I think this is OTT. Niomi is essentially running a marketing business, how she chooses to do so is up to her.
Nobody should be looking to an influencer as to how to live their lives or react to a situation. If they do that’s their issue not Niomi’s unless she’s promoting something dangerous, illegal etc. I do have an issue with the fact that she seems to be photoshopping pics to make her look thinner, as I think it’s unethical & irresponsible. But how she reacts to a break-up is up to her.
If someone feels bad when competing themselves to an influencer they need to revise their own approach to social media, learn to take it with a pinch of salt.
She may be running a marketing business but her words/actions also impact a large, impressionable, and sometimes very vulnerable audience.
As you have probably seen from the comments on her ig and under her videos, people look up to her.
Ideally, no one should look up to anyone else regarding how they should live their life, but you're in denial if you think that someone you follow/keep up with has zero impact on your life. It's not simply our ''issue'' (as individuals) that an influencer is portraying an ideal that we feel unable to live up to. Comparing our lives to an influencer's is the natural consequence of following them, watching their videos, and generally consuming the media they share. It takes a considerably high level of awareness to realize how/when you're being subtly brainwashed by influencers, and few people have the ability to see that. Also, an influencer's power is stronger when you view them as a ''friend'' or an individual you have a connection with. Youtube Influencer's like Niomi, particuarly monetize their ''relatability'' by marketing themselves as your ''friend''. Hence, they owe their audiences a degree of honesty.
Most of the time, influencer's impact us subconciously, and we don't even realize it until we find ourselves buying the same tea, or getting our hair done at a place that was recommended by them. And there is nothing wrong with finding ourselves ''sucked in'' either, influencer's are paid generously to subtly condition our minds and spending habits. It's very simplistic to say that people should learn to take social media ''with a pinch of salt'' without considering how an influencer's content effects their audience, and highlighting the message the influencer is sending through their content. Niomi's need for perfection in absolutely everything, including breaking up with a man she was going to marry, is absurd.
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is dangerous b/c it sends a very toxic message. She's promoting that repressing negative emotions is okay, and is forcefully painting a false idea of ''strength'' and ''composure'' by not acknowledging her sadness, or even admitting aloud that this breakup has caused a difficult period for her.
She displays (and has displayed) an unrealistic and most unattainable ideals of every aspect in her life - from her relationship with Joe to her attitude with food/health/fitness. Frankly, it's ignorant to allude that people are
choosing to feel bad themselves by watching Niomi's videos. Yes, perhaps people can prevent themselves from watching her videos, but showing only perfection is pervasive within the Youtuber/influencer community.
Niomi gives a false, highly contrived impression of every event that occurs in her life - viewers are bound to feel bad about themselves if this is constantly promoted as ''normal''. The echo chambers that comment sections usually are, reinforce those negative feelings.
Lastly, I doubt most people are expecting her act like their bestie, and share secrets whilst painting toenails.
If she doesn't want to share, that's acceptable. She can simply say that they broke up and that she's upset - no explanation needed. However, all that rambling crap about ''time healing'' and being on the ''right path'' with an insipid smile, hollow laugh, and picture perfect PR statement is ridiculous. It's also offensive how gullible she probably imagines her viewers/fans are. As I explained, as an ''influencer'', she has a duty and responsibility to be honest with viewers.
I think the hate she has been given is absolutely ridiculous. It’s obvious that Joe broke up with her, she bound to be angry and upset. Hence the “shitstorm” comment which everyone on here seems to detest? You all are saying how she seems like a robot and everything seems rehearsed, yet when she makes an actual comment on how she feels (shitstorm) you all call her petty.
I send love her way, this is a terrible and horrid thing to go through. She isn’t okay and I believe that it is admirable that she is putting on a brave face for her audience.
She isn't putting on a brave face, she is in denial. Real bravery and courage is admitting the truth, no matter how difficult it is to digest. People like you who are applauding her for not being truthful with herself are causing her more harm than good. People detest the ''shitstorm'' comment, because it completely contradicts her ''perfect'' PR statement in her video addressing the breakup. She is showing herself to seemingly bounce back from a significant, disruptive event that occurred in her life as a minor inconvience, which she can simply brush off and pretend never occured. That is a horrible and toxic message to be spreading.
If you actually go through this thread, you will see that most of the people don't think she ''petty'' for showing her true emotions - firstly, she hasn't even done that yet. Secondly, people think she is ''petty'' for the contrived ''I'm so over him'' content that she keep pushing on her ig.
However, I'm sure most of the people here (including myself) will gain tons of respect for her, and stop criticising her if she is honest about the difficulty of her situation.