@Bobbleowl90 I would agree with @Happyvalley and ask them outright what's happened. They could go on torturing you with the passive aggressive stuff for months on end. Even if it's a bad outcome at least it's closure and you can move on. People are weird eh.
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@Happyvalley @Warpaint thank you both. I know if I asked them then it wouldn’t be nice. I know they want me to delete them off social media before they delete me - that way they can say it’s me who’s the bad guy and stopped talking to them and “can you believe she deleted us” etc etc. Neither of them like my stuff or hire my stories anyway. It’s like I’ve been ghosted. They’ve even booted me from their group chat now. I’ve been in tears again this morning after seeing them conversing with my hairdresser on Facebook and I feel ridiculous but I’m panicking going now and looking elsewhere after going for the past 15 years. I can’t believe how they’ve made me feel.
Could you ask them why you've been booted out of the group chat?
Ive had this happen to me before with work colleagues. All it takes is one toxic person to create this.
Before they did it, they said it was to create more memory on their phones. It was just a lie and an excuse to get rid of me. It is friend 1 who is the instigator in all of this and has split the whole friendship up, including my husband and his best friend. She is coming out of it smelling of roses. My manager at work has seen me in tears and suggested that perhaps I know too much about her, for example I know she’s lying about her “new job” but friend 2 thinks she’s got this different life and she can play up to it now. So it’s like a new life she can lie about. Which makes some sense really but it doesn’t make it easier. She also said there’s some jealousy. I got a new coat, so did she. I got some boots which she specifically said she disliked but she copied me. I tagged myself somewhere on Instagram and two days later she tagged friend 2 and said let’s go here on our family day together (another dig at me). It’s making me depressed. I wish I never met her. But knowing she might be jealous or whatever, it doesn’t make it any easier. Everyone thinks she’s perfect and it’s me who’s the one left with no friends.
Sorry - I sound so miserable! I just feel like I’ve regressed to being a teenager again. I feel bullied.
I’m so sorry they are being so horrible to you. Covid is such a hard time anyway but when people behave that way it would certainly make it more difficult. If it was me I would block them out for the sake of my own mental health. I wouldn’t put anything on social media at all, you don’t want to give friend 1 any ammo because is clearly on one
it will drive her mad when she can’t snoop at what you’re doing and pick holes in it lol take a social media break and focus on doing some nice things for yourself. I know it’s easy for me to say, but they really don’t deserve your friendship. Friend 1 sounds extremely passive aggressive and jealous. If you cut her out, she won’t be long redirecting these feelings towards someone else xxxxDon't be sorry, there's no need for it, if she had a problem with you she should have faced that. My advice would be to log out of social media for a while and focus on the good people, it will do you the world of good.
Something similar happened to me. I deactivated my social media for a few months and just didn’t rise to it - within that time they turned on each other instead and it made one realise that the other was actually so toxic and a bully. We’re actually better friends now because of it and the other has been cut out of many peoples lives due to their behaviour and their lies. It’s hard and I know it’s hard to being thrown back into teenage bullying, but removing yourself is for the best.
I second this. Step away from it (easier said than done, I know), and focus on life in the real world.
What you've said is so true. Reacting to them almost feeds it whereas when you leave them to it they start on each other.
They are acting like teenage bullies. They can’t even be big enough to tell you the truth about the WhatsApp group and resort to lying about storage? That’s ridiculous. I know it’s difficult but block them on everything, what you can’t see can’t hurt you. It will take time but will definitely get easier. When they turn on each other they’ll realise what they’ve done.
I really wouldn't worry about the hairdresser thing. 95% of their job is hearing people witch about this and that (not taking anything away from being a hairdresser, you know what I mean!). Your hairdressing isn't going to care about them or what they've said. You'll be treated the same as always. I highly doubt she's personally involved with them two, the chat is to keep up the business.
They sound jealous to me.Do you think they have made other group chats without you?They seem to be petty by keeping you on a chat but not messaging you.Do not let those witches put you off your hairdresser.No way.Would it help if your hubby spoke about it with hers?Sometimes men can be useful in these situations.
I feel so sorry for you right now, I have been there myself and the feeling is awful. Have it out with them, ask what it is you have done and then if they can't give you an answer or make no attempt to resolve the issues then you are done, you remove yourself from the situation and you take yourself off their social media etc. You will only torture yourself otherwise and you will just feel worse. Time to put your mental health first here. Friend 1 will soon change her tune when she realises she isn't getting to you anymore, when you can't see her posts, likes, tags etc, it will really wind her up. Toxic people are all the same. It won't feel like it now but you will thank yourself down the line for removing yourself away from so called friends like that and you will start to feel happy again. They aren't friends. xo
Hi everyone,
Sorry that I haven't read through the thread as yet but needed some advice and a bit of a rant.
So I have a friend, she's like a sister to me, we've had a on off friendship for years now, but the last three years we've been water tight.
I helped get through a really toxic relationship and it took about 12 months to get her semi back on her feet.
So the last few weeks she completely dropped off the radar apart taking advantage of my softer side.
This is because she's let this guy back into her life.
She's asking big favours of me then doesn't make contact again. I've also caught her out on many lies.
I feel sad that as soon as she's segregated herself and binned off all her friends this guy will return to his old ways.
The fact that she's using me, lying and basically being an arse I've decided to step away. I feel really sad about this as I love her to bits. But also feel like I'm not going through another 12 months of piecing her back together.
This bloke also hates her son, he's told her this, yet she's still allowing him in their home.
He's tapped in the head and I wouldn't trust him around any children. He has episodes where he gets confrontational and starts threatening to cut his wrists etc.
She's very good at cutting out her friends for men, which is a shame. I feel she'll end up very sad and lonely.
Just needed to vent
Sorry that I haven't read through the thread as yet but needed some advice and a bit of a rant.
So I have a friend, she's like a sister to me, we've had a on off friendship for years now, but the last three years we've been water tight.
I helped get through a really toxic relationship and it took about 12 months to get her semi back on her feet.
So the last few weeks she completely dropped off the radar apart taking advantage of my softer side.
This is because she's let this guy back into her life.
She's asking big favours of me then doesn't make contact again. I've also caught her out on many lies.
I feel sad that as soon as she's segregated herself and binned off all her friends this guy will return to his old ways.
The fact that she's using me, lying and basically being an arse I've decided to step away. I feel really sad about this as I love her to bits. But also feel like I'm not going through another 12 months of piecing her back together.
This bloke also hates her son, he's told her this, yet she's still allowing him in their home.
He's tapped in the head and I wouldn't trust him around any children. He has episodes where he gets confrontational and starts threatening to cut his wrists etc.
She's very good at cutting out her friends for men, which is a shame. I feel she'll end up very sad and lonely.
Just needed to vent
Perhaps step away for good then and leave her to it. Don't let yourself be used, you're better off with other friends or with family. Her drama with this man isn't your problem.
As sad as it is, I think this is the way forward. I know she'll keep me on the back bench, with the odd message here and there for when it goes wrong, or if she's got a bit of spare time she needs filling.
I did a favour this evening for her then said shall I pop round for coffee later, but she declined as he was heading to hers.
Ahh such a shame isn't it. But going to move forward from here now, I'll be civil but nothing more. Her loss not mine.
Wow I’m only half way reading this and OH MY GOD. You poor thing!!! You do not deserve any of this!! Friend 1 is a horrendous human being. You wrote it so well. I have lost 2 friendships like you have and mine was pretty bad but your story is something else
hugs to you!! I hope you are doing much better now 
... now I will go back to reading the rest of your postFinished it
And posts afterwards! People here gave incredible advice!
Have you an update of how you are getting on now? I hope times are happier for you?
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I think you’re doing the right thing. It’s sad when this happens to friendships, but true friends don’t drop you when a man comes along, they would still have time for you. As you say, it’s her loss, and unfortunately she’ll realise that when it’s too late.
THIS
I was part of a group of five girls and now out of those five girls, I speak to one. My friendship with this girl (basically my best friend) is exactly how the poster above has commented just that we see each other a bit more frequently than 4 months.
The others in the group just made everything a competition and it’s draining. Don’t ever let friendships be draining, they really shouldn’t be.
I wonder if part of it is he gets in her head, telling her stuff like they belong together, pointing out (perceived / imaginary) flaws of her friends, etc. It also sounds as if he isolating her from her friends and the outside world, in an effort to control her.
She probably lies to you because she knows she's not doing the right thing but is listening to her heart, not her head.
I would step away and leave her to it ... but if you value her friendship, let her know that you'll always be there if she needs you.