Hi everyone! I'm Creep but I couldn't get back into my account for some reason so made a new one.
So an update:haven't spoken to her since. I found a great feature on messenger when you get put someone into your "spam/other" folder so even if they messaged you won't know unless you actively look. I felt like it was the best way to remove her without removing her and causing more issues. If that makes sense?
It's been a few months now! My life isn't amazing but I feel more free now. No more worrying about whether I'm wrong for tagging my mum etc
So I have actually seen her since we stopped talking. It was an event and I didn't realise she was going to be there. I felt awful and it's not something I normally do, but I full on blanked her. She was in a group talking with my husband there and I went straight past. I'm currently undertaking assessments for Autism and idk if that was right or wrong of me to blank her so dramatically but even my husband said it was odd for me. I usually "fake it til you make it" but seeing her was a complete surprise to me and I didn't know what to do?
I was expecting a barage of messages for blanking her but I didn't. She only tends to message when I post on fb from what I can see! Even as recently as a few weeks ago. Luckily I can see the "spam" messages but she can't see I have?
She's usually pretty far out of my mind, until she goes on a spamming spree with likes on my profile and I think she's probably messaged and she usually has. I don't react or respond and it doesn't bother me. Again I feel mean but it's the way I can keep her at arms length.
Anyway, I hope you're all doing well. Sorry I haven't been around much
So an update:haven't spoken to her since. I found a great feature on messenger when you get put someone into your "spam/other" folder so even if they messaged you won't know unless you actively look. I felt like it was the best way to remove her without removing her and causing more issues. If that makes sense?
It's been a few months now! My life isn't amazing but I feel more free now. No more worrying about whether I'm wrong for tagging my mum etc
So I have actually seen her since we stopped talking. It was an event and I didn't realise she was going to be there. I felt awful and it's not something I normally do, but I full on blanked her. She was in a group talking with my husband there and I went straight past. I'm currently undertaking assessments for Autism and idk if that was right or wrong of me to blank her so dramatically but even my husband said it was odd for me. I usually "fake it til you make it" but seeing her was a complete surprise to me and I didn't know what to do?
I was expecting a barage of messages for blanking her but I didn't. She only tends to message when I post on fb from what I can see! Even as recently as a few weeks ago. Luckily I can see the "spam" messages but she can't see I have?
She's usually pretty far out of my mind, until she goes on a spamming spree with likes on my profile and I think she's probably messaged and she usually has. I don't react or respond and it doesn't bother me. Again I feel mean but it's the way I can keep her at arms length.
Anyway, I hope you're all doing well. Sorry I haven't been around much
we were supposed to meet up a few months ago, she tried to change the date once but it wasn't good for me so I said no so then she told me her boyfriend broke up with her the day before we were originally supposed to meet and she was devastated so she didn't want to socialise, I really felt for her and was there for her. But yep, that was a lie! He never broke up with her at all because after that weekend she messaged me and told me they were back together.. I had a feeling she was going to say that. She also forgot that she cancelled the plans with me that weekend because she was 'heartbroken' and posted pictures of her and another friend on her Instagram story, out, having a GREAT time! Not one sign of a tear or broken heart lol. Ridiculous. If you've double booked plans, just be honest? But this isn't the first time she's lied to me. We stopped speaking for about 4 years because she kept lying and then she reached out to me and we became friends again, she apologised to me and said she was going through a bad time etc so I accepted it, I'm an understanding person. Nothing has changed though, we are back to the lies and selfishness.
I'm new here... Saw this thread and tought maybe I should tell you about one girl from my school. We met in 6th grade when we were in the same class, she didn't have any frineds so I felt bad for her and tought that it would be great idea if I start being friends with here so she wouldn't feel lonley... She was dressing funky and colorful, had crazy hairstyle, and very religious but was very quiet until I started sitting with here and whenever I wanted to talk or hang out with my old friends that I knew since kindergarten she was following me around and they didn't like that so they told me to decide either I'm going to be friends with them or with her and like I said I felt bad so I decided her (she also has some helath issues so I had to take care of her in school, to be there aorund her )... She started always calling me on my phone on the face time (got in trouble cuz of it,my mom doesn't like face times in her house), she was calling me in the middle of the night(got my phone taken away cuz my mom tought that I had a bf,that I'm secretly talking to him at night), she had wierd assuptioms about me and my family(she thinks my familiy is in mafia just cuz they have money), why I don't go to church every Sunday ( I do just evry Sunday to different one cuz my parents are divorced but i can't tell her that)...and whenever I tried to tell her in nice way that I don't like any of those thing she would just say: IT'S OKAY,I UNDERSTAND,GOD SEES EVERYTHING IT'S NOT ON ME TO JUDGE... Right now we are in high school in different classes, and we are on and off, she blocked me for unkown reason and only unblocks me when she needs some thing for school..