So, I do have a bit of a suspicion that perhaps she had been trying for a long time and maybe was trying to deflect with “we don’t want children” type comments but I think that’s probably the worst way to deal with it as it just then makes people question your authenticity when you eventually become pregnant.
I do think it’s uncomfortable answering questions about starting a family if you are struggling but you can just swerve the question/answer with “ooh we don’t know yet!” Or be honest about any difficulties you are having.
I mean the latter isn’t easy, and as someone who went through 6 years/6 rounds of IVF and countless embryo transfers to eventually have my child, I am quite private and didn’t want anyone to know about our struggle, but I just never brought up having children myself and just joked off any “when are you guys having kids?” comments with “don’t know really, I like wine too much at the moment to consider that lolololol” or something similar.
Taking a very anti-child stance publicly to detract from struggling to conceive doesn’t seem like a great idea.
And, on that note, as a member of the Tattle AC12 elite I’d like to call out “our fertility struggle” coming to a low rent Sunday supplement any time soon…