Ruby Granger #25 Leaving all the books unread, chasing sponsorships instead
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Mud puddles? She must be Peppa pig...
Ruby: Oh hi Blakeney! I'm just at my parents. We got our dissertation marks back! I got a 71.
Blakeney: Oh that's great Ruby! Well done!
Ruby: I got a 71. Do you know what that means? It means all my hard work has paid off!
Blakeney: Well, yes-
Ruby: You just submit a really, really good piece of work and get a first! Do you know our grades are out?
Blakeney: Yes-
Ruby: You just go into your email and check! I got a first. I can't believe it. Can you believe it? I got such a good mark.
Blakeney: I got an 80!
Ruby:
Blakeney: Ruby?
Blakeney: Hello?
context?Roo-Bella reckons this is comparable to the Tuscan bleeping SEA.
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''Silver like the midday sun on a Tuscan sea.'' Is she hallucinating? It's silver like the midday sun on a pile of mud.Roo-Bella reckons this is comparable to the Tuscan bleeping SEA.
Er anyway, I saw her recent post about homesickness:
Mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, it is important to look after your mental health, and if this is what Ruby needs to do to cope then fair enough. However, the line 'there's nothing wrong with it at all' sets of alarm bells. It feels like she's regressed and is content to do what's comfortable, rather than challenging herself to grow. Ruby's just given herself permission to stay at home indefinitely and I don't think that'll be good for her in the long-term. But if her mental health has got worse recently then I guess the decision makes sense.
Oh & this photo gives me the creeps. Her mouth is smiling, but her eyes are hoping for our downfall.
Very off topic but having just completed a mixed group project, does anyone think the lack of male presence in Ruby's life is concerning? Apart from Daddy Bones, she doesn't seem to have any male interactions. I'm not saying she should necessarily be pursuing relationships (even though it wouldn't be a bad thing), but in the real world, working and being comfortable with all genders is a massive part of life. I understand she went to an all girls school but to avoid any form of male interaction at uni seems weird to me.
I don't know if it's being scared of boys, seeing them as a distraction/something only the "unfocused" would be concerned with, or still has a childish "ewww boys" mentality. Know we never see her discussing any adult/sexual themes in her literature, even when it's clearly relevant, so don't know if this also spills into her perception of boys.
I don't know if it's being scared of boys, seeing them as a distraction/something only the "unfocused" would be concerned with, or still has a childish "ewww boys" mentality. Know we never see her discussing any adult/sexual themes in her literature, even when it's clearly relevant, so don't know if this also spills into her perception of boys.
Yeah I completely agree with you. One thing that just rubs me the wrong way upon reading her post is her implying that one has to go home to one's parents in order to look after oneself. She seems to think it's a dichtomoy where being at university = work and "honoring commitments" whereas visiting one's parents = "looking after yourself" and taking care of your mental health.
But grown adults don't usually need to be with their parents in order to "look after themselves". Usually self-care means, well, taking care of yourself (duh), rather than running home to your childhood bedroom to have your parents take care of you.
Honestly I don't think going home frequently is the problem at all here; the real problem is how Ruby frames it. How she genuinely thinks that she has to be at her parents' in order to be happy and content. Cause this is how 11-year olds feel and think, not how (healthy/stable) 21-year olds think.
Yeah, it's definitely not beneficial for Ruby overall to simply give in to being completely dependent on the presence of her parents and only being happy if she's home acting like a child (she looks absolutely miserable at all other times).
Acting like only going home two times in a month and a half is a major accomplishment, complete with smug, grinning Insta photo, is bizarre. She's acting like she just got her 1 month chip for staying clean from alcohol or a gambling addiction. It's insane.
(Yes, Ruby, you really showed your
Homesickness is normal. If you enjoy the company of your family and like to visit them often, that's cool, too. But there's a line, and a point where that becomes weird, worrying and totally impractical. For Ruby, it's massively detrimental to her independent growth. She's refused to spend time away from her family, and now she's practically incapable of spending time away from her family. University was her time to get used to independence and grow as a person. She's completely squandered the opportunity in every way.
Ruby neglects to mention that alongside running home from Exeter every single weekend, she almost always gets her parents to drive from Buckingham to Exeter to collect her and drive her home.
She also supplements her visits home by often dragging her parents to Devon so they're right next to Exeter and she can stay with them yet again (she did that again a week or so ago, which she naturally doesn't mention here). They're wealthy adults who I'm sure would love to travel somewhere new, and I highly doubt they'd be going to Devon every other week if Ruby weren't in Exeter stomping her feet and crying if they don't.
On the rare occasions she goes somewhere else, she gets her parents to drive hundreds of miles and several hours out of their way take her, even though she could easily get the train herself. And she preaches sustainability while making her parents burn tanks of petrol a week unnecessarily.
She sends a letter to her mother every single day, despite nothing worthwhile or notable happening in her life on a day-to-day basis, and even though she'll be seeing her mother that very weekend when or before the letters arrive. She has her mother put together expensive-to-ship care packages of commonplace bullshit from the kitchen like spices that she could easily buy from a shop in Exeter (or collect when she goes home days later).
That's not homesickness, it's more of her retreat-into-childhood, 'I'm an 11 year-old at boarding school!' cosplay nonsense. But the more she does it, the less equipped she'll be when the adult world comes knocking after graduation. And for someone who's constantly complaining about having not enough time and is falling behind on major uni work, wasting time on 6 hour round trips home should be the least of her priorities.
Her framing it like it's essential for her mental health to be with her parents constantly is either a massive red flag that she needs massive amounts of therapy, or (more likely) it's just her pre-empting criticism - it's for her mental health, so if anyone mentions how strange it is to be so compulsively dependent on the presence of her parents, they're bullies!
People aren't criticising you for being homesick at uni and going home often, Ruby. They're criticising you because you're a wealthy 21 year-old who claims to run a business and is a self-proclaimed master of productivity and planning - someone who as an influencer claims she's qualified to educate young people on all manner of things and how to live their life - and you can't function without your parents nearby every single day and can't do a single thing by yourself.
They make fun because you act like a spoilt child about the whole situation, expecting your parents drive across the country just to chaperone you everywhere, and looking like a petulant toddler about to burst into tears when you have to get the train by yourself:
They comment on it because you lie about it so much, framing family outings as "solo trips" or just neglecting to mention that your parents were hovering off-camera. The recurring "my mummy and daddy drove me because they just happened to be in the neighbourhood, hundreds of miles from their home!" lie will never not be hilarious.
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She's probably never seen the Tuscan sea because never in a million years would I compare it to that muddy field lmao
I feel exactly the opposite as Ruby lmao for me going home to see my parents is stressful. I have to put my life on hold to pack my suitcase, take public transport and go back home for a few days, stay at my parents' tiny, cramped flat where I don't have my own bedroom nor my own desk, and then travel back two days later.
I love my parents, my brother, my grandparents etc., but if I'm being honest I don't miss them while I'm away at uni, and I think that's okay, it's just part of the process of growing up and eventually starting your own family. I go home about once every three weeks out of a sense ot duty and respect towards them (because I know they do wish to have me around), not because I'm overwhelmed and can't handle it anymore. For me a self-care weekend would be not going to see them and just staying at uni doing whatever I want with my boyfriend lmao
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I love the whistle episode
This is 100% Roobee!!
Comments? Just saw these on her recent Instagram post.
No I am not weight obsessed though it probably seems it
. I just have been where Roobee is heading and it's worrying me because she has young, impressionable minds following her and looking up to her which is concerning. It's like Roobee is becoming the next Eugenia at the rate she's going..
No I am not weight obsessed though it probably seems it
. I just have been where Roobee is heading and it's worrying me because she has young, impressionable minds following her and looking up to her which is concerning. It's like Roobee is becoming the next Eugenia at the rate she's going..Attachments
tbh i’m probably in the minority here but i think a lack of male interaction is like the least weird thing about her
some people just have no interest in dating and she doesn’t seem to be particularly insecure about it given that she never makes posts trying to justify that aspect of her life like she does about going home etc. i don’t think she’s uncomfortable with them.plus i don’t blame her- uni isn’t exactly the place where you’re going to find men worth spending your time around lol (and speaking from experience humanities courses also tend to be majority women)
I personally sympathise with the whole “going home a lot during uni” as it was something I struggled with.
i don’t drink and am on the spectrum and can get overstimulated so because of that, the standard way my college peers socialised was not my thing. Plus my room was freezing and would have to wear double layers inside.
I would literally just spend my weekends in my room being cold and then going for a walk. I felt quite isolated.
So there were times that I did go home a lot. Sleeping in my own bed and being able to have breakfast without a bunch of hungover guys hanging around you is just nice. Plus, I would be able to see my childhood friends.
I never told people this because there is this weird shame about not doing the typical uni things and not forming an instant friend group and falling in love with where you live. So even though I don’t agree with the way Ruby does things and I do think she is regressing back to childhood, I would like to see more people talking about the less than average uni experience without being labelled a weirdo.
i don’t drink and am on the spectrum and can get overstimulated so because of that, the standard way my college peers socialised was not my thing. Plus my room was freezing and would have to wear double layers inside.
I would literally just spend my weekends in my room being cold and then going for a walk. I felt quite isolated.
So there were times that I did go home a lot. Sleeping in my own bed and being able to have breakfast without a bunch of hungover guys hanging around you is just nice. Plus, I would be able to see my childhood friends.
I never told people this because there is this weird shame about not doing the typical uni things and not forming an instant friend group and falling in love with where you live. So even though I don’t agree with the way Ruby does things and I do think she is regressing back to childhood, I would like to see more people talking about the less than average uni experience without being labelled a weirdo.
You can interact with men without being interested in dating them loltbh i’m probably in the minority here but i think a lack of male interaction is like the least weird thing about her
plus i don’t blame her- uni isn’t exactly the place where you’re going to find men worth spending your time around lol (and speaking from experience humanities courses also tend to be majority women)
Ruby not being able to talk to males is just part of the way she was socialised tbh. She went to a posh all girls school and it seems like she really doesn’t know how to interact with anyone who isn’t a middle class white girl from the home counties. Mummy and daddy made sure she never had to deal with any riff raff and then she went off to Exeter where she was easily able to find other rich, sheltered girls like herself to hang out with. I cannot imagine what it’s like to live in such a bubble tbh.
That commenter saying "clearly she's happy the way she is" - have they seen like, any of Ruby's recent content? Isn't it glaringly obvious that she's miserable? I mean, just look at her during that study with me video! That is not the face of a happy person lmaoComments? Just saw these on her recent Instagram post.
No I am not weight obsessed though it probably seems it
I went to an all girls' school (though not posh or private) and never particularly missed the presence of boys in that environment, but I have a brother and male relatives I saw often and went to a mixed youth group and later on worked with men and made male friends at uni. I think women have the right to engage with majority other women and in female only spaces if that's where they feel comfortable and safe but I think that those women have a societal understanding of gender roles and dynamics that they base that decision on whereas Ruby's avoidance of boys seems like a childlike fear (I used to be scared of my friends' older brothers to the extent that when one of them answered the door once I ran back to my own house but I was like 6 at the oldest).
Also Ruby's constant justification of going home sounds like something you'd hear from a first year in their first term, not from someone in their fourth year of university. I don't even remember her going home this regularly in her actual first year. That year of studying from home really set her back and it's actually quite sad to see her making no (or even negative) progress in her time at university. It's sad that her idea of looking after herself is hiding away in her childhood bedroom. It doesn't even seem like she spends time with her parents, just holes up editing her book. I had rough times at uni but exploring the city and grounding myself in a new place was one of the biggest helps for me during those times. It's hard, but if Ruby took the time to venture outside of Bird and Blend and Waterstones she might have a similar experience.
Also Ruby's constant justification of going home sounds like something you'd hear from a first year in their first term, not from someone in their fourth year of university. I don't even remember her going home this regularly in her actual first year. That year of studying from home really set her back and it's actually quite sad to see her making no (or even negative) progress in her time at university. It's sad that her idea of looking after herself is hiding away in her childhood bedroom. It doesn't even seem like she spends time with her parents, just holes up editing her book. I had rough times at uni but exploring the city and grounding myself in a new place was one of the biggest helps for me during those times. It's hard, but if Ruby took the time to venture outside of Bird and Blend and Waterstones she might have a similar experience.
lmao obviously but it’s not exactly a detriment to your life if you don’t. men aren’t that interesting
Exactly. I think a big part of it is that independence comes from immersing yourself in doing things entirely for yourself. When you go home a lot, you live your life differently because you know your week is broken into uni vs. home, at least that was my experience. You don't bother getting involved in extra-curricula/society activities because you know that you won't be around at weekends to do anything social. You put off doing chores like laundry because why bother doing it at uni when you can do it in a nicer washing machine at home? You don't bother exploring the area you live in because what was the point of finding fun locations/good restaurants if you won't be in the town often enough to enjoy them? During my undergrad, I spent so much time just counting down the days until I could go home again, so university time it felt like dead wasted time, like life at home was 'real' and life at uni was just a necessary burden. In my case however, I didn't like my course or uni location, and I had a lot of personal circumstances interplaying with this at the time.
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