New baby and post birth advice #3

[orange club biscuit]

Thanks all - we had a loooong night (baby biscuit slept through the entire thing see attached) but they do think I have an infection. Thankfully not bad enough for IV antibiotics so I’m at home with tablets and dihydrocodiene trying to air my bits out lying on a towel 🥲

On the plus side, baby B has decided she’ll tolerate her Moses basket so husband and I can both sleep at the same time! We had our first family nap when we got back from hospital! Small wins

 

[orange club biscuit]

My baby sharted in my husband’s face earlier in the week. I almost wet myself laughing, my poor pelvic floor

 

[123456!!12/]

Thank you guys. Honestly, it’s good to know that even when it feels like nobody is listening or helping that there’s a little community on here that seem to bend over backwards to give advice and make me feel a little less shit. I really appreciate everyone pulling me out of the spiral I was heading down x

 

[Chickenandgravy]

She is an angel in the day so easy then 10/11 comes abs she kicks off cries also worried she has an intolerance or something because she is pooing once a day not loads of pops anymore but I’ve read that can happen she is doing lots of wees though. Married at first sight is getting me through this as a distraction and I’m glad it’s not just me I’m ok in the day then evening comes and I freak out x

Edit I’ve read one to four is fine maybe I’m just a nutter who worries too much x

Hannah does this at around the same time, usually because she is overtired though. Could that be the case with you're wee one? It's taken me this long to work out what her tired ques are so it helps if I can catch it early.

Also some days we go between no poos and 6 a day so I wouldn't worry x

Hannah is in a travel cot while we're away and omg she looks so small

 

[moimoi]

Omg last night during the night feed at 5:30am, I was breastfeeding and I hear a buzz. Thought it was a fly. It kept getting louder and buzzier so I looked at the nightstand and there was a bloody wasp in my haakaa! I jumped up from the bed with my breastfeeding cushion with baby still feeding and went to the living room where my partner sleeps as I co-sleep. Told him to get rid of it ASAP, he’s completely delirious after being woken up so suddenly. He managed to get it with the hoover as it flew out the haakaa. But ffs not what I could be arsed with.

 

[wakametango]

Sending hugs. I’m sorry you felt uncomfortable where you were, I think when you arrive somewhere (especially with a new baby!) and find people haven’t really remembered about you to save space etc it really then puts me in a bit of an off mood with everyone. I’m sure even if your husband doesn’t get it he’s supported your decision to leave anyway. Try and put it down to a bad experience with everyone, and don’t dwell too much on it xxx

What’s your number, I want you on WhatsApp for direct support from you
Joking, but you always reply so lovely with sound advice.
We all need Mummy Definitely x

 

[cj_ii]

My daughter is now 2 months old (she’s my second one, eldest is 4)
I’ve taken all of the newborn clothes out of her wardrobe. She will be my last baby, I thought I’d be really sad but all I’m feeling is relief.
Relief that I will never be pregnant again, never be postpartum again.
im excited for my girls to grow up together and excited to see their relationship grow.

 

[OIM]

So our specialist appt got brought forward today and baby officially has epilepsy. Feeling relieved we know what we are dealing with and hoping as she’s so young that starting medication now may mean she grows out of it.

 

[WhatABore]

Night time is when I struggle with patience.
Not in an angry sense really but emotionally.
I'm patient in everything else regarding parenting.
But when I want to sleep/need sleep and baby won't, I get so frustrated and I just sit and cry
Anything else, I can cope with completely.
Constant crying throughout the day, anything.
But that at night? Nooope

Everleigh keeps waking for a bottle at around 3am and will not go back to sleep until 6ish when she passes out again. But then my 3 year old gets up at 7. So I can't go back to sleep.
So most days this week, I've been awake since 3am

 

[Chickenandgravy]

It sounds like you’re working really hard at this, you should be so proud of yourself It’s not easy at all, and you’re giving it everything you’ve got. My only advice with bf is honestly stick a boob in there every time they start to grizzle even a tiny bit, even if it’s only 10 mins since the last feed, just pop her in every time she squeaks. Even if she only gets a little bit each time it all adds up. Some babies do feed more “snacky” than others. I know plenty of babies would happily go 3 or 4 hours between feeds but mine have always been snackers and like to have it every 3-4 minutes! So maybe your girl is the same if she is after frequent feeds?

I know people have said this before but honestly your advice is second to none you're like the mother hen of this thread ( I mean that in a nice way btw )

 

[OIM]

Having a nightmare with our 7 month old. She’s had 2 seizures in the last 2.5 weeks and then had a funny turn at nursery today where she went blue and eyes rolled back before passing out. Feel like we are living a the hospital or gps and getting no answers. She’s also not eating- she’s having maybe 8oz of milk in 24 hours. I went back to work last week and already been called out twice. My stress levels are so high!

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

Nervous for today, have my meeting with the Matron of the maternity department and will come face to face with the midwife that put my baby at danger hopefully I can get some closure from what happened

 

[Ilando]

3lb 3oz weight gain in 6 weeks! Makes persevering with breast feeding worth it.

Expressed for the first time last night. Slightly weird watching the machine do its thing and the noise it made- felt like a cow being milked!

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Been lying on the sofa cluster feeding since almost 5pm this evening....while my other half has all his pals over getting steaming. Times like these I really fucking hate him for how easy he has it.

Came in to see me there for the first time in a few hours and said aw ill take her for you...eh 1) you don't have tits and 2) you're absolutely out your face so what in all that is holy makes you think I'm going to hand over our 7 week old to you?!

IM SO PISSED OFF (and tired and my nipples feel like they are going to fall off at any moment)

 

[Kitt]

Finn slept 10:30-3:30 then 4:20-8:20. Wow! I think it was much needed after not sleeping AT ALL yesterday day time and literally screaming all evening til he finally passed out at 10:30. Peaks and troughs haha

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Hi ladies, I feel like a bit of a fraud joining I should still be pregnant and still don't feel like I'm the twins mum whilst I'm in NICU. But for any one who has had nicu babies does the guilt of leaving them and not being the one caring for them all the time ever leave you? I'm not sleeping because I just feel so immensely guilty I'm not with them and it's giving me the most awful headaches that when i do go to NICU I'm struggling with the noises

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Hey everyone it’s my first post on here since having my baby just over a week ago! I am loving being a mum and I have never loved my partner more watching him with her abs how attentive he is even if he did record me snoring and dribbling this afternoon.
This is such an odd thing to say but has anyone had the feeling when they wake up that they are still holding their baby abs have to looking him or her I know she’s in the cot but it’s like my arm is still holding her x

 

[Definitelyme]

Hopefully you're on your feet soon!
I had such low blood pressure after my second after losing loads of blood. And they're they're telling me to stand up to stand on the scales.
Come on love. I can't even stand up and balance on the ground. Nevermind standing on some scales!
Everytime I stood up, I either started swaying, or plonked back down again

Why the hell do you need to be on a set of scales straight after having a baby anyway?!

I think i may have told this story on here before, but it fits with the theme so…

After my first I lost more blood than they realised (I ended up needing two transfusions). They were keen for me to be up and have a shower so even though I felt rubbish I went on in. Had been in about 30 seconds and suddenly realised I was going to pass out. I just remember sliding down the wall, yanking the red emergency cord I come to, shower still running, me bleeding everywhere and FOUR midwives round me. They each grabbed a limb to haul me out because, despite their repeatedly telling me to get up, every time I even sat up I passed out again. So they had to carry me out to the bed while I was naked, soaking wet and bleeding everywhere. Such dignity

 

[Kitt]

Literally can’t cope tonight. I’m rubbish at burping my own baby. Why can’t I do it

 

[Definitelyme]

Might have to go for that one then. I’m used to injections!

I just wanna say also, thank you to all of those for your support last week. It really means a lot and also is a real testament to yourselves as people because my real life friends weren’t as supportive. Well, they weren’t judgemental or anything but just seemed to turn everything back on themselves so I struggled to open up.
I’m sorry I’m not on this thread much either, I guess as a first time mum sometimes I feel out of my depth & don’t want to say something wrong to another new mum & potentially cause a problem for them. I do try & be supportive where I can for people on here but I have been through a pretty crap time and find it hard to even get up & keep going everyday.
just know, I’m always reading and lingering & it’s lovely to read others supportive responses & how much you’re all smashing it!

I’m sorry to hear about your friends. I think sometimes it’s so much easier to say things online to strangers
And never any need to apologise, people take what they need and give what they can to a thread like this. But remember no matter if you’re a first time or tenth time mum, none of us know it all and we all have wisdom to share x