ā¦
mr em dumped me on Sunday completely out of the blue. Said he doesnāt love me anymore. Iāve been totally pathetic since, canāt work, get out of bed, stop crying. I know it will pass in time but right now itās SO HARD and my self worth is rock bottom. I feel like Iām just fundamentally unlovable (an ex once told me that) and I just cannot get it together. I saw no warning signs, nothing. Please tell me dating at 35+ isnāt going to be a complete nightmare. I thought mr em was my future
well I think youāre really nice. And you should have a good Idahoan-fuelled wallow for the rest of the week.
Just to clarify it was a different ex who said it but itās like the most recent ex falling out of love kind of confirms it, ya know? I know it happens, and itās horrible, but itās not his fault really. It just hurts a bleeping lot right now. Crying at all your kind responses, thank you. Iāve not felt like eating, mashed potato or otherwise, and youāll be pleased to hear Iāve changed pjs a grand total of once since Sunday. I canāt sleep and have zero energy. The 
ladies have been lovely but even that presents a problem in that Maisie is both of ours. And we were due to buy together later this year. My work have kindly given me leave this week as I donāt think patients need me sobbing over them! Iām genuinely heartbroken.
ladies have been lovely but even that presents a problem in that Maisie is both of ours. And we were due to buy together later this year. My work have kindly given me leave this week as I donāt think patients need me sobbing over them! Iām genuinely heartbroken. I was in the same situation a couple of years ago, it is the worst feeling. This sounds awful but in a way after a really bad breakup like this I felt worse than I did when my grandma who I was very close to died. When someone (who is old and has lived a good life) dies it is obviously awful but it is something you do see coming and you are , in a way prepared, an out of the blue breakup is not at all like that. Sending
and virtual tunnocks teacakes. If you can I would maybe take some time off work to rest (I called in sick when I was in the same situation tbh)This - my dad passed in 2018 and it was expected so it was sad but I knew it was coming. This has totally blindsided me.I was in the same situation a couple of years ago, it is the worst feeling. This sounds awful but in a way after a really bad breakup like this I felt worse than I did when my grandma who I was very close to died. When someone (who is old and has lived a good life) dies it is obviously awful but it is something you do see coming and you are , in a way prepared, an out of the blue breakup is not at all like that. Sending
I'm so sorryHello Frauen, sorry to be the bringer of sad vibes but ā¦
mr em dumped me on Sunday completely out of the blue. Said he doesnāt love me anymore. Iāve been totally pathetic since, canāt work, get out of bed, stop crying. I know it will pass in time but right now itās SO HARD and my self worth is rock bottom. I feel like Iām just fundamentally unlovable (an ex once told me that) and I just cannot get it together. I saw no warning signs, nothing. Please tell me dating at 35+ isnāt going to be a complete nightmare. I thought mr em was my future
What a piece of tit. But you have plenty of time to live your best life with someone who actually values you and doesn't string you along. I got together with Mr Beacon at 39 after a nightmare time with my ex husband who nearly destroyed me and my 40s have been AMAZING, best decade of my life so far tbh. But only because I finally put me first, figured out what's important to me and pursued the life I wanted to live. You are lovable and you will be loved x
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Hello lovely, biiiiiiiiiiig hugs! I know you feel like absolute tit now, I've pretty much been in your exact shoes, it's a really bleeping tit feeling. And it's going to feel crappy for a while yet, but it's ok, let the emotions out, it's grief, sadness, anger and abandonment, they're awful emotions to have running through your head and body, so do yourself a favour and give yourself the time for your mind and body to process that.
I promise you, completely, utterly, hand on heart, girl scout guide, pinky promise you that you'll one day feel grateful to him. No lie. I know. Sounds like utter madness. But, nope. You'll be grateful that he did walk away when he did, he gave you the chance to live your life and find someone worthy of your love and time. It really hurts now, I must sound like a silly sod, but seriously, you will.
Have a good cry, have a good rant, curse his bleeping name, but look after yourself too! Remember to drink lots of water, eat something (even if it's a nibble of a biscuit), watch tit movies, and think about the positives.
You do deserve love and you are lovable.
Hello lovely, biiiiiiiiiiig hugs! I know you feel like absolute tit now, I've pretty much been in your exact shoes, it's a really bleeping tit feeling. And it's going to feel crappy for a while yet, but it's ok, let the emotions out, it's grief, sadness, anger and abandonment, they're awful emotions to have running through your head and body, so do yourself a favour and give yourself the time for your mind and body to process that.
I promise you, completely, utterly, hand on heart, girl scout guide, pinky promise you that you'll one day feel grateful to him. No lie. I know. Sounds like utter madness. But, nope. You'll be grateful that he did walk away when he did, he gave you the chance to live your life and find someone worthy of your love and time. It really hurts now, I must sound like a silly sod, but seriously, you will.
Have a good cry, have a good rant, curse his bleeping name, but look after yourself too! Remember to drink lots of water, eat something (even if it's a nibble of a biscuit), watch tit movies, and think about the positives.
You do deserve love and you are lovable. Thank you @Falkor , @MavisBeacon and @Orphan_Black . I know weāve aaaall been here in some form which is why I decided to share here. Iāve been here before but this time itās just hitting a bit different because I genuinely thought we were good. Iām swinging between anger and intense sadness, and sheer loneliness (I donāt have a huge friendship group). Iām feeling a collective warm group hug / gentle pats from you all xx
Imagine if he had fucked off in a years time instead. You'd have been tied to a home together that would need to be sold, so much upheaval, lawyers, probably resentment too. Ergh.
But don't feel lonely, we've got your back, and there are dozens, DOZENS, of fraus, pretty damn big friendship group imo.
@Orphan_Black speaks the truth. Far better for him to go now and save you having to untangle a house etc. It won't feel like a good thing in the slightest but it is best in the long run for you and your future. You're still so young. And there is so much life to live. It isn't always what we imagined but you're healthy and you're cool and you're funny.
Cry and sit and feel however you need, we are all here
Cry and sit and feel however you need, we are all here
leftovers from last night's dinner, so today I had Bengali mustard fish with cauliflower and peas.I always struggle to think of ideas for lunch. What does everybody else have during the week?
I'm so sorry. bleeping men.
I'm so sorry he did that to you, also your other ex sounds like a copper-bottomed, ocean-going wanker, what a horrible thing to say to someone. FWIW, I met Mr WitchfinderS when I was in my 40s, we met on Twitter of all places.Hello Frauen, sorry to be the bringer of sad vibes but ā¦
mr em dumped me on Sunday completely out of the blue. Said he doesnāt love me anymore. Iāve been totally pathetic since, canāt work, get out of bed, stop crying. I know it will pass in time but right now itās SO HARD and my self worth is rock bottom. I feel like Iām just fundamentally unlovable (an ex once told me that) and I just cannot get it together. I saw no warning signs, nothing. Please tell me dating at 35+ isnāt going to be a complete nightmare. I thought mr em was my future
This chat is a lovely friendly place, I don't think anyone needs to apologise for "bringing sad vibes" or "being boring" or being ill.
Oh no. Very sorry to hear this.Hello Frauen, sorry to be the bringer of sad vibes but ā¦
mr em dumped me on Sunday completely out of the blue. Said he doesnāt love me anymore. Iāve been totally pathetic since, canāt work, get out of bed, stop crying. I know it will pass in time but right now itās SO HARD and my self worth is rock bottom. I feel like Iām just fundamentally unlovable (an ex once told me that) and I just cannot get it together. I saw no warning signs, nothing. Please tell me dating at 35+ isnāt going to be a complete nightmare. I thought mr em was my future
I can't really give dating advice, since I'm 37 and have been single for ages (~11 years), and to be honest at this point it's hard to imagine having a partner (not counting my occasional falling in love with people who have an incompatible sexual orientation, as detailed several times).
everyone's said it better than i can, but just to say to ella
in one of my typical completely 180 posts, i can't stop watching this mystic meg clip that's been doing the rounds. for our overseas and young fraus, this was the height of 90s british culture. the woman who did horoscopes in the sun, predicting who will win the lottery. here, for some reason, with a pair of topless men
feat anthea turner, of course best known for making tracy island out of papier mache on blue peter and having her wedding sponsored by cadburys
to ellain one of my typical completely 180 posts, i can't stop watching this mystic meg clip that's been doing the rounds. for our overseas and young fraus, this was the height of 90s british culture. the woman who did horoscopes in the sun, predicting who will win the lottery. here, for some reason, with a pair of topless men
feat anthea turner, of course best known for making tracy island out of papier mache on blue peter and having her wedding sponsored by cadburys
Had to explain who she was once to a colleague from overseas because sheād heard people using the āwho do you think I am, mystic Meg?ā response. It was surprisingly hard and a reminder of how bonkers some bits of 90s Brit culture truly was!everyone's said it better than i can, but just to say
in one of my typical completely 180 posts, i can't stop watching this mystic meg clip that's been doing the rounds. for our overseas and young fraus, this was the height of 90s british culture. the woman who did horoscopes in the sun, predicting who will win the lottery. here, for some reason, with a pair of topless men
feat anthea turner, of course best known for making tracy island out of papier mache on blue peter and having her wedding sponsored by cadburys
100% this Witchy!
@EllaEm87 Ugh that really sucks. Like a lot of us, Iāve been there, itās SO hard, especially when itās out of nowhere. I felt so sad it literally hurt.
It does get better (and I donāt blame you if youāre secretly thinking. āno it wonāt, you guys donāt understand!). It takes time, but weāre here for you. In time, youāll get to see the nice side of being single, it really can be great. Please take extra good care of yourself. Oh, and of course youāre loveable, youāre such a diamond x
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