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This is not me accusing, but do you all think she was investigated at any point for this BLATANT exploitation of her ill and disabled son?? Surely the hospital should have a duty of care to provide her with grief support? She clearly needs it!

also its interesting that initially A&S (who recently set up a charity) dont know if i can say names. Were in support of her, i wonder how they feel seeing this? Theres no right way to grieve and everyone grieves differently. But surely she would be wanting to support other families inof children like J, so that this awful situation doesnt happen to anyone else, rather than just trying to fund the lavish lifestyle she so desperately wants???
I dont think she’s bothered about other SEN parents or their kids unless it somehow benefits her.
 
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I dont think she’s bothered about other SEN parents or their kids unless it somehow benefits her.
she’s not. She never bothered to interact or help the send community in anyway.
I personally don’t think even 10% will get to GOSH from her shite shop.
she shot up feom 60k followers to 110k when J was dying because people have morbid curiosity and I think people will start tounfollow soon when they see through her tit
 
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she’s not. She never bothered to interact or help the send community in anyway.
I personally don’t think even 10% will get to GOSH from her shite shop.
she shot up feom 60k followers to 110k when J was dying because people have morbid curiosity and I think people will start tounfollow soon when they see through her tit
Iv just said the same thing on A&S's post but her followers increased while J was dying because of trauma porn. The fascination of death. How was he fine one day, then dead the next? How did all this lead to this little boy dying? People were asking her in the comments, like what happened, how did he die? Comments like this from people who probably only started following her while he was in hospital. It's weird. Social media can be used for so many great things, and then you get things like this where people can't help themselves.
 
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Iv just said the same thing on A&S's post but her followers increased while J was dying because of trauma porn. The fascination of death. How was he fine one day, then dead the next? How did all this lead to this little boy dying? People were asking her in the comments, like what happened, how did he die? Comments like this from people who probably only started following her while he was in hospital. It's weird. Social media can be used for so many great things, and then you get things like this where people can't help themselves.
Everyone on the original threads had been concerned for a while about Jaxon’s heart.
 
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I used to only stalk them I followed her when he was clearly dying (sue me) and now I’m just lurking because I wanted to know if she’d post what happened.

the fact she says she “cant” to me is odd for someone who shared so publicly so I do wonder if it’s not “I don’t feel I can” and more “yeah I’m not allowed to talk about it…”
 
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I used to only stalk them I followed her when he was clearly dying (sue me) and now I’m just lurking because I wanted to know if she’d post what happened.

the fact she says she “cant” to me is odd for someone who shared so publicly so I do wonder if it’s not “I don’t feel I can” and more “yeah I’m not allowed to talk about it…”
I don’t think trying to find out how a child died should be part of your social media experience tbh. I would unfollow and find something a bit healthier to think about.
 
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I don’t think trying to find out how a child died should be part of your social media experience tbh. I would unfollow and find something a bit healthier to think about.
I would argue a lot did the same, as above said, morbid curiosity.
if someone is so open to sharing their whole life online, it’s not really unhealthy to look..
 
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I would argue a lot did the same, as above said, morbid curiosity.
if someone is so open to sharing their whole life online, it’s not really unhealthy to look..
It’s more healthy to question why you are looking, and interrogate that. Probably a bit too much hard work for some people.
 
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I really like tattle apart from when the forums go like this where everyone starts taking shots at each other. We’re all on here talking about someone we don’t even know discussing what we think is right/wrong when we prob could all use the time spent on this forum to do something more useful but yet here we are still noseying and discussing so don’t really think any of us are really in a position to be saying that someone needs to question their actions/reasons for following someone etc
 
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I really like tattle apart from when the forums go like this where everyone starts taking shots at each other. We’re all on here talking about someone we don’t even know discussing what we think is right/wrong when we prob could all use the time spent on this forum to do something more useful but yet here we are still noseying and discussing so don’t really think any of us are really in a position to be saying that someone needs to question their actions/reasons for following someone etc
Fair enough
 
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It wouldn’t surprise me if she’s taking legal action against the hospital for allowing Jaxon home a day or 2 after his “ worst night ever” that she photographed with a nurse attending to Jaxon and posted on Instagram. But let’s remember she pushed for discharge as Kathy had 30th birthday plans she didn’t want to re arrange. Many of times she told us how Jaxon could die from catching the common cold, viruses are fatal to him yet she took him out fo hospital sent him into school and then took him to London instead of allowing him to recover at home. Kept her celebrations private, until she home come. Blocked people who viewed her friends story and seen she was out in London celebrating. So I hope to bloody god she doesn’t try and sue the hospital.
 
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It wouldn’t surprise me if she’s taking legal action against the hospital for allowing Jaxon home a day or 2 after his “ worst night ever” that she photographed with a nurse attending to Jaxon and posted on Instagram. But let’s remember she pushed for discharge as Kathy had 30th birthday plans she didn’t want to re arrange. Many of times she told us how Jaxon could die from catching the common cold, viruses are fatal to him yet she took him out fo hospital sent him into school and then took him to London instead of allowing him to recover at home. Kept her celebrations private, until she home come. Blocked people who viewed her friends story and seen she was out in London celebrating. So I hope to bloody god she doesn’t try and sue the hospital.
I would love her to try the legal route of placing blame onto the hospital. It would smack her in the face, she must be one of the most reported parents ever and they will have been watching and saving receipts. Theres posts still there where she said she hopes he is discharged and they have had receipts sent in by the public who have reported her too. The Child Death Review is underway isn't it? I wondered if that was what the phone call she had the other day was about when they asked if she wanted to arrange the call for when she was back but she said she would prefer to have it whilst she is in her 'safe space' abroad.
 
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There was also mention of a mortgage etc after J passed. I understand she wants to keep the house they both lived in, but we've said it before. It's adapted specially by the council, there are families out there that could benefit from her home. She should never of had the right to buy it, and how is she still being considered when she has no steady job or income?
It’s not an adapted property.
 
The women who encourage this type of behaviour are the same ghouls that interfered and got a kick out the Charlie Gard and Alfie Evans cases. Facebook Ma’s that have nothing better to do than seek out sadness and suck everything that they can from it. I call it being a grief thief. I don’t know what’s motivating Kaytee to do this, but I do know that in a couple of years when her headspace is clearer, she will regret sharing so much. No one should ever try a project like this in the early stages of grief as it’s a fluid feeling that changes quickly.

Shame on anyone encouraging her, they clearly don’t have the maturity & intellect to give any thought how she may feel in the future and advise her to wait a while 🙄
 
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It’s not an adapted property.
No it may not be. But she was discharged from hospital homeless and had to fight to be placed there in a safe home for her and her baby. She, now a single person, is taking up and buying a home that another person in the place she once was could have.
Why SHOULD she be allowed to buy the house on the cheap now when she doesn’t need nor deserve it? She should be made to vacate and allow someone else in need the home. If you want to bang on about how unfair and unequal the system is while also fiddling the system, you are the problem.
Oh no she can’t do that.
 
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But because it’s been a bit longer it’s okay for people to comment on Ash and Saf and their behaviours?
That thread is being a bit gentler than a couple of comments here IMO

I can see why some people will find this thread & some of the comments in it in bad taste, it’s obviously a very sensitive subject. I can only speak for myself here, but I don’t feel like I know anywhere near enough about the situation to feel comfortable making any sort of comment on Jaxon’s care or his death, or what caused it.

The thing that doesn’t sit right with me is that she seems to be trying to monetise her grief process. Totally understand that she’ll need to find an alternative way of earning a living now, other than ‘InstaMum’. Do you really need to bring out ‘merch’ associated to the death of your child though? Or film graveside parties with fireworks for IGTV? Instagram really has hit a new low if graveside ‘content’ is now a thing. I find it bizarre, and a bit sick if I’m brutally honest. If she wants to set up a small business rather than going back into nursing fair enough, but why does it need to be Jaxon themed? The cynic in me suspects it’s because she know’s it will bring more money in, because people will buy stuff out of sympathy for her. She’s already laying it on really thick with her followers about the shop being all that’s keeping her going & how it’s all to keep his memory alive.
I do find the merch strange, because that’s what it is currently…not a shop, it’s literally Jaxon merchandise
 
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I think Kaytee is lost. Just lost. When you’re a nurse and a Mum, they take over your life and your personality. She doesn’t have nursing as she couldn’t keep it up with having J at home, and now she doesn’t have J. She’s lost, trying to find her way.

I’ll agree that I feel uncomfortable with her grief, but grief is raw and brutal and it’s uncomfortable when you’re an outsider.

I can’t comment on her gofundme’s, as I never saw them. I know she wasn’t sacked as to be sacked as a nurse is pretty impossible; I was a Band 6 at her hospital and specifically hired to deal with capability and NMC referrals. It takes a long time.

IMO I truly and strongly believe that she needs therapy/CBT and enter a nursing job where she’s not in Critical Care/ICU/paeds. Somewhere like a GP practice or even as a custody nurse where it’s still patient contact but not as intense.
 
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isnt it cheaper to buy a cricut, vinyl and t-shirts and tote bags at wholesale and do them herself to make more of a profit thus more money going to charity?! 😂 Nearly £17 for a tshirt, she could do that for half the price if she did it herself! God forbid she do any actual work.
for context here, I do this as a business. Though not with a cutting machine, I print directly onto the fabric. It costs me approximately £2 to make a good quality tote. I could do it cheaper if I wasn’t bothered about quality. I do have a cricut and pricing would be almost the same, if not identical. Totes sell for about £10 each on Etsy and similar platforms.
 
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