This thread is an interesting read for me, I am so tired of people asking me about children.
I am really not wanting to have any kids but my partner does the typical man thing where they say they want 3 kids but don't actually have any experience around children to form an opinion on having them other than the occasional holding of a niece or nephew, maybe some kids running round at a bbq. Not even babysitting or changing a nappy.
I just don't think that life is for me; I visited a friend recently to spend the day/evening together and stay overnight and I live a couple hours away, well I (stupidly) just assumed she’d get childcare/it would be the dads weekend to have the child but it turns out we only had the nursery daytime hours to spend together! After a bit of shopping and a lunch at nandos we had to pick up the child at 5ish and go back to hers!!? And my god, it was the most boring night ever. Like, why would you not arrange a weekend when the dad has the child? Did she seriously think I wanted to sit in her house doing nothing for the entire evening after driving 2 hours to visit. Absolute waste of time.
I think a lot of mums end up only friends with other mums since their entire social lives can then coincide with the children's soft play days out. They don't actually spend time with other women without their kids also being there. Then they cry saying 'oh friends change once you're a mummy, people don't bother!' I wonder why?????.....