Exactly!! Our third (& last!!) was a surprise baby as my older two were 8 & 11 when I fell pregnant with number three, I definitely wasn’t ready for the baby stage again & had a really awful recovery after birth. The youngest is now 3 and he’s just been diagnosed with non-verbal autism & having another child has put a huge strain on our relationship. It’s definitely not easy that’s for sure. I highly doubt Rebecca will make out that her life is anything less than perfect thoughNo there is no excuse for tricking anyone! I was soo done with the three we had (stepchild and two I grew) but we had a ‘surprise’ 4th baby and trust me it has not helped our relationship any. Not surprised he’s livid with her after all this