100% it’s everyone’s personal choice and it totally depends on relationship with your parents etc and yes absolutely advocate that no one should HAVE to ask/tell/etc especially in a situation like yours. And I’m sure you’d make it clear to any partner you had that you wouldn’t want that!I mentioned I have a quite controlling dad who thinks that, no matter how old I get, he should have the ultimate say in any life decisions I make. Because I don't want to encourage that attitude, he was not asked for approval when I got engaged. But, yeah, Carrie has a much closer relationship with her family so it's understandable she would want to include them in that decision.
With that in mind though I wonder what happened just before the Oliver breakup? Carrie was clearly expecting to be proposed to on their trip in December, if it is important to her that her dad be asked permission surely Oliver would have done that before the holiday if he'd been planning to propose? Wouldn't it be awkward to watch her get all excited when you know he most likely isn't going to ask?
my dad was mortified when my brother in law asked his permission and just went “well it’s her decision not mine” so I already knew he didn’t want to be asked his actual permission so told my OH to word it as more of a “this is what I’m gunna do I hope you’ll be happy for us”.
yeah it would be super awkward but then how do you say to her like Carrie hun it ain’t happening